Trevster Posted April 4, 2011 Posted April 4, 2011 My girlfriend of 3 years broke up with me about 3 weeks ago! I was lied about and it was her final straw! At first for these past 3 weeks iv been trying to get her back by doing anything possible! She kept saying she can't do this anymore, or it's not healthy, or even I'm not happy anymore! Seems odd to me because 3 days before this we were still talking about our kids we will have one day when we are married! She is 21 and I am 19 but she looks really young and she has alot of kid in her! I even came to college with her and we have spent the past 3 years together non stop and we both have loved it! I haven't always been the best boyfriend but she has always beene everything! I look really good as a guy and could go get another girl but I really feel like god has lead me to her because we were led together through friends in an amazing way. It all happened out of no where like I feel like we needed this to really become closer and hopefully me get a new beginning with her because she has given me chances before but I want to start all new with her and live pure in gods name with her! But recently she has taken all our pictures off her Facebook and she even deleted me! My aunt kept saying something on her pictures so I think she felt overwhelmed but she took me off but my family members are still her friends! She also went out with her younger sister and her friends and took pictures with her sisters guy friends and put them up which really hurt me but she isn't the type of girl to go get someone else! Yes the past 3 weeks I have given space here and there but really I would write her a note or email her or even talk to her friends about us! I know talking to her friends would bite me I'm the butt because she texted me yesterday and said " we aren't getting back together and I don't like you texting other people because it's just causing more problems" but none of this sounds like her! I could easily find another girl but I really know this is the women for me but I don't know what I should do now! I can't breathe without her love!!! Please help please!!!!
geegirl Posted April 4, 2011 Posted April 4, 2011 (edited) My girlfriend of 3 years broke up with me about 3 weeks ago! I was lied about and it was her final straw! At first for these past 3 weeks iv been trying to get her back by doing anything possible! She kept saying she can't do this anymore, or it's not healthy, or even I'm not happy anymore! Seems odd to me because 3 days before this we were still talking about our kids we will have one day when we are married! She is 21 and I am 19 but she looks really young and she has alot of kid in her! I even came to college with her and we have spent the past 3 years together non stop and we both have loved it! I haven't always been the best boyfriend but she has always beene everything! I look really good as a guy and could go get another girl but I really feel like god has lead me to her because we were led together through friends in an amazing way. It all happened out of no where like I feel like we needed this to really become closer and hopefully me get a new beginning with her because she has given me chances before but I want to start all new with her and live pure in gods name with her! But recently she has taken all our pictures off her Facebook and she even deleted me! My aunt kept saying something on her pictures so I think she felt overwhelmed but she took me off but my family members are still her friends! She also went out with her younger sister and her friends and took pictures with her sisters guy friends and put them up which really hurt me but she isn't the type of girl to go get someone else! Yes the past 3 weeks I have given space here and there but really I would write her a note or email her or even talk to her friends about us! I know talking to her friends would bite me I'm the butt because she texted me yesterday and said " we aren't getting back together and I don't like you texting other people because it's just causing more problems" but none of this sounds like her! I could easily find another girl but I really know this is the women for me but I don't know what I should do now! I can't breathe without her love!!! Please help please!!!! I'm sorry but I felt suffocated just reading your post. I can only imagine what she feels. It doesn't matter that you believe she is the woman for you, the reality is that she does not want to be in a relationship with you. You can't clap with one hand. She is telling you point blank that she does not want to get back together and to stop texting her friends. Step away from her and her friends. One thing you are doing for sure is that you are driving her further and further away. The more you behave in this obsessive way, the more she will resent you. Don't get carried away with how you met when the stars aligned and the heavens opened. You met because you met. Relationships end. Relationships last forever. Unfortunately yours is ending. People change. Their needs and wants change. Their feelings change. Their goals change. Their future plans change. Nothing remains the same. She may be the perfect fit for you but unfortunately she does not feel the same about you. You cannot force what you want and believe down her throat. You have to respect her decision and move on. I know it hurts and it feels like your world has ended. But you have to get a grip. When a relationship ends, along comes a world of pain and hurt. Something you just have to go through. No other way around it. Have no contact with her and her friends. If you keep nagging her or her friends, you are driving her further away and making yourself look very desperate. And it is "her" telling you to stop. It's not someone else. It is "her". Edited April 5, 2011 by geegirl
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