Derek12b Posted April 4, 2011 Posted April 4, 2011 Here's the problem, my wife and I are separated and we're doing a 50/50 thing right now. The problem is, she moved back into her moms house and just 4 months ago I caught her in an online affair with her step dad. This was after her affair with our neighbor 2 years ago. If this guys morals are so low as to hit on his step daughter, are my kids safe and do I have a chance to get them back in their house? Do I have legal ground to ask for custody to get them back? In every way they're better off living at home. Plz give some advise because I need it. I'll read some comments of people with knowledge on this subject and call the lawyer today if needed. Thanks.
Author Derek12b Posted April 4, 2011 Author Posted April 4, 2011 If you care to know the background story just do a search under my username and you can read my old threads that lead up to this. Thanks again.
highviolet Posted April 4, 2011 Posted April 4, 2011 Here's the problem, my wife and I are separated and we're doing a 50/50 thing right now. The problem is, she moved back into her moms house and just 4 months ago I caught her in an online affair with her step dad. This was after her affair with our neighbor 2 years ago. If this guys morals are so low as to hit on his step daughter, are my kids safe and do I have a chance to get them back in their house? Do I have legal ground to ask for custody to get them back? In every way they're better off living at home. Plz give some advise because I need it. I'll read some comments of people with knowledge on this subject and call the lawyer today if needed. Thanks. JMO, but I don't think that becasue a guy hits on his adult stepdaughter that it is grounds to say he is going to mess with your kids. Not saying what he did was right or morally good or even non-creepy, but I don't see how you could make that jump.
Author Derek12b Posted April 4, 2011 Author Posted April 4, 2011 JMO, but I don't think that becasue a guy hits on his adult stepdaughter that it is grounds to say he is going to mess with your kids. Not saying what he did was right or morally good or even non-creepy, but I don't see how you could make that jump. Maybe your right, I just want to make sure my girls are in good hands and not in any kind of danger....thats my job! Thanks for the advice.
Analyser Posted April 4, 2011 Posted April 4, 2011 I hate to point out the obvious here, but he is not your only concern. It takes two to tango.
Author Derek12b Posted April 4, 2011 Author Posted April 4, 2011 I hate to point out the obvious here, but he is not your only concern. It takes two to tango. I don't understand, elaborate please?
Author Derek12b Posted April 4, 2011 Author Posted April 4, 2011 I hate to point out the obvious here, but he is not your only concern. It takes two to tango. Oh, I'm well aware it takes two to tango, the question is....can I get my kids. I could care less who the wife sees, I just don't want my kids to be subject to all the drama that can potentially go on there.
highviolet Posted April 4, 2011 Posted April 4, 2011 Oh, I'm well aware it takes two to tango, the question is....can I get my kids. I could care less who the wife sees, I just don't want my kids to be subject to all the drama that can potentially go on there. I totally get where you're coming from, I would be worried about my kids too in a household like that, but I don't think it puts them in any real danger. And unfortunately, trying to protect your girls from potential adult drama isn't enough to legally do anything, I don't think. It sucks, but if I were you, I would just keep my eyes and ears open to anything that would signal them actually being in any danger. I hope your ex has a little responsibility to keep y'alls kids safe and away from the drama, but then again she sounds like a pretty selfish person. No offense.
Tiberius Posted April 5, 2011 Posted April 5, 2011 Only because the law says he is a step dad does not necessarily mean they have that kind of relationship, especially if her dad dad was still in her life, even if it was only on a weekly basis.
Author Derek12b Posted April 5, 2011 Author Posted April 5, 2011 Only because the law says he is a step dad does not necessarily mean they have that kind of relationship, especially if her dad dad was still in her life, even if it was only on a weekly basis. I'm not sure I understand. What statement were you referring too? My wifes real dad is dead. It was her step-dad that was hitting on her. I have all the emails. She is now staying with her mom and step-dad and we are sharing the kids 50/50 and I guarantee her mom has no clue of the email that were sent to her daughter by her husband. I'm looking for a way to get primary custody of my girls. This is their house. I need to enroll my oldest in school this way she really has some ties here in the county we are in.
Tiberius Posted April 5, 2011 Posted April 5, 2011 Oh I thought your wifes stepdad was hitting on your wife. I think you should inform the authorities if you think any adult male is hitting on your underage girls. The courts are going to look at who will pay the most child support for maximum revenue.
FreeNow Posted April 5, 2011 Posted April 5, 2011 Oh my has our society broken down this far!?! A grown woman with children is being overtly hit on in a sexual way by her own stepfather and has her children living (at least in part) in the same home as this man. She hasn't stopped him from the behavior either. She has some serious issues with enforcing her own boundaries. She strikes me as of similar mindset to those women that allow their boyfriends to harm their children or that recent one that committed sex acts on camera to lure a man. OMFG! She shouldn't have those children even a minute unsupervised. Go to an attorney, tell him about the emails and be ready to produce copies for him to read. Maybe the local court will be insensitive to the glaring issue with her behavior but maybe they won't. The attorney will be able to give a reasonable guess as to how the local courts will probably view such activities. If the attorney can't even venture an educated guess than pick a different attorney. If it were me, I'd seek legal counsel and keep my mouth shut about it to my wife. When I planned everything out and had everything in order, I'd drop the hammer on the situation to protect myself and the children. All the while, I'd manipulate the hell out of the STBXwife and anybody else involved if necessary. I'd tell her whatever she needed to hear to keep her placated until the children were safe enough. Your wife reads like an immature, spoiled, self centered attention whore that won't ever be right in the head until she has years of solid therapy... if even then.
Tiberius Posted April 5, 2011 Posted April 5, 2011 I think you are going overboard. Stepfather is a legal construct. If they dont feel like father and daughter to each other, then thats their buisness. Society started breaking down since marriage went overboard and it was all about how much child support and assets you could squeeze out of your ex. However children are involved how might see a grandfather in the stepdad and he is playing doctor with mommy. Like everybody else said, get legal counsel on this one.
FreeNow Posted April 5, 2011 Posted April 5, 2011 Although I agree with the rest of your post, I disagree with the overboard opinion. Yes, 'step' is a construct, however, it *is* a boundary. What is to keep one of the kids from shagging a stepchild in the future. After all, mommy and stepgrandpa carried on a bit. The woman is sick. She need not be a major influence in the lives of their children. He has an opportunity to protect the children as much as possible. It looks like he's going to give that his bet shot.
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