Airick Posted April 2, 2011 Posted April 2, 2011 It was a mutual break up and I recently fell for her again. We have never been broken up and had been dating for almost 4 years. We have been eating lunch regularly for 2 weeks, not this week, she only wants to be friends. Even to the point of saying it would never happen again. I know she doesn't really mean never since I can tell she still has feelings for me. The only reason she says never again is because she thinks I will go back to how I was before. I know that I wont because I have truly changed for myself because I knew all the things I needed to improve about myself. What should I do?
VJohnson32 Posted April 2, 2011 Posted April 2, 2011 Ive been there... you both have feelings for each other, she wont admit it but you can tell. Friendships can get very complicated and nasty if both of you have some kind of feelings towards one another. Maybe time apart with no contact would be the best thing. It will give you a perspective on things and at the same time these feelings will slowly fade away. If its ever meant to be you two will get back together at one point. No point of making it work out right now if she has her doubts, doesnt matter how much you have changed. Only time will tell... NC is the best thing at the moment, no need for torture...
Author Airick Posted April 2, 2011 Author Posted April 2, 2011 Thanks, as I read through countless articles, forums, and listened to dating advice. Everything and everyone tells me that NC is best. So today is the first day of my no contact.
IM5150 Posted April 3, 2011 Posted April 3, 2011 Thanks, as I read through countless articles, forums, and listened to dating advice. Everything and everyone tells me that NC is best. So today is the first day of my no contact. Good luck Airick. I'm on the same boat as you. Actually, I'm a little further ahead. We broke up after she told me she met someone else. I went 30 days with NC but then broke it and we started talking again. For the next 4 months we tried the friendship thing. Some days were better than others. The guy that she met was actually a long distance relationship that eventually dissolved. In reality, trying to be friends while you still have feelings for her is VERY tough. My toughest experience was hanging out but not being able to be intimate with her. Can you imagine going out for drinks, have a great time, getting drunk with her and then you can't do anything but take her home and say Good night! That was HELL for me. The reason why I lasted 4 months was because even though we were just friends, we would still kiss and hug, sometimes even hold hands, which made no sense to me. I'm not sure why she did that to me. Anyways, I recently went NC with her again, only to run into her at a hair salon, then the bar and I ended up giving her a ride home. Now here I am again, going on day 2 of NC and it hurts. I'm going to take it day by day and hopefully I will start to feel better. Good luck man!
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