MrNiceGuy2 Posted April 2, 2011 Posted April 2, 2011 (edited) Me and my ex-girlfriend had a 1.5 year relationship (broke up two months ago). For more than a year, it was perfect. Then, our relationship slowly became a little less exciting, more boring, kind of a routine. The thing is that I was still madly in love with her, and she said then (and I trust her - she's dead honest) that she was in love me. When things stopped being perfect (but still good), she started missing being single, or being with other guys. We knew we should have broken up back then, but neither of us could do it, and we decided to try and fix it. Of course that didn't work. The last time we decided not to break up but to try and fix it, doing anything we can, was a week before we broke up. Then she met a guy, and in the evening of the same day she told me she felt something towards that guy and that probably means we shouldn't be together anymore, and we broke up. When she broke up with me she told me she loves me and gave me a really strong hug - I know she was sincere. I obviously felt terrible, almost didn't eat or sleep for a week, after around a week or two, I called her to see how she was doing, since I missed her a lot. She was quite rude to me, completely not like herself, like she didn't care about me anymore. I felt like I didn't know her. Later I found out that right after we broke up, she was in a relationship with that guy she met the day we broke up. I met her at a party when she and that guy were still together, a friend told me she told him that she really wanted to say hello to me (I was much less eager to do so, but I did). My friends told me she's been staring at me all night long, but I didn't even glance at her during that night. Anyway, she and that guy were together for a month and broke up. A few days ago I found out that a few days after they broke up, she got a new boyfriend, and that's going on for a couple of weeks now. When I heart about that, I wasn't too hurt - I felt quite blank about it, but it still bothers me. Anyway, we haven't talked at all, except for my phone call and that party. It makes me sad that after all this time we've been together, she doesn't show the least concern about me, calling me to ask how I'm doing or something like that... Our mutual friends said, when we just got together, that before she met me, even when she had other boyfriends, she was unbalanced, and that I made her much more balanced. Now they say that since we broke up she got unbalanced again and quite annoying, just like she was before we met. I know I was really good for her and she was great for me. The thing is that I really know that we shouldn't get back together, especially with her being so immature (she's always been a little), going from one rebound to another, but I do miss her and still have feelings for her. I really wish it all wouldn't have happened, and that she and I were still together. I loved her a lot, and she loved me a lot, and we got along great, but I think she just wasn't ready to continue this long relationship. I lately have an urge to call her, even though it's probably not a good idea, since she has this boyfriend now. I do wish we could've stayed friends and keep in touch, especially since we have a lot of good mutual friends. I sometimes believe and hope she would someday understand she made a mistake. Any tips on what to do? I'm quite clueless. Thanks! (sorry for the length!) Edited April 2, 2011 by MrNiceGuy2
VJohnson32 Posted April 2, 2011 Posted April 2, 2011 I know its hard and it hurts like a bi***. But seeing she has moved on and already in a new relationship that leaves you with one option. To move on as well. Alot harder than it sounds but trust me you got NOTHING else. First you have to beat those urges to call her and see what she is doing. Once you get the urge/feeling it makes you sad and vulnerable but fight it...calling her would make you feel good for a moment but at the end will make you feel like crap because she doesnt want to be with you. She sounds immature for sure... let it go.
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