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Okay, yet another question, and it probably sounds stupid, but it's just something I really need to know.

 

If any of you women were a hairdresser, and you were cutting an ugly and/or unappealing guys hair, would you call him an affectionate name when talking to him, like for example 'What can I do for you, 'lovely'?'

 

Or would you only talk like that with guys who are average everyday guys and above?

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Yes, flattery sells.

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For some reason it was only on one occasion when she was talknig to me like that, she actually said 'lovely' several times, but she had never spoken like that to me before, and she never spoken to me like that since then.

 

I've never heard her speak like that to any other guys either, except for one I think.

 

So I don't think it would've been about the 'flattery sells' thing. Not that I'm wondering in anyway if it means she was attracted to me, I can tell that she wouldn't have been. But I was just hoping that maybe it means that maybe at least she didn't think I was ugly, unnapealing, or creepy.

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Okay, yet another question, and it probably sounds stupid, but it's just something I really need to know.

 

If any of you women were a hairdresser, and you were cutting an ugly and/or unappealing guys hair, would you call him an affectionate name when talking to him, like for example 'What can I do for you, 'lovely'?'

 

Or would you only talk like that with guys who are average everyday guys and above?

 

 

I might say something like sweetie or honey, because I often use pet names for people, even strangers. Probably not lovely or cutie or sexy or anything having to do with looks, even if they were good looking. JMO

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I might say something like sweetie or honey, because I often use pet names for people, even strangers. Probably not lovely or cutie or sexy or anything having to do with looks, even if they were good looking. JMO

 

I guess it doesn't have to mean anything about how I come across then.

 

That's fine, it was just something I really needed to know.

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Still, no female has ever spoken to me like that in my life before, so it was quite a nice unique experience.

Posted
Okay, yet another question, and it probably sounds stupid, but it's just something I really need to know.

 

If any of you women were a hairdresser, and you were cutting an ugly and/or unappealing guys hair, would you call him an affectionate name when talking to him, like for example 'What can I do for you, 'lovely'?'

 

Or would you only talk like that with guys who are average everyday guys and above?

 

Never take anything someone in a service-type industry (waitress etc.) says in terms of compliments etc. seriously. They may be serious, but they're also trying to make money.

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I think you're cute.

 

Thanks, that's really nice of you to say that, I appreciate it. But I bet you wouldn't think I am if you saw me in real life.

 

That's the thing, some women online do like me, but online is a completely different world from offline.

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It was service-speak.

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For some reason it was only on one occasion when she was talknig to me like that, she actually said 'lovely' several times, but she had never spoken like that to me before, and she never spoken to me like that since then.

 

I've never heard her speak like that to any other guys either, except for one I think.

 

So I don't think it would've been about the 'flattery sells' thing. Not that I'm wondering in anyway if it means she was attracted to me, I can tell that she wouldn't have been. But I was just hoping that maybe it means that maybe at least she didn't think I was ugly, unnapealing, or creepy.

 

Honestly, I don't think it meant anything. Some people just talk like that. But to make sure, you could try something when you go there next time, like ask her in a funny way if she has a boyfriend or something. But don't have high hopes, because - like others said - it is part of her job.

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Some people call everyone sweetie, hun, or whatever, sometimes with no regard for attractiveness, age, or even gender. They will call an old man or a little girl the same pet name and think nothing of it. Plus, as others have said, those in the service industry who want a decent tip are often extremely friendly to everyone. I wouldn't get your hopes up that she's into you, she's probably just one of those overly friendly people.

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Honestly, I don't think it meant anything. Some people just talk like that. But to make sure, you could try something when you go there next time, like ask her in a funny way if she has a boyfriend or something. But don't have high hopes, because - like others said - it is part of her job.

 

Nah, I never once thought it may mean she's attracted to me or anything. That's not what I was wondering about.

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Thanks, that's really nice of you to say that, I appreciate it. But I bet you wouldn't think I am if you saw me in real life.

 

That's the thing, some women online do like me, but online is a completely different world from offline.

 

Ross I've been reading your posts for a while and I think you should really stop trying to put yourself down so much. You sound like you think you are Quasimodo or something, but you're not. There are guys who are waaay less attractive than you that have girlfriends.

 

One thing I can tell you though, is that if you keep bringing yourself down in front of women, then that DOES put them off. Lots of women like happy guys. I too like happy girls/women and the simple fact for that is that I want to lead a happy life. I'm assuming women use the same sort of reasoning, so bringing yourself down is counterproductive to your endeavors.

 

I'm rooting for you man.

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Ross I've been reading your posts for a while and I think you should really stop trying to put yourself down so much. You sound like you think you are Quasimodo or something, but you're not. There are guys who are waaay less attractive than you that have girlfriends.

 

One thing I can tell you though, is that if you keep bringing yourself down in front of women, then that DOES put them off. Lots of women like happy guys. I too like happy girls/women and the simple fact for that is that I want to lead a happy life. I'm assuming women use the same sort of reasoning, so bringing yourself down is counterproductive to your endeavors.

 

I'm rooting for you man.

 

Thanks.

 

It's not that I think I must be really ugly or anything.

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LOL, the secretary of the property management company I give my rent check to called me "doll face" when I was leaving from visiting her. She's my age, 29.

 

I have absolutely no clue what she meant by it.

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