TryingtoUnderstand32 Posted April 2, 2011 Posted April 2, 2011 I have clothes of my ex's. I'm having a hard time getting rid of them. He told me a week ago, not to bother giving them back and throw them or give them away. We live an hour apart, I offered to drop them off. My brain tells me he doesn't deserve for me to be kind and drop them off. I guess having them is my last tie to him and I just now realized that. I think I was secretly hoping that if I dropped them off, he may have an epiphany in a few days and regret ending us. I know that is a fantasy.
Mcnulty Posted April 2, 2011 Posted April 2, 2011 Put them on eBay...you might make a few quid if he had sartorial taste!! Seriously...get rid of them, give them to a charity shop and let go, listen to your head, not your heart.
Author TryingtoUnderstand32 Posted April 2, 2011 Author Posted April 2, 2011 Seriously...get rid of them, give them to a charity shop and let go, listen to your head, not your heart. Easier said than done.
Dims85 Posted April 2, 2011 Posted April 2, 2011 im in the same boat as you trying. I don't know exactly what to do with her stuff yet i know i need to get rid of it. I keep having that same thought that if i drop it off to her she might come around and realize what she did....but most likely not in both of our cases. I decided to hold onto her stuff for a bit longer as its only been a week, but I gave myself a 30 day limit to holding onto it. If she hasn't called in a month its going in the trash or goodwill
geegirl Posted April 3, 2011 Posted April 3, 2011 I did the same thing. Returned all the stuff and things were still the same. It's going to take a whole lot more than that for it to go back to what it was again. Cut that tie. Throw the clothes. Donate it. Box it and have a friend hold on to it until you are ready to dump them. Just don't go and give it back to him. It's not important enough for him to drive an hour so why would you want to do it. Telling you to throw them away may be his way of also avoiding the possibility of having to see or interact with you.
Author TryingtoUnderstand32 Posted April 3, 2011 Author Posted April 3, 2011 I did the same thing. Returned all the stuff and things were still the same. It's going to take a whole lot more than that for it to go back to what it was again. Cut that tie. Throw the clothes. Donate it. Box it and have a friend hold on to it until you are ready to dump them. Just don't go and give it back to him. It's not important enough for him to drive an hour so why would you want to do it. Telling you to throw them away may be his way of also avoiding the possibility of having to see or interact with you. I will be donating them tomorrow. I told him I would leave his stuff at his door. Wasn't even going to knock. But he still didn't want them
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