happythroughout Posted April 3, 2011 Posted April 3, 2011 Don't get me wrong, I love and miss being in a relationship. There are good things about it. But I get tired even thinking about how there will be points in the relationship where I would freak out about something, like OMG he hasn't called me in the last 24 hours, that's an anamoly so something must be wrong, or he didn't do this on facebook so something is amiss. It's not about me being a control freak but I see so many threads here about people wondering whether it's still a relationship when the SO does something out of the ordinary and people drive themselves crazy analyzing the situations. I get frightened sometimes though and sometimes my woman's instincts prove themselves right. Sure, many posters would recommend going with the flow, not freaking out at every little issue. But sometimes it isn't that easy. Anyway, my question is does anyone else here feel exhausted from all these insecurities, if you will? But there are times that you can't call the little nagging voice at the back of your head "insecurities" because the something that tells you your SO is acting strange and your relationship is going down the drain actually turns out to be true. I'm tired.
flow15 Posted April 3, 2011 Posted April 3, 2011 I came out of a relationship 3 months ago.. and even though I was devastated that my ex broke up with me. I must say that I do not miss all those things that use to drive me insane... it probably was because maybe there wasn't 100% trust in the relationship which made me feel that way. And even though my ex broke up with me, I was close to ending it because I wasn't happy as he wasn't making effort which was driving me insane. I just hope that my next relationship won't be like that, because I won't be able to handle it. But then again, maybe it is the person who you are with. I found out that my ex had kissed another girl, but he lied to me about it.. and everything little thing he did after that drove me crazy and I was always questioning whether he truely loved me and if he really wanted to be with me, which would make me extremely insecure. I guess the answer is to finding someone who doesn't make you feel insecure, and who doesn't do things that make you doubt him.
Author happythroughout Posted April 4, 2011 Author Posted April 4, 2011 Why is it so difficult to find someone that delivers what he promises? A lot of times it's just as simple as that. That's what I need.
BeginAgain Posted April 4, 2011 Posted April 4, 2011 Then you would really love me. I don't own a cellphone, don't have a facebook, and I rarely use the landline. You would go so insane with me as your bf you would be catatonic after 2 days.
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