thatdog Posted April 4, 2011 Posted April 4, 2011 It's nice you met someone you have a small crush on, but what stopped you from pursuing her when you met? IDK. Don't you find it kinda weird/sleazy if some guy you've never met before tries chatting you up (outside bar/club/etc)?
Nexus One Posted April 4, 2011 Posted April 4, 2011 It's nice you met someone you have a small crush on, but what stopped you from pursuing her when you met? Several factors actually. But I think the biggest factors were that I saw her for the first time and at first I didn't even look at her "in that way" and I hardly knew anything about her, but as some time passed I thought "hey wait a minute, this girl seems pretty interesting". And then later at home I thought, "perhaps I should contemplate making a move on her". But like I said, I haven't fallen into a crush yet, only that I noticed that my head feels a bit funny when I think about her, but that's it for now.
Girlygirl1977 Posted April 4, 2011 Posted April 4, 2011 IDK. Don't you find it kinda weird/sleazy if some guy you've never met before tries chatting you up (outside bar/club/etc)? Good question - usually I would say yes but I'm also trying to be more open since I don't like to hang around bars;). . . Actually I just read actor Michael Vartan (from Alias) married a woman he met in the Whole Food parking lot. So it happens. I'm in a big city so I tend to be wary and most of the people probably aren't worth speaking to. This past wk, I was in a high end mall and this guy asked me for a restaurant. I hadn't heard about it and so I took out my iphone to try to check it out. And he admitted that he was making that restaurant up. I ended up talking to him and gave him my biz card. He left me a msg that night but I haven't yet gotten the courage to follow-up. I think he's fairly well educated though and it doesn't alter my perception of writing people I meet as randomly off. To be fair he is originally from Italy and so that type of boldness is probably from there. The truth is, we could meet people anywhere. It does make sense to use good judgment.
dispatch3d Posted April 4, 2011 Posted April 4, 2011 you complain about everyone talking about your looks, then post 5 pictures of yourself, then say noone talks about world peace, then wonder why people don't talk to you about things other than your looks. tough one. I'll let you solve this.
SwissLeo Posted April 4, 2011 Posted April 4, 2011 (edited) you're not that intimidating sweetheart. I've dated chicks hotter than you and trust me they didn't intimidate me a bit. Just let me know where you hang out and I'll come talk to you. Edited April 4, 2011 by SwissLeo
MrNate Posted April 4, 2011 Posted April 4, 2011 Lol... you are too cute!!! I <3 My Little Pony... your avatar always makes me smile To the OP, you are gorgeous (if that's you in the pic) and no I don't think there's such a thing as "too beautiful" or "too handsome." I think you should just get to know guys you are interested in and initiate talking to them and let them know you are interested. Maybe they just think you aren't interested in them? Encouragement and friendliness really helps guys take the initiative! About the title, it reminds me of 2 songs lol... Right Said Fred: "I'm too sexy for my love Too sexy for my love Love's going to leave me I'm too sexy for my shirt Too sexy for my shirts So sexy it hurts " and Keri Hilson: "Don’t hate me cause I’m beautiful Don’t hate me cause I’m beautiful Doing the pretty girl rock rock rock" Those songs are awesome!!! When I heard that song, my initial thought was.. 'what a cocky woman' but MAN she is a piece of work. So, I'll let her slide...
BeginAgain Posted April 4, 2011 Posted April 4, 2011 She sounds too much like the kind of person the "I am too sexy for..." song was written about. That could be driving away the guys. Men are much more responsive to women who are open, friendly, kind, and gentle. Smiling gently and genuinely at guys she likes helps. Winking in a flirtatious way at a guy who notices her that she likes might help break the ice and get him to approach. If she is trying to out do the heat miser by acting like she is just too much few will be responsive. Sending away all suitors even if she doesn't care for them in body bags won't help how she is perceived and therefore her luck with the guys who pique her interest.
youaretheone Posted April 4, 2011 Posted April 4, 2011 Are you sure you are being approachable? Do you take notice of your body language? No offense but I have seen women more gorgeous than you who were easily approachable and not intimidating.
daphne Posted April 5, 2011 Posted April 5, 2011 It sounds like you need to work on your approachability. One thing to consider is wearing very little makeup and just tinted lipgloss. Tone it down. I noticed that I got a lot more guys approaching when I did that. Also, being a little flirtatious and generally happy will get you smiling. If you like people, this shouldn't be hard. Learn to disarm people, and men will see that you're easier to talk to than you thought. You have a great smile. Use it. Try to be less modely and mysterious and sweet and maybe a little innocent. You're young, you can pull it off. I think that'll widen your audience. If you want the hot guy, you'll have to go less innocent and more Megan Fox. You look less Megan Fox to me though. That's not a bad thing. I think she's hot, but she looks a little porn also. Just consider your audience. Just try those 2 things (less makeup, work on flirting and disarming people.)
Mme. Chaucer Posted April 6, 2011 Posted April 6, 2011 Modesty is a very appealing quality, and others can sense it easily no matter how "beautiful" you are. Maybe try developing that a bit.
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