Patrice Posted April 2, 2011 Posted April 2, 2011 You can read my history here ... MM who lives 700 miles away and we had a thing EA at the demise of my marriage. He wants to see me, fly down to him next week. He is planning an exit from his marriage .. it's been a hit and miss thing - we talk, I've dated other people and he gets really jealous. We have talked for the past two months on the phone, I don't call him as I have severe reservations about being betrayed by him. I went to France with another man over the summer who wanted to get married, but I decided he wasn't right for me. I've dated a man 9 years younger since the summer, but he is tied up with his child who is 9 .. mine are grown and through college. When do you follow your heart and when do you follow your head? I'm a very cautious person, perhaps my flaw ... and how long does it take to trust again? What are the warning signs?
desertIslandCactus Posted April 2, 2011 Posted April 2, 2011 Why are you supposed to fly down to him? Doesn't seem that there is any decision you should have to make at this time. You haven't found 'the one' - who is free, as you are. The MM is still married, and it would seem that if he wants to see you - he can come to you.
Emme Posted April 3, 2011 Posted April 3, 2011 You don't meet him until his divorce is final. You also don't leave yor home town to visit a man. He wants you... he comes to you.
Flabbergaster Posted April 3, 2011 Posted April 3, 2011 You don't meet him until his divorce is final. You also don't leave yor home town to visit a man. He wants you... he comes to you. MM perspective: I concur with Emme on this. Don't meet him anywhere until his divorce is final. And you will wnat to bee seeing the divorce papers yourself. Well..you could leave your home town to visit a [single] man...if he's paying for the expenses and putting you up in a hotel by yourself (not his house). The difficulty here is that you will subconsciously feel the need to repay him, and be more likely to offer sex. This is related to why women should never let a man buy them a drink; humans feel the need to reciprocate favors and you're more likely to sleep with a man if you let him buy you a drink.
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