Women, is it true that you don't need to do anything and guys just approach you?

[fortyninethousand322]

Bull****.

 

It takes the average human less than two minutes to form a judgement on someone else's personality. Sure, that snap judgement might be wrong, but it's a useful mechanism that helps us quickly identify friends or foe. If you're in tune with yourself, those judgements will usually prove to be right. We have this ability because its vital to our survival.

 

And please note, that snap judgement isn't considered to be based solely on looks. We base it on demeanors and subtile body language.

 

If you're incapable of seeing beyond of a woman's beauty, then you're saying that when it comes to women, you don't trust your own judgement. You're letting your sexual instincts over-ride your social ones. That, or you've already decided you don't care about her personality, so long as you get to get laid.

 

I guess in any other era of mankind's history I'd be toast. I'm notorious for taking a really long time to figure out someone's personality (both men and women). Perhaps I"m an outlier, or perhaps I'd normally not be around if we were living in more savage times.

[somedude81]

Bull****.

 

It takes the average human less than two minutes to form a judgement on someone else's personality. Sure, that snap judgement might be wrong, but it's a useful mechanism that helps us quickly identify friends or foe. If you're in tune with yourself and aren't suffering from too many cognitive distortions, those judgements will usually prove to be right. We have this ability because it's vital to our survival.

Hopefully you have more criteria to decide if somebody is date worthy beyond the thought that they aren't going to stab you once you turn around.

[Kamille]

Hopefully you have more criteria to decide if somebody is date worthy beyond the thought that they aren't going to stab you once you turn around.

 

Try it. Next time you meet someone a new (let's pick a guy to eliminate the possibility that sexual attraction will warp your social instincts), take the time, after a few minutes of talking to them, to think about what you think their personality is like. You'll be surprised at how much information you feel you have, from a short time of interaction. Then ask yourself: what made me come to these (perhaps erroneous) conclusions?

 

It's obviously more nuanced than a simple friend or foe, as humans have historically been in more complex relations then simple I'll stab you in the back or give you the keys to my kingdom, but the ability to read other people is still important to our social survival. Without it, we're considered to register on the autism spectrum.

[fortyninethousand322]

Try it. Next time you meet someone a new (let's pick a guy to eliminate the possibility that sexual attraction will warp your social instincts), take the time, after a few minutes of talking to them, to think about what you think their personality is like. You'll be surprised at how much information you feel you have, from a short time of interaction. Then ask yourself: what made me come to these (perhaps erroneous) conclusions?

 

It's obviously more nuanced than a simple friend or foe, as humans have historically been in more complex relations then simple I'll stab you in the back or give you the keys to my kingdom, but the ability to read other people is still important to our social survival. Without it, we're considered to register on the autism spectrum.

 

Hmm. I can sense the extreme ends of human personality like if someone's a creeper or whatnot (or generally makes me uneasy). But definitely the subtle personality types are very hard for me to pick up in a short time; it's not that I make erroneous observations it's that I have no idea what conclusions to come to about them. I don't think I'm autistic though and to be honest that never crossed my mind until reading your post.

[Kamille]

Hmm. I can sense the extreme ends of human personality like if someone's a creeper or whatnot (or generally makes me uneasy). But definitely the subtle personality types are very hard for me to pick up in a short time; it's not that I make erroneous observations it's that I have no idea what conclusions to come to about them. I don't think I'm autistic though and to be honest that never crossed my mind until reading your post.

 

Certainly not what I wanted to imply. Just generally, when humans interact, we are constantly ."reading" each other. It doesn't mean we draw grand conclusions about their personalities, just that we know how to navigate the interaction, get a general idea of who they could be, what mood they were in (or perhaps a sensation they were faking being chipper), etc.