SanD18 Posted April 4, 2011 Posted April 4, 2011 (edited) I met this guy about a month in a half ago he was one of the movers who came to my bosses house with his old office furniture. After they had left I told my boss(the wife) that he was cute...she called the company & gave him my number -.- He text me a few days later and we hung out. He lives an hour away and the first time I drove out to him...since then I've driven out there about 8 or 9 times. I've spent the night about 7 or 8 times. I didnt kiss him until like the 4th time I came over and didnt make out with him until the 6th or 7th. This last weekend I gave him a hand job not just randomly but he was getting really excited and after we made out and stuff he kind of walked me through it haha...I'm a virgin & I told him that in the beginning. I'm 18. -he's 20- I told him I've never really made out with someone(voluntarily) had 1 boyfriend & kissed 2 guys. He's really considerate and says he'll wait. We had a HUGE discussion about 4 weeks ago about how he's a very sexual guy and he's noticed I'm not. I explained to him that I am but we haven't known each other that long and I'm new to all of this. He understood and again told me he likes me a lot and he'll be patient. It's very early but I already want to have sex with him not just because but theres a sexual attraction, I like him a lot and I just kind of what to get it over with I reeeally want to haha. It's cute cause he'll say 'make love' not just "I wanna have sex with you" My Issue (sorry it's so long) he hasn't officially asked me out yet. I think he already thinks we're dating because I told him I didnt want to make out with him until I was his officially his girlfriend and he said "definitely, I understand" ...& then we made out?? (heh) so I'm not sure what that means..was that him asking me out or something? & a few weeks ago he wanted me to meet his parents but they were gone when we got there. He hasnt mentioned it sense but we've both been kind of busy. He works A LOT about 12 hours everyday. It makes more sense for me to visit him since I can spend the night(I'm a live-in & don't have any rules really) But we don't really do anything. I took him on a drive awhile back & taught him how to drive a stick which was nice. I'm a pretty easy girl to please. I just kind of would like him to take me on a date or something you know? Today he was supposed to come over but said he could only stay an hour & so I said just dont come it wouldnt make sense drive an hour stay an hour drive an hour back? I said he could but he just said maybe some other time. I haven't seen him since last sunday morning and Ijust want to ask "what are we" I'd be more likely to do more with him if I knew for a fact we were official(I'm not going to tell him that though). Also how should I get him to come and see me. he knows I'm a catch and he'd be a complete IDIOT to drop things if we're not already dating(I clean, I cook, give him awesome back massages etc) I think he's already too comfortable with it though but he always tells me thank you and I'm awesome & in the morning he always gives me this nice soft kiss & says good morning & he made breakfast & such this last time. I like doing things for other people & helping him out makes me feel better cause I always tell him if theres a way I can make your life easier I'll do it since he's so stressed from work.. What should I do? Whats an outsiders point of view on this situation? How should I approach the whole "what are we" deal? I mean does it seem like we're already 'together? Opinions please Thank you! Edited April 4, 2011 by SanD18
SincereOnlineGuy Posted April 5, 2011 Posted April 5, 2011 Go ahead and boldly ask "where are we?" (in terms of dating) Aside from that, it sounds like you would gain just about as much from finding some activity that YOUUUUUUUUUU want to do ('out' instead of 'in') and then inviting/suggesting that he join you at that, as you would from sitting there and waiting for ages for HIM to extend the first invitation that way. I sure hope that you don't negotiate away your virginity only to find that he isn't interested in much else. With that as the main concern, I think you want to 'experience him' out and about... restaurants/movies/clubs/concerts (anywhere 'out' there)... and I feel it doesn't really matter WHO extends the first invitation. It really, truly IS OK to be asking for clarity as to where you are in terms of a relationship. And maintain your standards if you don't hear exactly what you want/hope to hear!
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