Jman77 Posted April 3, 2011 Posted April 3, 2011 Ok well I'm not any different than anyone else here... My girlfriend broke up with me a little over a month ago. The reason was because she wanted to experience being single and having fun with her friends because we had been together since she was a senior in highschool, it was a little over 2 years. I can understand where she's coming from, she also said she wasn't ready to move on at all.. So we have been talking pretty much everyday since we broke up except for a short 3 day stint where we tried not talking but I broke down and texted her. That ended up leading to us hanging out for 3 days in a row and it was pretty much like we were together again except for the title of boyfriend and girlfriend. So we agreed to start "dating" each other again but not really considering ourselves a couple (i didn't really understand this because I thought of it as pretty much the same thing) but after we agreed to that things started going downhill again and everything just seemed awkward. This lead to her being more sure of her decision that she is just not in love with me right now. She says she hates it because she wants to feel it again and she wants to be with me but she just doesn't feel it right now. And of course she wants to be friends but I don't think I could handle that and I've heard from everyone that just cutting off all contact is the best thing because I'll either be able to move on or it'll give her time to miss me and maybe have those feelings come back Idk what to do really because I start to feel almost physically sick when I don't talk to her since we ended the whole dating thing. And idk if I should believe that we could get back together one day because she really wants to and wants to be in love again
lcfc1993 Posted April 3, 2011 Posted April 3, 2011 Let go of her mate. I'm 17, mine dumped me, 7/8 (I've lost count) weeks on and I'm much better. Go NC, move on, enjoy your life. Go to parties, text girls, have fun with your lads.
Little_Bee Posted April 3, 2011 Posted April 3, 2011 You need to accept that she is not in love with you anymore; it's hard and it makes you sick, that's normal - I, for example, haven't eaten properly for two weeks now (I never can eat when I feel down). It's hard to not having contact if you are so used to speaking and texting with someone for such a long time but it's even harder to stay in touch as it won't allow you to slowly recover and always throw you back to day one of the break up. The best thing you can do at the moment is to accept the pain and even to let it out (cry, scream and what ever works for you). It will take a while until you will feel better but after a while you will experience that you have more good than bad days and slowly you will enjoy your life without her.
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