joelosearena Posted April 4, 2011 Posted April 4, 2011 Well here's the deal. I was at a football game (gb packers) and this girl comes up to me--very attractive. We hit it off right away and two days later, I traveled 2 hours to see her. It was a great time as i understand most new relationships are. The lived in a modest apartment, didn't have a car since she had moved to the area from los angeles about 9 months earlier and had never been married and no kids. Right away, she started talking about moving up by me and getting a place together. Well as it turns out, that never materialized simply cause i became very leary about it happening so soon and i was also protecting my kids as well. In the process, she got laid off from her job and was unemployed for awhile. I continuted to travel to see her almost every single weekend. Even though she was on unemployment, i paid for everything. Mind you, I don't make a ton of money but i wanted to take care of her because I loved her. After about 4-5 months of driving every weekend, it got old. Plus when I'd go down there all we would do is just sit around and she'd polish off a bottle of wine while i had a few beers. By the time Sunday would roll around, I felt cooped up and just needed to get out of there. Part of me wanted to break up with her but the other part felt the need to take care of her. she would call me up begging me to come back down and i would. When she finally got a job she made the statement to me 'now that i have a job you are still going to take care of me right?' that was a big red flag. Secondly, she told me about her rich step mom, a private jet, two homes in colorado and that we would take trips for free to colorado--seemed pretty cool. Well, after 5 months, I never saw the rich people, no pictures of planes or homes and never made any sort of trip to colorado. It was also annoying when she'd talk about material items and how much things cost. These are 300.00 shoes, this belt was 180.00, this table was 5000.00. Well i grew up pretty poor and money was never attached to anything cause we didn't have it. Well to wrap things up, I left her a couple of weeks ago (although by the way she talks, she ended things with me) and I knew she had been on match.com before she met me so i decided to search and see if she was back on it--sure enough, less than a week later, she was back on the website. to wrap things up, she had numerous phobias--didn't like floral pattern paper towels, garbage bags with draw strings, didn't like to take baths, have shoes worn in the house, didn't like knots tied in back of her on her dresses--just weird stuff like that. Ugh--help me out--was i with a gold digger? I have since learned she's been in contact with a guy that is a vice president of a mortgage company in chicago.
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