TryingtoUnderstand32 Posted April 3, 2011 Posted April 3, 2011 I'm having a REALLY hard time tonight. Was doing better last day or so, but all downhill tonight. My thoughts are racing - "Is he out with someone else? Does he feel weird not being with me tonight?" blah blah blah.. I HATE this feeling. I really do.
Tybalt Posted April 3, 2011 Posted April 3, 2011 You aren't alone. I hear you. Last night I was dumped, and my now ex-boyfriend and I had made plans for most of this weekend. I met some girlfriends last night a few hours after he called me and ended it, but I don't feel very inclined to go anywhere tonight. I just want to process this, and get on with it.
lapse Posted April 3, 2011 Posted April 3, 2011 Oh yea - I'm with ya. The weekends are the hardest. The best thing you can do is make plans and do something fun. And when I say they're the hardest for me, seriously - I can relate. Last weekend was sooo low. This weekend has been much better. Hang out - try hard to have fun. It will get better.
Author TryingtoUnderstand32 Posted April 3, 2011 Author Posted April 3, 2011 Oh yea - I'm with ya. The weekends are the hardest. The best thing you can do is make plans and do something fun. And when I say they're the hardest for me, seriously - I can relate. Last weekend was sooo low. This weekend has been much better. Hang out - try hard to have fun. It will get better. I did go out last night and felt ok. But tonights different. My mind is wandering. I'm trying to resist the urge of finding out if he is seeing someone else.
lapse Posted April 3, 2011 Posted April 3, 2011 I did go out last night and felt ok. But tonights different. My mind is wandering. I'm trying to resist the urge of finding out if he is seeing someone else. Yup! Had the same flailing thoughts last weekend. Wondering how fast he could get another date and then how quickly he'd probably jump them given his state of mind. The nice side, though, if they do have another date is that sometimes it will make them yearn for *you*. Could be a good thing if he's out. As we all know, it's actually hard to find someone you really want to be with. I doubt his first weekend out is going to be oh so free n fab. I do know where you are. I was there last weekend. Very sad and wondering... this will pass, I promise you it will. Do not indulge the checking... that crap is quicksand. If you know one way or the other, it will only make it worse. I promise. It will be fodder for just more obsessive thoughts. You'll be ok. Take some benadryl. Go to bed with a really entertaining book. Or watch a great movie. Just do something that you enjoy. That will keep you engaged until you go to bed. I'm with you - I'm thinking about ya and hoping that you can take a deep breath, feel your heart beating, and know that you will get through tonight. All you need is you. You have all the strength you need to handle this.
Author TryingtoUnderstand32 Posted April 3, 2011 Author Posted April 3, 2011 Yup! Had the same flailing thoughts last weekend. Wondering how fast he could get another date and then how quickly he'd probably jump them given his state of mind. The nice side, though, if they do have another date is that sometimes it will make them yearn for *you*. Could be a good thing if he's out. As we all know, it's actually hard to find someone you really want to be with. I doubt his first weekend out is going to be oh so free n fab. I do know where you are. I was there last weekend. Very sad and wondering... this will pass, I promise you it will. Do not indulge the checking... that crap is quicksand. If you know one way or the other, it will only make it worse. I promise. It will be fodder for just more obsessive thoughts. You'll be ok. Take some benadryl. Go to bed with a really entertaining book. Or watch a great movie. Just do something that you enjoy. That will keep you engaged until you go to bed. I'm with you - I'm thinking about ya and hoping that you can take a deep breath, feel your heart beating, and know that you will get through tonight. All you need is you. You have all the strength you need to handle this. I really don't think he is already dating someone else. Really don't ,but I still have the thoughts. And the urge to "check". Just seemed like he lost his feeling for me so fast. The night before he ended things I took a pregnancy test at his place. I'm "late" and still haven't gotten it. Praying I'm not.
Dims85 Posted April 3, 2011 Posted April 3, 2011 I'm in the same situation today will be a week since my fiance left and it's really hard. My friends are inviting me out and stuff it's just hard to take your Mind off what they are doing and what's going on with them. You just have to focus on having a good time no matter how hard it is. Get with A bunch if good friends and have a good time like you did when you were single, enjoy yourself, laugh have a drinnk or 2. Just don't worry about them, they are only Pretending to be happy right now anyways they hurt as well. So go Enjoy yourself and have a good Night
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