Woggle Posted April 3, 2011 Posted April 3, 2011 Back in the day you could not worry about not getting a text because texting did not exist. The same goes even for cell phones. They were very expensive and calls were expensive to make. You used to be a big shot if you walked down the street talking on one. If you wanted to make a call you had to find a public phone. You went all day doing your own thing and not worrying about them texting you or receiving a text in return so you didn't have the stress of feeling ignored or not prioritized. When you finally went to see your mate you had all these good feelings stored up and you had the experiences of doing things during the day other than waiting for a text to share with them. Does anybody else agree with me?
anne1707 Posted April 3, 2011 Posted April 3, 2011 Add to this all the problems people seem to have regarding Facebook and relationship status etc then yes, dating is definitely far more straightforward without all this newfangled technology I feel so old
xpaperxcutx Posted April 3, 2011 Posted April 3, 2011 Well I grew up in the 90's and early 2000's so I am aware of the changes in technological advances. However, being too young to date at the time, I can't really contest this theory except based on tv shows ( Friends, Sex&the City, etc) and movies. I will say however, before the invention of texting, people actually picked up a phone and call. Also they were more open to writing and emailing. Nowadays, I can't even exchange good conversations through email without someone suggesting I take the conversation to another platform like Instant Messaging or simply just give out my number.
orangelady Posted April 3, 2011 Posted April 3, 2011 Well I grew up in the 90's and early 2000's so I am aware of the changes in technological advances. However, being too young to date at the time, I can't really contest this theory except based on tv shows ( Friends, Sex&the City, etc) and movies. I will say however, before the invention of texting, people actually picked up a phone and call. Also they were more open to writing and emailing. Nowadays, I can't even exchange good conversations through email without someone suggesting I take the conversation to another platform like Instant Messaging or simply just give out my number. What does your quote on victim mean?
johan Posted April 3, 2011 Posted April 3, 2011 On the other hand, it's great to be able to send occasional "you're on my mind messages" whenever you feel like it. Even just a smile or "hi". The technology makes communication easier. In addition to the expectations and invisible tether. Like most everything else, whether it's a net benefit or cost depends on the people involved.
Eve Posted April 3, 2011 Posted April 3, 2011 I think things were more random before texting etc. Now people text or whatever before going to see someone, rather than just going around. I would not like to be a single person nowadays. Take care, Eve x
Ruby Slippers Posted April 3, 2011 Posted April 3, 2011 I think it just gives you more information. If it's a good match, that will only help. If it's not, it might hurt.
somedude81 Posted April 3, 2011 Posted April 3, 2011 One thing for sure, its made approaching people much more difficult. If there's a girl sitting by herself on the train or bus, odds are she'd either be texting and/or listening to music. Much harder to start a conversation with somebody.
Nexus One Posted April 3, 2011 Posted April 3, 2011 Girls that text too much are actually a turn-off in my opinion. I've witnessed a couple on a date once having dinner. The woman was texting the entire time and ignored the guy sitting across her the entire date. The guy looked sad, but all I could think was: "Stand up man, tell her that she ruined the date by texting all the time. Then tell her to text that to her friend. Then walk out of her life like a boss." Texting also makes girls/women look unapproachable due to them looking occupied. The same thing goes with listening to mp3's on their phone or mp3 player. I'm not saying they are unapproachable, I'm just saying that it looks that way. Because it's in the nature of most people to not bother other people who are occupied with something.
Ruby Slippers Posted April 3, 2011 Posted April 3, 2011 If there's a girl sitting by herself on the train or bus, odds are she'd either be texting and/or listening to music. Much harder to start a conversation with somebody. If I am drawn to the guy, I'll take out my headphones for him if he says something to me.
persevere Posted April 3, 2011 Posted April 3, 2011 It used to be that, you made a date and the date was kept, regardless. Less games. Not only did technology change, people have changed as well. I was a teen in the late 80's and it was sure different then. No cell phones. No email. No answering machines (were very expensive). 3 network channels on TV ( no cable ). You actually had to communicate face to face (gasp).
Author Woggle Posted April 3, 2011 Author Posted April 3, 2011 One thing I don't get is Facebook. To me it seems like the ultimate expression of narcissism. The whole thing just screams a desire for social validation. Who cares what my relationship status or the fact that I just went to the bathroom and feel the need to tweet about it? Why do I care if a bunch of people I don't know want to be my Facebook friend? What's the point?
Mrlonelyone Posted April 3, 2011 Posted April 3, 2011 I think that all interpersonal relations were easier before all the technology we have now. In particular the comptuer like "Smart phone". Before the advent of the smart phone, FB existed, so did email, so did text.... After the smart phone....suddenly you had the newfangled tech with you at all times. This has allowed people to AOVID actual face to face, voice to voice or even handwritten communications. You could look at a cursive letter and get a sense of the emotions from how it was written. You could hear a persons voice and get a sense of the emotions from how it was said. Face to face.... you could get an INSTANT read on what someone felt with no misunderstandings. However through FB, Email, and text.... we loose all emotional content. Unless someone is a very good wordsmith. (While it's now cool to not write in complete words let alone complete sentences and paragraphs.) Most people are not. Even then words on a screen carried in the hand pale in comparison to face to face contact. In conclusion yes relationships of all kinds, business, friendly, and romantic, have become more complex because of all this text based communication. In the old days a young man could just put on his Sunday best and ask a girl out with a bouqet of flowers... go out for a vanilla malted at the Rexall drug store.... and see a movie all for $1.50... then expect to go to lovers lane afterwards. Those were the days. Now a young man has to email or text before, or instead of calling.
somedude81 Posted April 3, 2011 Posted April 3, 2011 If I am drawn to the guy, I'll take out my headphones for him if he says something to me. That may be so, but if a girl is wearing headphones, I'm not even going to bother talking to her because it seems rude. It's a barrier against the outside world. So I never would do the thing that brainy suggested. And what if she's listening to Beiber. Do I rant on how much he sucks?
jadedone Posted April 3, 2011 Posted April 3, 2011 One thing I don't get is Facebook. To me it seems like the ultimate expression of narcissism. The whole thing just screams a desire for social validation. Who cares what my relationship status or the fact that I just went to the bathroom and feel the need to tweet about it? Why do I care if a bunch of people I don't know want to be my Facebook friend? What's the point? Facebook is great for keeping in touch with old friends and relatives that live far away or you don't see often. Share pictures, etc..
Mrlonelyone Posted April 3, 2011 Posted April 3, 2011 One thing I don't get is Facebook. To me it seems like the ultimate expression of narcissism. The whole thing just screams a desire for social validation. Who cares what my relationship status or the fact that I just went to the bathroom and feel the need to tweet about it? Why do I care if a bunch of people I don't know want to be my Facebook friend? What's the point? That sure is the way it's being used by allot of people. I have a facebook. I use it only for what it was made for.... keeping contact with people I know in real life, intend on seeing, or am really good old friends with. I have about 200 people I keep contact with on FB and only 170 of them are "friends". What's more is I have multiple list and only blood relatives see EVERYTHING. I have noticed allot of people will have everyone as a friend that they ever met or worked in the same place with for some reason. Which makes no sense. i.e. Everyone who goes to the same UNIV with them? Then once they do that they have the GALL to call it "facebook stalking" if someone danes to look at or comment on their stuff. WTH?
Author Woggle Posted April 3, 2011 Author Posted April 3, 2011 Am I the only one who thought Myspace was better?
Graviton Posted April 3, 2011 Posted April 3, 2011 And what if she's listening to Beiber. Do I rant on how much he sucks? No, in that case you strangle her with her ear bud cords.
Mrlonelyone Posted April 3, 2011 Posted April 3, 2011 Am I the only one who thought Myspace was better? YES. Yes you are.
dreamingoftigers Posted April 3, 2011 Posted April 3, 2011 One thing I don't get is Facebook. To me it seems like the ultimate expression of narcissism. The whole thing just screams a desire for social validation. Who cares what my relationship status or the fact that I just went to the bathroom and feel the need to tweet about it? Why do I care if a bunch of people I don't know want to be my Facebook friend? What's the point? I found that a lot of my friends migrated there and then it was the easier way to reach them. Plus I get to store all of my photos and videos on there, and I can amp up the privacy settings so that only myself and my husband can see them. But overall given the advantages and disadvantages of tech. I think that it has made relationships 15-20% harder.
persevere Posted April 3, 2011 Posted April 3, 2011 Things were much more 'personal' before all the technology. Now, it's very 'impersonal' and confusing. Voice inflection lost in texting, email, etc. Sometimes the most innocent remark can be taken completely out of context. Also, you didn't have caller ID, etc. You had to answer the phone and, if you didn't want someone calling you, you had to tell them. Now also, there's much less privacy.
persevere Posted April 3, 2011 Posted April 3, 2011 I read a statistic not too long ago. It stated 25% of all cellphone 'conversations' have no one on the other end. So, if someone wants a security blanket and wants to be left alone, they pretend to talk to someone? Interesting. People are far less approachable now, due to previously mentioned distractions.
dreamingoftigers Posted April 3, 2011 Posted April 3, 2011 I read a statistic not too long ago. It stated 25% of all cellphone 'conversations' have no one on the other end. So, if someone wants a security blanket and wants to be left alone, they pretend to talk to someone? Interesting. People are far less approachable now, due to previously mentioned distractions. That is too weird.
melodymatters Posted April 3, 2011 Posted April 3, 2011 Add online dating to the list ! In the "olden days" you had to leave your house and actually talk to people in person ! Then you knew if you had chemistry or not from minute one. Hardly anyone I loved would I have chosen from the online dating menu, but meeting them in the flesh, there was a spark. a spark I never would have discovered if I was trying to pick my mate via a laundry list and dating site.
SmileFace Posted April 3, 2011 Posted April 3, 2011 I read a statistic not too long ago. It stated 25% of all cellphone 'conversations' have no one on the other end. So, if someone wants a security blanket and wants to be left alone, they pretend to talk to someone? Interesting. People are far less approachable now, due to previously mentioned distractions. I won't lie and say I don't do this. I act like I am texting sometimes so people don't bother me. I even wear headphones so that people don't try to start conversations. Sometimes you just don't want to be bothered by the older guy on the bus who thinks it is appropriate to chat you up every time you see him. When I have my headphones on, I act like I can't hear them. I don't listen to music in public places but they don't know that. It works...shrugs
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