shanemike88 Posted April 4, 2011 Posted April 4, 2011 Hello Everybody. I just needed some advice on a current situation that I am in with my on again off again girlfriend of almost 3 years. First of all let me just say I love the girl so much and I really go out of my way to make her happy. If we fight I'm the one who calls and makes everything better. Anyway I had to get some information from an ex girlfriend (we broke up four years ago and she's now married). This information was related to a job that I applied for and it needed to know all my personal background. Anyway when I received her information I thanked her via text and she said if I needed anything else to let her know. My response back was I should be ok now that i have that information but thanks anyway. Afterwards I told my current girlfriend that I had contacted her to thank her and she was fine with it. Well the other day my girlfriend decided to look through my phone while I was in the shower (which has done in the past) and saw the texts. She accused me of "carrying on the conversation." Nothing I said was inappropriate and she basically wants out again. If something I said was inappropriate I could completely understand why she is so angry but I put everything out in the open prior. I really don't know what I should do because I feel this is just petty. I'm I wrong?
carhill Posted April 4, 2011 Posted April 4, 2011 Potentials: 1. She talked to a 'friend' about your texts. 2. She was looking for a 'reason' 3. Temporary insanity I'd say to accede to her want.
1784 Posted April 4, 2011 Posted April 4, 2011 You're not wrong at all, bro. There is zero trust on her part. The fact that she is sifting through your text messages is a terrible sign. The fact that you seem to be okay with it is worse. I'm all for honesty but when someone starts snooping in on their own bf/gf that's never good. You even were upfront enough to TELL her that you had contacted your ex. That's good, solid honesty and trust on your part. You didn't do anything wrong here. She failed... UNLESS you have done shady things in the past to "ask" for this type of behavior. Other than that, though, you're in the clear. You are not wrong.
dreamingoftigers Posted April 4, 2011 Posted April 4, 2011 You hit a trigger. Truly she could be a half-decent girlfriend but something there piqued some trust issues. You can just stay non-reactive to it and wait until she regains her sanity or you can throw in the towel. Anything between the two really isn't going to help. Don't even bother defending yourself. Oh, don't think for 10 seconds that I am saying that you are in the wrong. That's not what I am getting at, just when someone's security gets jumpy to the point where they are saying "Out! Out!" You really can only be non-reactive and patient or put their stuff out on the curb.
1784 Posted April 4, 2011 Posted April 4, 2011 OTOH, it could have something to do with this Ahhhhhh. Well that sure lends it self to different interpretation... IF the current gf has any inkling about it.
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