jayjay7 Posted April 4, 2011 Posted April 4, 2011 Hi everyone, i suppose this is partly a rant and partly seeking advice. I've been with my partner for 3 years and we have been having quite a few problems recently we moved back to england after meeting abroad and have been here for 18 months, in all this time we had nowhere to live and I have been living out of a suitcase the whole time staying with different people. We've been staying at a friend of his house and he works now in the area, I on the other hand couldnt get a job because don't have a permamnent address and keep getting moved all the time. Anyway he takes it that I've been nagging and gets really angry with me when I say we need to live somewhere permanently so I can get a job...my whole life is on hold at the minute...i don't have a job, don't drive, nowhere to live, no money etc. We're having money troubles too...he hadn't checked a single bank statement since we've been back and hadn't noticed till last month that his ex has been taking money out regulary which now amounts up to thousands. So yesterday i went to meet my one and only friend who i havn't seen since we moved back...he didn't want to go because she knew my ex (I don't see the problem as I have meet all his friends who all know his ex), and i got upset about it and said fine i would get the train...i asked for some money to get there and he gave me some but it wasn't enough for a return ticket...i said quite prickely that he gives me pennies but lets his ex take thousands and doesnt do anything about it. Anyway the next thing I know he's packing my bags, loading the car and took me to my grandmothers. I just don't know what to do now. She lives in sheltered accomodation with just one bedroom so i can't stay here (not allowed to either if the association found out). She's away at the moment (for about another week) and doesnt know im here . I have no job, no house, just a suitcase of stuff. I have £10 in my purse and no food. Is this all my fault?
Author jayjay7 Posted April 4, 2011 Author Posted April 4, 2011 Now I'm getting messages asking if I am ok from him. Is he joking?! What do I do? I know if I don't answer he will say I'm being unreasonable and uncaring..he always turns it around and makes it my fault
dreamingoftigers Posted April 4, 2011 Posted April 4, 2011 You know what? Don't think that I am not empathetic in this situation because I absolutely am. You aren't going to die from this. Find some way to get food, settle somewhere get a job and punt his ass to the curb. Be done with him he is a jackass that encourages you to mooch off of everyone. Tough it out for the month or so that it takes you to get established. It isn't your fault that he is a dick but it is your fault that you allowed yourself to become dependent on him and his decision-making. Tough it out and never, ever let someone have this much sway in your life again.
Author jayjay7 Posted April 4, 2011 Author Posted April 4, 2011 Thanks for spelling it out for me..you're right..I started from scratch before he came along and I'm sure I can do it again. Just the kick up the backside I needed. I'm going to try and not wallow in self pity. I really don't know how I let it get this far, I worked 3 jobs before we were together and put myself through university and paid my own rent and bills.
dreamingoftigers Posted April 4, 2011 Posted April 4, 2011 Ha ha ha, Just like me but I didn't end up finishing university due to mental health reasons at the time. Get back to yourself girl or this guy or the next dummy will do the same. BTW, find out how it got this far and don't do it over!
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