Author joesmith Posted April 4, 2011 Author Posted April 4, 2011 So now that you've been enlightened what are you gonna do Joe? To be honest with you BB, right now I just dont know. I know what I SHOULD do, and everyone here gave me the advice I thought they would (because it is all correct). Sometimes we don't always do what we 'should'.
Owl Posted April 4, 2011 Posted April 4, 2011 To be honest with you BB, right now I just dont know. I know what I SHOULD do, and everyone here gave me the advice I thought they would (because it is all correct). Sometimes we don't always do what we 'should'. Then what were you hoping to gain by posting here asking for advice? If you already knew the answers, but had no intention of acting on them...what did this gain you? FWIW, most people come here actually already knowing the answers, but lacking the will to implement the changes they need to make. Odds are, you'll stay where you're at with no change until some outside factor comes along and forces a change. Her H gets told by a friend about what's going on, or she gets a pang of guilty conscience. Regardless, I wish you the best. I hope this works out the best way it can for all three of you.
Emme Posted April 5, 2011 Posted April 5, 2011 Wow, Emme, this is soooo beautiful ! I have always thought that women who cheat don't really love their husbands. I know how it is to have someone faithful. Had a 6 yrs LTR with a loving and trustful GF, she had a very strong personality and boundaries, she used to ignore and be distant with her male friends, it was like they didn't even exist. I was more friendly to them than her End of T/J. It's true. No man can just offer a woman a fantasy land with glitter and gold sparkle galore. When you're in love you can't even take your eyes off your man. Every man who whitsles or sweet talks you are invisible.
Vince1980 Posted April 5, 2011 Posted April 5, 2011 all i can say is back away.....slowly...i was in ur shoes and it ended in tears...thats all i'll say. if she gets caught both u and her and ****ed.. i never got caught. i just got brains find yourself a single lady before feelings and love get involved........ back away. u have to think of yourself dude
Author joesmith Posted April 5, 2011 Author Posted April 5, 2011 all i can say is back away.....slowly...i was in ur shoes and it ended in tears...thats all i'll say. if she gets caught both u and her and ****ed.. i never got caught. i just got brains find yourself a single lady before feelings and love get involved........ back away. u have to think of yourself dude So you ended it? Does she ever call or try and contact you?
Author joesmith Posted April 6, 2011 Author Posted April 6, 2011 Did you go and ask the husband if it was all right to bang his wife? Did you actually grow a spine and tell him of the things you two already have been doing? If not, why not? Hmmmm. Are you a lowlife wife sniper? Just asking. Why the hostility from you? if you don't like the content of these threads, perhaps this isn't the place for you.
TurboGirl Posted April 7, 2011 Posted April 7, 2011 Interesting, last time I checked it was 2011 and wives were not property. We can actually think on our own.
Emme Posted April 7, 2011 Posted April 7, 2011 No hostility my friend. Its just I, and millions of others, just want to know why it is, that you feel so entitled, that you should insert yourself into another man's marriage and have sex with his wife, without even consulting him first? If he inserted himself in the relationship the husband would have knowledge of his existance. The wife has extracted herself from the marriage. For me it comes down to the partner that made the vows and broke them. The promise was made to your partner. I blame myself I don't blame anyone else.
reboot Posted April 7, 2011 Posted April 7, 2011 FWIW, most people come here actually already knowing the answers, but lacking the will to implement the changes they need to make. Odds are, you'll stay where you're at with no change until some outside factor comes along and forces a change. Her H gets told by a friend about what's going on, or she gets a pang of guilty conscience. Maybe the truest couple of statements I've read on here yet.
East7 Posted April 7, 2011 Posted April 7, 2011 If one of the marriage partners is unwilling to uphold their promises, then they should seek out dissolving the marriage union. If they or an AP partner feel so obligated as to step outside of the promised fidelity of marriage, they should at least have the courage and common courtesy to inform the betrayed party (I know, more foreign concepts) IMO, it is not the AP's job to communicate with the BS about the infidelity and future of the marriage. The contract is between WS and BS, it is WS who made a promise and broke it, thus it belongs to her to inform or to end the contract. The WS is an adult person who knows what she/he is doing, some of them are serial cheaters and do it for years so they must be the ones to take the courage to confess and/or move out. When you choose the behaviour, you choose the consequences.Sure, valid for the AP but for the WS as well.
donnamaybe Posted April 18, 2011 Posted April 18, 2011 Turbogirl; You are absolutely right. All people in the Western World are free to make their own choices. However when one promises another at a wedding ceremony "I take you to be my lawfully wedded husband/wife, to have and to hold from this day forward, having only unto you and forsaking all others",it kind of limits the parameters of expected behaviour. It's called fidelity (I know, that's a foreign concept these days). That's where honesty, courage and integrity come in (again foreign concepts by 2011 standards) If one of the marriage partners is unwilling to uphold their promises, then they should seek out dissolving the marriage union. If they or an AP partner feel so obligated as to step outside of the promised fidelity of marriage, they should at least have the courage and common courtesy to inform the betrayed party (I know, more foreign concepts). When you choose the behaviour, you choose the consequences. Really? You expect "common courtesy" in this kind of a situation from anyone but the BS who doesn't have a clue anyway?
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