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bear with me while I give the details...

 

So I have been with my girlfriend for 6 years. I met her 2nd year of college and now she is in Grad school and I am in Medical School in my 3rd year and she just broke up with me.

 

After college I told her to move in with me at my parents house since she was from a small town and didnt really have a family. She stayed for 2yrs worked and studied for her GRE so she can apply to grad school. I went to medical school while she was still at my house and saw her during my breaks but spoke to her every day. We really loved each other and my family became very close to her.

 

We tend to argue over stupid things or I would try to see how much she loves me and so that was our major issue. I have cheated on her before and told her and she forgave me. We always talked about one day getting married...

 

fast forward to this month...She is across the country in her grad school and I am studying for a board exam which is in 2 months. After I am done I am supposed to go there for school, and we can finaly be together. But just recently I had an image of her kissing another guy. I called her to ask her about it and I happen to catch her right after she did it. She was so sorry and said she loved me and that she was drunk and it didnt mean anything. She said she was attracted to the guy but it didnt mean anything. I didnt over react and forgave her but then she said she needed a break to re-evaluate herself. I feared this meant breaking up. She said that it wasnt and that she was 99% sure we would end up together and that she loves me and wants to marry me. I was still doubting it but agreed to the break. I cried and told her that I didnt want to lose her. a couple days later we were casually talking and I asked her if she can be up front with me because I didnt know how long this break was gonna be and didnt want to find out the result right before my test. I told her not to give me false hope and just tell me if she wants to be with me or not. So she said no and that we are growing apart and thats shes not attracted to me more than a friend. This was a complete surprise. I didnt know how she went from loving me and wanting to be with me to this. It almost seemed like someone put her up to this. Leading up to this she was a bit distant so maybe she was giving it a thought. I asked her if it was because of another guy but she said no. Any ways at this point I became angry and started talking loud saying she never deserved me and that she cant find someone who loves her so much. I said good luck with everything and that you wont hear from me again and then I said bye. I defriended her on facebook so I dont see her or make her think im spying on her. I deleted her number from my phone and its been 3 weeks since we have have had no contact.

 

4 days after the break up she emailed my sister asking about me to see if I was eating, and still studying for my test. She said she felt bad for what happened but she was now able to focus more on school (which is bs considering I never bothered her). she said that "I do hope that when he's done studying and ready to talk to me again, that we will both be in a good enough place in our lives to try starting again." this refering to my test in 2 months. she also has an important test on that day.

 

So here are my questions:

 

1) Does she still have feelings for me or is she still thinking of me or has she moved on?

2)what did she mean by "try starting again"

3) Is there hope of getting her back? and if so what should I do. right now Its been 3wks and Im continuing no contact till after my test.

 

any advice?

 

I dont get why someone can drop me like a hat after 6yrs. when everything was good besides the distance and stupid arguing. She never gave a reason for breaking up and I felt like she was letting me down easy. I believe that she is influenced by her new friends and new environment and wants to maybe try being single. I just dont know if she will come back.

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