Celestine Posted April 4, 2011 Posted April 4, 2011 I had a discussion with a friend today that had me think about (mostly online) communication in the early stages of dating someone new when there's still a lot of uncertainty how the other person feels. As one of the girls who hold back with texting, calling and Facebook-messaging, I often wonder how long a guy tries until he gives up contacting you. My friend tells me I'm missing out on a lot of good guys because I do not just send a text when I think of him until I'm pretty sure he likes me too. That does not me that I don't communicate, I always reply and I text when I really have something to say or ask. Is there such a thing as "under-texting"? Another thing we were discussing is the Facebook chat. I generally like to keep conversation on there rather short, for some reasons. One is that the other person has to reply instantly and in the early stages when you do not know the other person particularly well there's lots of room for misinterpretation. What do you think? I just generally think Facebook is not really good for communicating because of several things that I observe with myself: 1. When the guy I like is online and he doesn't talk to me, I freak out and keep wondering why he didn't. 2. When I talk to a guy and he ends the conversation but continues to be online, I start to analyze if he might not like me because he doesn't have three hour convos with me like my girlfriends do. 3. When I message someone and he doesn't respond, I freak out, only to get a message some hours later, that the other person didn't see it because he had a billion other sites open. Yeah, I'm an overthinker... totally Any opinions on this?
Hules Posted April 4, 2011 Posted April 4, 2011 Yeah I got good advice for you on this. Turn facebook chat off its evil . Send him a private message through facebook instead then he wont feel pressured to reply right away.
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