rebe217 Posted April 4, 2011 Posted April 4, 2011 The Story So I met this guy about a month and half ago and we immediately hit it off and start dating and have the best fun together. He is on business in my state and that's how we meet and start a casual relationship because we both wanted nothing serious. I find out a week into dating that he lives in the same state that I'm wanting to go to college but I am so freaked out by the coincidence, so I don't tell him anything about my plans. He starts to develop strong feelings for me and knows his work project here is ending soon and tells me one day he's feeling too attached and long distance would not work for us and backs out because another girl likes him and wants to date him. He tells me if he permentantly lived here he knows we would be together and says inside he wants that with me because he feels like I'm his best friend. I then tell him about my plans reguardless whether or not we work out about going to college to make a life for myself in his same state that he'll leave to when his project here is over. He acts surprised and told me he would look me up and find me when I get there. I broke things off with him and told him I will need space. He informs me he wants to spend time with me before he leaves, so I told him we can do that. The last thing he says to me when he drops me off at my house is that he thinks he's making a mistake and I tell him goodbye for now. I finally give him about a week and my head is cleared. My phone gets stolen off of me and I loose all my numbers. So I contact him to let him know that is what happened and I would like his new number to get in contact before he leaves in about a month. He sounds happy to hear from me and tells me in the email that sounds good about getting in touch soon. So when I do the next 5 days later after I get another phone, he acts all weird and replies that he got my new number and to talk to me later. That was not the response I was expecting. Why is he acting so weird? Any suggestions on what I should do? I'd like to be friends since I'm moving to the same state he is because it's really far from the state I'm in now. P.S. We also have some weird coincidences - we share the same birthday, same eye color, and family history. We also act like a married couple naturally whenever we spend time together.
threebyfate Posted April 4, 2011 Posted April 4, 2011 rebe, after typing that all out and rereading it, can you see what's going on?
Author rebe217 Posted April 4, 2011 Author Posted April 4, 2011 I don't get what's going on that's why I asked for advice.
threebyfate Posted April 4, 2011 Posted April 4, 2011 The Story So I met this guy about a month and half ago and we immediately hit it off and start dating and have the best fun together. He is on business in my state and that's how we meet and start a casual relationship because we both wanted nothing serious. I find out a week into dating that he lives in the same state that I'm wanting to go to college but I am so freaked out by the coincidence, so I don't tell him anything about my plans. He starts to develop strong feelings for me and knows his work project here is ending soon and tells me one day he's feeling too attached and long distance would not work for us and backs out because another girl likes him and wants to date him. He tells me if he permentantly lived here he knows we would be together and says inside he wants that with me because he feels like I'm his best friend. I then tell him about my plans reguardless whether or not we work out about going to college to make a life for myself in his same state that he'll leave to when his project here is over. He acts surprised and told me he would look me up and find me when I get there. I broke things off with him and told him I will need space. He informs me he wants to spend time with me before he leaves, so I told him we can do that. The last thing he says to me when he drops me off at my house is that he thinks he's making a mistake and I tell him goodbye for now. I finally give him about a week and my head is cleared. My phone gets stolen off of me and I loose all my numbers. So I contact him to let him know that is what happened and I would like his new number to get in contact before he leaves in about a month. He sounds happy to hear from me and tells me in the email that sounds good about getting in touch soon. So when I do the next 5 days later after I get another phone, he acts all weird and replies that he got my new number and to talk to me later. That was not the response I was expecting. Why is he acting so weird? Any suggestions on what I should do? I'd like to be friends since I'm moving to the same state he is because it's really far from the state I'm in now. P.S. We also have some weird coincidences - we share the same birthday, same eye color, and family history. We also act like a married couple naturally whenever we spend time together.I've bolded all the pertinent items. The rest is moot. Translation: He wasn't looking for anything serious. Advice: Move on.
folieadeux Posted April 4, 2011 Posted April 4, 2011 ^^ Totally agree. That and the fact that you're moving to be with someone you've pretty much just met? Something just doesn't add up.
TokyoG33kyGal Posted April 5, 2011 Posted April 5, 2011 well i have nothing more to add except that i think when people say they are not looking for a serious relationship, they should stick with that and not act surprised why the other person is acting hot and cold.
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