BeginAgain Posted April 5, 2011 Posted April 5, 2011 Not if they only got that way by hiding out in there Ma's basement playing video games. So you would prefer a guy who has been around a lot of people but is asexual... Unless sexual frustration is your fetish that's pretty ridiculous.
Mr.Cairo Posted April 5, 2011 Posted April 5, 2011 I have many friends of all ages but the younger ones say under 30 LOVE, LOVE video games more than women. I have seen it first hand. They are dating sweet young things and would rather kill zombies than play with her. They ignore her and play the games. I was visiting one night about a year ago and she was pestering him about going to the beach with a bottle of wine to sit on a blanket and watch the sunset. He wouldnt go no matter what she did. She even said to him that you will get laid for sure and he just laughed at her. He never went and she was pissed the entire evening. I suspect its for the same reason that almost all men like porn. They dont have to interact with her, negotiate with her, take into consideration her feelings, etc...Its because they are all wrapped in themselves and dont have to care for another human being. Do a search on Google and there are quite a number of studies on it. It's not as much as you are saying, but more to do with the human condition. Human beings adore pleasure. That's why so many people do the wildest things when they are flooded with the chemical known as love. The thing with video games is that it produces a chemical high almost as powerful as an orgasm and men, being the benefits/costs analyzers that they are, realize that video gaming/sports//hanging out with the buddies, are far more rewarding because these activities provide those feel-good chemicals, and also, an emotional high almost as powerful as an orgasm/sex, with none of the risks sex bring: stds, unwanted pregnancy, false rape report, the time and the resources spend on women. These guys aren't selfish. They've simply found something that gives them the pleasure they seek, without any of the risks. Are you going to tell me that the women who indulge in serial monogamy or in casual dating/sex aren't selfish - since you assume that the search for pleasure is, when it comes to men, human greed and lack of consideration for the opposite sex? Or because, sex is an activity shared by two, and possibly by you, the women who are that much into relationships(which provides pleasure, resources etc),aren't shallow or 'inconsiderate'? The problem is that the patriarchy doesn't allow men to understand this. That they can live very fulfilling lives without women and without sex, but instead, it's pumped into their heads that they must have at least a girlfriend. Or something is lacking, which leads to women having these complains and such. The funny thing is that I notice this with my younger brothers. They are in their teens and in their early 20's, but thanks to my father's interest in video games, they grew up surrounded by computers, video gaming consoles, and the INTERNET. So instead of chasing after women like a normal 16 year old boy would do, my brothers spend their time playing video games(and who knew that video games could be a source of income). If this is happening to males who are in their sexual prime, with amazingly high levels of Testosterone, I wonder what is happening to the men older than 25. Oh, well. More women for me to make happy! Can't say I'm bitter about it:lmao:.
sally4sara Posted April 5, 2011 Posted April 5, 2011 So you would prefer a guy who has been around a lot of people but is asexual... No. You are confused by English. It makes me grin.
Mr.Cairo Posted April 5, 2011 Posted April 5, 2011 I think it's because you have to either settle on looks or personality. If you settle on personality, and get a good looking girl, you'll get someone without substance. If you settle on looks, and get someone with a good personality, you won't be able to get it up in the bedroom. Maybe this is a 28 year old virgin talking, and certainly the female naked form is attractive. But it's virtually impossible to find a good looking girl who ALSO has a good personality. Yes, that 's the 28 year old virgin in you talking. You're probably aware that there are many young, attractive women in college, and that not all of them are taking Psychology degrees. Go look for a woman who is into the hardcore sciences. You'll find the woman with the looks, the brains, and the personality, but I'd doubt she'd be interested in you since you have that opinion of good looks, dull personality.
Titania22 Posted April 5, 2011 Posted April 5, 2011 - Starcraft (Only played version 1 in my high school days though, haven't played SC2 yet. I like it because it's like advanced real time chess.) Hey Nexus One, If you decide to play StarCraft2 I will be more than happy to play some custom games with you.
Mr.Cairo Posted April 5, 2011 Posted April 5, 2011 (edited) Hey Nexus One, If you decide to play StarCraft2 I will be more than happy to play some custom games with you. Unless sexual frustration is your fetish that's pretty ridiculous.[/b] It's been suggested by studies conducted on porn, that the more porn a Country consumes, the less molestation occurs. When you think of all the sexual drive most males have in their teens, and the lack of opportunity to fulfill that sex drive - for whatever reason - but you also notice that the young guys, despite that, aren't out there dragging women by the hair etc, you understand that porn provides the sexual escapade that most guys want. There are plenty of guys who discovered porn in their teens and never crossed the road from porn to sex because they saw through their friends etc how much complicated sexual interaction/emotional interaction there can be with the opposite sex, and porn, although not being as good as sex, is good enough for them. Think of Pizza. Who would take Pizza over caviar? But who has the money or the will to have that caviar? And why, even if one has the money, spend the money and the will when the pizza fills your belly at a much cheaper price? Starcraft is like a cult. Despite it being so old, it allows some people to make a living out of it. I've even heard of tournaments having as the first prize, 20k. Woah. Edited April 5, 2011 by Mr.Cairo
Titania22 Posted April 5, 2011 Posted April 5, 2011 @MrCairo, what does that have to do with my comment?
Mr.Cairo Posted April 5, 2011 Posted April 5, 2011 @MrCairo, what does that have to do with my comment? It could be that I replied to that comment about Starcraft but saw the post, my reply pertains to, and decided to reply back to it. It would explain the sentence about starcraft and the rest of the post not being about this subject.
BeginAgain Posted April 6, 2011 Posted April 6, 2011 No. You are confused by English. It makes me grin. No, I am not confused by English. Your logic is flawed. You don't want the man with little sexual history because of him being introverted and you made an off-handed, misandristic comment based on a tired old cliche to describe him. Clearly you hate introverts. The only other man with little sexual history is an extrovert but he has little to no libido, i.e. asexual, accounting for his much shorter hit list. Maybe you meant the comment completely as a sarcastic joke that wasn't really all that funny. I don't hold that against you or your sex. I don't expect comedy gold from the other sex.
Titania22 Posted April 6, 2011 Posted April 6, 2011 I don't expect comedy gold from the other sex. No need to be mean. We try our best. I would love to be more funny, I just don't know how.
Mutant Debutante Posted April 6, 2011 Posted April 6, 2011 ouch that kinda hurts. Anyways, I don't think its the women who are just shallow. I think men can be shallow and not good conversationalists as well. They seem to only chat about ONE thing only and their interests are limited. General knowledge is not there as well. I have plenty of good friends who are great looking but have quite nice personalities. But of course, their husbands and bfs are successful and good looking. Yeah, there's a lot of sexist BS in this thread. But this place has kind of turned into Sexist Bull**** Central so it's not a big shock. I mean, men generally want to talk about astrophysics and women just like to talk about hair and celebrity gossip? Really? THAT'S the generalization that one guy wants to run with? Whatta maroon. I for one can't say that most of the men I run into on a daily basis are frustrated astrophysicists just looking for a little understanding. Me, I do like things like hair and shoes and fashion and makeup, partly because that's actually my JOB. I'm a costume designer. But hey, like most girls I've actually got a few other things to say. I'm not much for astrophysics, that's true, but I can talk about theater, design, history, literature, comparative religion, cooking, gardening, the psychology of child development, the American family court system and maybe a lot of other things some of these guys smugging about girls only talking about makeup probably know nothing about. My theory is if a guy thinks his gf is so much annoying drama he's going to try to escape from her and disrespect her by ignoring her, he should just DUMP her already instead of acting like a jackhole for months or years. And my other theory is that most of the guys who bitch about how most women are too much drama and girls only talk about makeup and shoes anyway are probably doing us girls a major freaking favor by opting out of the gene pool in order to play WoW, anyway, so thumbs up boys! Keep playing!
BeginAgain Posted April 6, 2011 Posted April 6, 2011 (edited) No need to be mean. We try our best. I would love to be more funny, I just don't know how.I am not being mean but it is just a statement of fact. Women tend not to be funny. One reason is they are trying too hard to be respectable. Second reason is guy culture is built upon humor especially nasty humor so there is quite a bit of competition. A competitive environment breeds better comedy. Yeah, there's a lot of sexist BS in this thread. But this place has kind of turned into Sexist Bull**** Central so it's not a big shock. I mean, men generally want to talk about astrophysics and women just like to talk about hair and celebrity gossip? Really? THAT'S the generalization that one guy wants to run with? Whatta maroon. I for one can't say that most of the men I run into on a daily basis are frustrated astrophysicists just looking for a little understanding. Astrophysicists...star war/tekkie fans...same difference. Me, I do like things like hair and shoes and fashion and makeup, partly because that's actually my JOB. I'm a costume designer. But hey, like most girls I've actually got a few other things to say.I like to see women in a variety of styles because of attraction and I enjoy seeing different imagery/art. Still I am not familiar at all with makeup or fashion. I'm not much for astrophysics, that's true,I have no deep understanding of physics but it is interesting to learn about it and talk about it in a very superficial way. but I can talk about theater,I have never been to a musical or a play unless it was held in an elementary school cafetorium. design,Clothing design? history,I know somethings so I could talk a little bit about it but I'm no historian. literature,I have been meaning to read the classics minus Shakespeare but I never have. I only know the few books I was forced to read in the education system. comparative religion,I know a little bit about different religions but since I am a non-believer I am not that interested in becoming a scholar in everyone's superstitions. cooking,I know frozen pizzas go in the oven and food comes out of drive thru windows. gardening,I absolutely hate gardening. My father had a small patch of land and would force us to work on it. Maybe it would have been okay if he was nice about it but he never was. the psychology of child development,Children poop, grow up, and then learn to change their own diapers. the American family court systemWomen rule the roost even if it is to the detriment of the children and if you are male remember to count your limbs after you come out. My theory is if a guy thinks his gf is so much annoying drama he's going to try to escape from her and disrespect her by ignoring her, he should just DUMP her already instead of acting like a jackhole for months or years.Giving her a steady stream of attention at all hours is unreasonable but that's what women expect. It isn't disrespectful for him to sometimes shut off the tap often because it is too draining and he has become too fatigued from it all. We aren't attention automatons always ready to serve mistress. And my other theory is that most of the guys who bitch about how most women are too much drama and girls only talk about makeup and shoes anyway are probably doing us girls a major freaking favor by opting out of the gene pool in order to play WoW, anyway, so thumbs up boys! Keep playing!Your bitterness is so delicious. Besides it is all guys who feel this way to some degree. It isn't just wow nerds. Yet men are still having children with women. It is funny how women will only go after the guys they are unattracted to about any of their male issues even if they don't apply to them because they are too chicken sht to take on the alpha males who typically are the source of their problems and potentially risk alienation by their preferred mates. You need to learn to take your frustrations out on the guys who actually wrong you and not the easy targets. Edited April 6, 2011 by BeginAgain
Mutant Debutante Posted April 6, 2011 Posted April 6, 2011 Astrophysicists...star war/tekkie fans...same difference. ...and blah blah blah. What? No, dude. I am a Star Wars and Star Trek fan, it doesn't make me an astrophysicist. Little trivia factoid: the original Star Trek fans were mostly women. I have no idea why the angry-typoid geek likes to keep the myth rolling that no girls like sci fi...maybe it's easier to just curl up and feel misunderstood and tell yourself things like women can only talk about makeup and shoes? As for the personal digs, nice try Mr. Junior Astrophysicist, but you missed that nail by a mile. I'm not bitter or frustrated or wronged, because I don't live in the weird world some LS posters seem to live in where men are either A) lonely righteously angry beta nerds or B) meathead alpha jerk players and where women are all attention whores who only think about where their next shoe is coming from I live in a world where men and women are mostly pretty complicated and multi-faceted and some of them are also pretty interesting and cool. Phew!
BeginAgain Posted April 6, 2011 Posted April 6, 2011 What? No, dude. I am a Star Wars and Star Trek fan, it doesn't make me an astrophysicist. The topics raised in fictional scifi franchises especially popular ones are the closest most get to discussions on astrophysics. Little trivia factoid: the original Star Trek fans were mostly women. I have no idea why the angry-typoid geek likes to keep the myth rolling that no girls like sci fi...maybe it's easier to just curl up and feel misunderstood and tell yourself things like women can only talk about makeup and shoes?Yeah I already came across the gay shipping fanfictions by women of Kirk and Spock. Thanks a lot ladies. Though irl I have never know a woman into scifi. I am only partially into it currently. As for the personal digs, nice try Mr. Junior Astrophysicist, but you missed that nail by a mile. I'm not bitter or frustrated or wronged, because I don't live in the weird world some LS posters seem to live in where men are either A) lonely righteously angry beta nerds or B) meathead alpha jerk players and where women are all attention whores who only think about where their next shoe is coming from I live in a world where men and women are mostly pretty complicated and multi-faceted and some of them are also pretty interesting and cool. Phew!Except people who play WoW. They are completely static, one dimensional caricatures of humanity, right? That's another person I have never met irl, a WoW player.
zengirl Posted April 6, 2011 Posted April 6, 2011 Little trivia factoid: the original Star Trek fans were mostly women. I have no idea why the angry-typoid geek likes to keep the myth rolling that no girls like sci fi...maybe it's easier to just curl up and feel misunderstood and tell yourself things like women can only talk about makeup and shoes? Yep, and Dr. Who still has a predominantly female audience, and it's a very long-running scifi franchise (perhaps the longest running). Most early (key word) sci fis were actually considered "Science Fiction Soap Operas" back in the day and more targeted to women than they are now because women were a more targeted advertising demo back in the day/watched more TV in its early days. I watch plenty of more modern day scifis. I watched Battlestar Galactica when it was on (can't get into Caprica), I like Dr. Who, I enjoyed The Sarah Connor Chronicles when it was on, I can get into some Farscape. There are plenty of women who like scifi. Personally, Star Trek isn't my cuppa, but I've seen quite a bit of it. Depending on the generation, it tends towards a bit too episodic for my tastes. The topics raised in fictional scifi franchises especially popular ones are the closest most get to discussions on astrophysics. Yeah I already came across the gay shipping fanfictions by women of Kirk and Spock. Thanks a lot ladies. Though irl I have never know a woman into scifi. I am only partially into it currently. Except people who play WoW. They are completely static, one dimensional caricatures of humanity, right? That's another person I have never met irl, a WoW player. My BF plays WoW on occasion. He's a fully functional, multi-dimensional person who can discuss plenty of things. I don't think watching Star Trek and discussing astrophysics are at all similar.
Titania22 Posted April 6, 2011 Posted April 6, 2011 That's another person I have never met irl, a WoW player. I have, My current 25yr old guy friend, had a WoW addiction before I met him, and broke away from it. But in January this year, started playing again, and was totally addicted again, it was affecting his work and his friendships. Fortunately he realised and didn't renew his subscription. We would unlikely still be friends now, if he hadn't quit, because it completely took over his life. He just disappeared when he was playing and lost track of time.
sally4sara Posted April 6, 2011 Posted April 6, 2011 No, I am not confused by English. Your logic is flawed. You don't want the man with little sexual history because of him being introverted and you made an off-handed, misandristic comment based on a tired old cliche to describe him. Clearly you hate introverts. The only other man with little sexual history is an extrovert but he has little to no libido, i.e. asexual, accounting for his much shorter hit list. Maybe you meant the comment completely as a sarcastic joke that wasn't really all that funny. I don't hold that against you or your sex. I don't expect comedy gold from the other sex. OH I know who you are now! I guess your latest 14 year old love interest is out of the picture for you and you've got some free time to burn. Since I don't need to address you or even say much for you to get on a confused rant, ascribing all manner of things I that are not true and I never said to me, I'll just do what I've done with all your other monikers and put you on ignore too.
BeginAgain Posted April 6, 2011 Posted April 6, 2011 OH I know who you are now! I guess your latest 14 year old love interest is out of the picture for you and you've got some free time to burn. Since I don't need to address you or even say much for you to get on a confused rant, ascribing all manner of things I that are not true and I never said to me, I'll just do what I've done with all your other monikers and put you on ignore too. Cool story bro? I know I shouldn't reply to a troll but still I have to clear that first bit up. I have never had a 14 year old lover no matter what my age was or even a teenage lover. Some might not want to believe it but I have never had another account here. I only came upon this place by chance recently. I was trying to find out where most people picked up their SO's because that match.com ad on tv keeps spamming how 1 out of 5 relationships start online. I wanted to know where the other 80 percent came from. Before my search I assumed it was mostly friends and family and that clubbing lead to very few connections. iirc the highest percentages came out of work and college. To me work is a very, very risky way to get dates especially in a bad economy.
Author orangelady Posted April 7, 2011 Author Posted April 7, 2011 how 1 out of 5 relationships start online. I wanted to know where the other 80 percent came from. Before my search I assumed it was mostly friends and family and that clubbing lead to very few connections. iirc the highest percentages came out of work and college. To me work is a very, very risky way to get dates especially in a bad economy. Have you tried online dating sites? I really dread them because each time I am interested in a profile, and I email them, they NEVER email me back. Whereas the ones I don't like, would email me.
BeginAgain Posted April 7, 2011 Posted April 7, 2011 Have you tried online dating sites? I really dread them because each time I am interested in a profile, and I email them, they NEVER email me back. Whereas the ones I don't like, would email me. Not yet but I have some things to finish before I get very serious about dating. Since I am a man women expect the world out of me. I am so far from that it is kind of embarrassing. Women my own age think I should be a professional in a long term career with a house or the ability to buy one ready to marry tomorrow. I am not even close to that goal. I almost wonder if I should go after younger women in their early 20's where their life is closer to where I am. Of course women don't like that. They still bring up going with an older woman because you should have more in common. I am sorry I screwed up my life a long time ago but I am not where they are in their lives yet.
cpllkn4bifem812 Posted April 7, 2011 Posted April 7, 2011 True, but this is after the guy and the girl are already in a relationship. If a man plays a video game and ignores his woman, then he is not totally into the relationship. Reading one post his girl was in front of him in her panties. Now there is something wrong. Yes I do play video games too but it is after family time and while we are having our down time to relax. Yes we have a very strong appatite for sex, we are very close to each other, but we also give each other a little space to be seperate indivduals too.
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