lapse Posted April 4, 2011 Posted April 4, 2011 Do you all think there's any harm in dating other people soon after a breakup? If your goal is just go out and have fun and you're upfront with the other person that you are moving nowhere fast, do you think there is any danger in that? For the one who broke up or the one they're going out with? I went out on a date last night and it was great. It was great to go out and not think of my ex for a few hours. And I have to be honest, part of it is ego-boosting - it does, at this point, make me feel better to know that there are 'other guys out there.' I wonder, though, even if I'm honest and say I'm "open to the possibility of more" but I'll be taking a while to get to know anyone before it goes very far... I still wonder if this is unfair to them. I do have emotional baggage right now that will stop me from getting involved at a 'normal' pace. Thoughts? Experiences?
superb Posted April 4, 2011 Posted April 4, 2011 I have thought about trying to meet new men too, just for a distraction or whatever. And it sounds like a good idea for a temporary good feeling or whatever but I'm probably not going to pursue that idea because I think it'd be unfair to the man, depending on how serious he is about the situation of course. I don't know what to do either really. The relationship world is a rough one.
Lolita_Sky Posted April 4, 2011 Posted April 4, 2011 No I don't think it is. It's been almost a month since my ex and I broke up. Almost a week and a half after the break up I started talking to a guy. We didn't really hang out though until last week. I think this really does help in the sense that it helps keep my mind off of the ex and this new guy I am talking to is just really great. I don't know if anything serious will come of it, but we connect on so many levels. Just tread carefully. He knows that I got out of a relationship not too long ago. But he is fine with that and wants to show me that he's boyfriend material. lol Just enjoy your self and take things slow.
radrluv72 Posted April 4, 2011 Posted April 4, 2011 I think it depends on the person & the breakup. For myself, it's been 4 months since my ex dumped me, and it's only just now that I'm feeling ready to get back into dating. I knew that I wasn't ready before because I kept comparing everyone else to my ex, and in kind of a sick way was looking for someone to "replace" him. But it was only half-heartedly. I didn't feel right about potentially getting involved with someone new while all I thought about was my ex. I've finally managed to get the point of acceptance that it's over, and that everything's okay. I can't wait to meet someone new.
Fufu Posted April 4, 2011 Posted April 4, 2011 This is up to individual to decide I didn't go any dating after my ex-bf left me, I felt I was still not ready to date a new person. Today, I'm still single. I will love to be single for this period of time and enjoy the singlehood. ^_^
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