xbexy87x Posted April 3, 2011 Posted April 3, 2011 About 10 weeks ago my bf broke up with me after nearly 2 years of being together. His reason? He didnt want the hassle of a gf anymore, wanted to do what he wants when he wants. Basically he wanted space. He is a huge mummys boy and plays footy and and goes to the gym practically everyday. Now these last 10 weeks have been on and off for him. He said no to seeing me as feelings are still there and if we saw each other out at night in the bars talking or flirting with another girl/boy then we wouldnt like it and we would get angry with each other. But we met up within those weeks and had sex nearly all the time. It wasnt just sex then throw me away, it was cuddle, talk, sex, cuddle and he would take me home and kiss me and say he would txt me soon. We have done this on and off. We had a discussion a few weeks back where he said he loves me but wants space and he knows he would regret his decision and he would have to get on with everything if he saw me out with another guy. He knows full well im not that type of person to sleep around or kiss guys out. I have to see them etc before any of that so he knows I wouldnt do that and he knows I still have feelings for him so I cant let go.. So atm its like he only contacts me when he wants me and same with the sex. Like having his cake and eating it. Having the best of both worlds. Having me still in his life but with no commitment. There hasnt been a week gone by that we havnt txtd each other. I want him back I really do but it is sooo hard to not contact him. I have read everywhere that no contact is the best way for a guy to miss you or wonder what you are doing.. and also its the best way for me to move on.. Sorry that was long winded!!! Any advice would be great :-) especially in winning him back! P.s I had this reply before to it and I think I agree! Anyene else? 'A relationship with breathing space is good but you have to determine how much time is spent together, with friends, intimate time, and alone time. Having balance is important. So is lifestyle compatibility. Some men think breaking up is the only way to get space. Why is having a girlfriend a hassle? You are not in his life to take away his freedom, but only to add or top it off his happiness. He's just took the easy way, bailed out and never giving you the opportunity to express your views. Here I see somebody having issues with boundaries and asserting his own rights, someone who feels the only way to get what he wants is by escaping, and dodging conflict. No contact works. You increase your own value by letting him know that you want something bigger, better than what he's offering, and by not settling. By worrying about losing you it gives him the incentive to work harder to get you back in his life.'
Author xbexy87x Posted April 3, 2011 Author Posted April 3, 2011 Oh and also he bought me a necklace for my bday and it broke a week after we split, I was so upset :-( and he wants to get me another one.. its been 3 months since and I told him not to bother with it anymore since its been so long, it doesnt matter to him and we arnt togther. He replied that he couldnt afford to get it then as he has just bought his new car and he thinks about buying me this necklace alot. We spoke on the phone last night (when I was drunk!) and he was speaking all cutesy/babyish. He said he would come round tomorrow and show me his new car and then we can have a hug. Also said he misses me. Do you guys think he is just playing with me? Keeping me sweet and dangling on a string so I can never dissapear from his life and im there when he wants me?
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