hurley21 Posted April 4, 2011 Posted April 4, 2011 I've read a lot of the posts on here and I am 26, now getting out of my second, abusive long term relationship. As far as I can tell, there is a serious theme here... cheaters, selfish, drug users, abused as a kid, emotional/physical abusers, threats, no ambition, etc. Is it really that half of the people ages 16-35 are cruel and selfish abusers? Or is it the AGE of these people? I am beginning to think that the period of major life changes, the 'finding yourself' time, leads to bad relationships. People just don't seem to know HOW to love properly. Any thoughts on this? I'm not saying people just not be responsible for their actions, especially when they hurt others, but it definitely seems like there is a pattern that goes beyond everyone's individual relationship...
OnceTwice Posted April 4, 2011 Posted April 4, 2011 My girlfriend of 6 years broke up with me not too long ago because she felt like she hasn't experienced her youth and grown as an individual. We met when we were just 14 so you can imagine we experienced our firsts of everything together. What I'm saying is that non serious relationships could very well work, but from my own experience and understanding, long term relationships are tough for young people. We just haven't experienced life enough to really appreciate the significant other. I miss my ex....
chris1987 Posted April 5, 2011 Posted April 5, 2011 I am in the same boat as the person above. Met at 14 dated for 6 years. I got her a brand new car, a free place to live, took care of her when her burn the crap out of her shelf and she was sick, paid her bills. I never rased a hand to her or abused her in any way. But none the less she thought there are greener pastures. I miss her .
sweetblubrry Posted April 5, 2011 Posted April 5, 2011 I'm 26 and I think dating is hell. I just want to skip it altogether. I just got out of a relationship because he left me for "finding time". UGH... I hate that. It isn't the first time it has happened to me. I'd rather be alone the rest of my life than go thru the dating (especially online) again. Is that sad? Also most of my single older coworkers say it only gets worse as you get older. Great.
Author hurley21 Posted April 5, 2011 Author Posted April 5, 2011 That's what I'm thinking! Its easier to just be alone, at least until I am in my late 30's and the likelihood of people being more relationship ready is there.
Sake Posted April 5, 2011 Posted April 5, 2011 (edited) My girlfriend of 6 years broke up with me not too long ago because she felt like she hasn't experienced her youth and grown as an individual. We met when we were just 14 so you can imagine we experienced our firsts of everything together. What I'm saying is that non serious relationships could very well work, but from my own experience and understanding, long term relationships are tough for young people. We just haven't experienced life enough to really appreciate the significant other. I miss my ex.... my ex of 3 years (all through highschool) left me for a 21 year old who has a car, money and takes her pretty much everywhere and buys her whatever she wants as soon as she turned 18. I loved her dearly, she meant everything to me but I guess conformity finally hit her and she changed her personality to match her friend's. When she broke up with me these were her exact words "I'm young and just want to have fun, I'm not looking for a relationship", then BAM, 3-4 weeks later new boyfriend. Edited April 5, 2011 by Sake
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