muzik_lvr Posted April 2, 2011 Posted April 2, 2011 I know that many on this forum (myself included) have hopes that someday they will be able to reconcile with their ex-gf/bf and continue the relationship that once ended. But, my question is, do second change relationships generally last? Do any of you know of examples (on here or elsewhere) that a second chance relationship actually lead to a successful marriage? Like I said, I am one of those who are hoping for this to happen, but should we be considering the honest likelihood that this will actually happen for us? I know every situation is different, and I know that just because the odds are against it doesn't mean it won't happen. In fact, I actually know 3 couples personally who broke up and ended up coming back together and getting married, so I know it can/does happen. Just thought I would throw the question out there for discussion.
chris1987 Posted April 3, 2011 Posted April 3, 2011 (edited) I have seen it go both ways. But some times it makes your love stronger if you can work out what caused the break up in the first place. If not your doomed from the start. I my relationship I have no hope of being with her again. Thats how I move on with no hope. If you don't expect must you wont be dissapointed Edited April 3, 2011 by chris1987
Leandro Posted April 3, 2011 Posted April 3, 2011 I have seen it before. I've seen it happen on here too. I think the people will need some time to focus on themselves and what happen in the relationship. Work on the problems that caused the relationship to end. No point in trying again if the same problems are there still.
Little_Bee Posted April 3, 2011 Posted April 3, 2011 I think it can happen and work but that's rather rare as often there were issues causing the break up and it's not easy to work through these issues. I second chris1987 as even though my heart might hope I try to focus my mind on not to hope as this is the only way to move on. If you still hope that there is a second or third chance for the relationship it will take way longer to heal and the disappointment and pain will be even harder if you realise that the chance might never come.
TryTryAgain Posted April 3, 2011 Posted April 3, 2011 I have personally been in a "second chance" relationship, and it has not work out...yet. The trouble is I'm dealing with a person who has some serious commitment issues. I'm starting to realize it truly is her, not me. Having said that, my ex's best friend and her husband went through a few breakups and reconciliations and they are now happily married. I think it really depends on the two people involved.
Fufu Posted April 3, 2011 Posted April 3, 2011 Personally, truly personally, second chance relationships can last BUT ONLY when BOTH parties are willing to listen to each other feelings, work problems out together especially those that triggered the relationship to be broken.
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