tb24 Posted April 4, 2011 Posted April 4, 2011 Ok this is just too coinicidental? Just before christmas I got a date with a girl who was serving me in a coffee shop. She had a boyfriend. It never went anywhere because she was only in town over christmas. Friday night, I was at a bar and the barmaid insisted I add her on facebook as I was leaving (I never asked her for her name, number or anything) we were flirting a little bit and spoke several times during the evening but I figured that she's a barmaid and it's her job to be friendly... guess I read that a little wrong. So I added her and find out she has a boyfriend. The next morning she posted a message on my facebook wall (And removed the fact that she'd posted it from her own wall... to hide it from her boyfriend?) . I don't *think* I've been friend zoned. I've got nothing to lose by asking her out but it kinda annoys me that I seem to attract girls with boyfriends.
cyrusz Posted April 4, 2011 Posted April 4, 2011 I think they find their current partner's Uninteresting... And it better not to get involved in relationships with such girls , since you know that they wont be faithful to you either.... Generic Viagra , Kamagra , Kamagra Oral Jelly
Mrlonelyone Posted April 4, 2011 Posted April 4, 2011 A few things come to mind. 1.) Is there anything about you that could be thought of as "exotic". i.e. Are you a racial or cultural minority where you are? Everyone wants to taste the forbidden and unusual once in a while. Even if you just happen to be a Scottsman living in Kent that accent difference could be enough. 2.) They aren't really that serious about their boyfriends. Or they are tired of them and looking to see what else is around. One explains why they might pick you time and again for that, and two explains why they are looking. If I were you I would take this in stride. There is no real committment until a ring has been exchanged. So calling this "infidelity" on their part is absurd...since in moral terms their already fornicating as un married couple. I mean if we are to moralize about the situation fornication cannot be ignored either. My point is don't take their behavior as an unmarried person for what they will do if you go the distance and take that walk to the altar. When I bring up similar situations to my relatives in particular my father they tell me to go for it. They are all married and have been for a long time. However they know it's a competitive dog eat dog world. If someone can't hold on to the interest of their girlfriend or boyfriend that's on them.
Author tb24 Posted April 4, 2011 Author Posted April 4, 2011 I am "exotic" in a way, I suppose... I always get told I look like a rockstar (I'm not ). Mostly because of my jet black, straightened/highly styled hair (Look up Ronnie Radke, I have hair like his ) and the way I dress. That could be it I guess. Thinking about it more, perhaps another part is the way I acted with these girls. Usually if I'm chatting with a pretty girl I'll get a bit shy. I'm sure that comes across. With the barmaid/waitress I was subconciously thinking "she's just being friendly, it's her job" rather than worrying about whether she liked me or not so maybe I appeared more confident? Hmm...
BeginAgain Posted April 4, 2011 Posted April 4, 2011 These girls already have guys to have sex with, they aren't splitting up for you to be together, and it doesn't seem they have given you any on the side. They are looking for a guy to fulfill other non-sexual, non-physical intimacy needs and to string along for some male attention. You are basically no different from a gay husband in regards to your role in their lives. Also you don't want a girl who can't completely commit to her guy no matter if she is engaged, married, or just dating. You can expect she will do the same to you if you ever convinced her to leave him.
Author tb24 Posted April 4, 2011 Author Posted April 4, 2011 Actually, I added the first girl on facebook. A couple of weeks after she went back to university she was single for about a week and had a new boyfriend so clearly she WAS shopping around.
Mrlonelyone Posted April 4, 2011 Posted April 4, 2011 I thought so. That's what women do when they are looking for a new man. Not a "gay husband". @Begin. If you think that a woman is 100% committed to you for ever and ever and you haven't put a ring on her finger think again. Even with a ring on her finger women still fool around. It's not just "slutty" women either. (Before anyone says yes yes men too men too.) Witness the forum we have here about cheating. There is no point at which you can relax and stop courting the woman.
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