silverbullet11787 Posted April 2, 2011 Posted April 2, 2011 Hey, just had a question about a girl im currently crushin' on So, it's been 3 years since i moved back home from college. It's almost like I don't know anyone in this town anymore, since its so small and nearly everyone moved away. In fact, I only know like 3 people that still live near here and came back here with me. Anywayz... I've been working this job at a hotel, and I met this girl (swear to god most drop dead gorgeous woman I've met in my life), but i'm not really sure how I should go about this. I talk to her plenty, mostly trying to get her to open up (she's really, REALLY shy for some reason). She seems to be giving a lot of signs that she's interested in me, some that a few of my co-workers have said were really showing. Recently, though, I found out that she's been in a "serious" relationship with someone for something like 2 + years, maybe more. I dunno. Anyway, I'm really confused as how to approach this. I wanna ask her out, but I don't wanna put her in "that situation", if you know what i'm getting at. It's almost been 2 years since I dated someone seriously, and since then only flings. But i'm, really interested in this girl and she's quite possibly the nicest girl I've ever met. Any advice any of you veteran love birds can toss my way? I wanna ask her out without scarring her away and without forcing myself into the friend zone. Thank you all =)
Survivor12 Posted April 2, 2011 Posted April 2, 2011 She's in a relationship. Do her--and yourself--a favor and keep your feelings to yourself. If you were to ask her out, one of two things will happen: 1) she will say no (and very likely avoid you like the plague), or 2) say yes and end up either cheating on or breaking up with her bf (which may still lead to her not wanting anything to do with you and perhaps even blaming you for the breakup if things don't work out between you). The best thing you can do is to back off, limit your contact with her as much as possible (for your own sake) and continue to look for someone who is not involved with anyone else. That way, if she should become single, you won't have destroyed your chances with her.
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