rose45 Posted April 2, 2011 Posted April 2, 2011 ok, i met someone recently from an online site..the first meeting didn't go bad and i felt he was "normal" compared to alot of others i had met and he also seems pretty nice and respectful. I was still unsure of the attraction. Sometimes i know right away within the first meeting, sometimes i tried to be attracted but after 2-3 dates that was it. We went out again last week and he still seems pretty nice and has a good heart..for some reason i just don't know for sure if i am completely attracted..and i don't want to be shallow but i felt like his mouth was just really really small/thing etc I don't know if any other woman has experienced this. When driving home i was kind of thinking we may kiss so i guess some part of me must be attracted? We did kiss and it felt different b/c his lips are pretty thin..i felt like my mouth and even tongue was bigger... I know this may sound shallow but does factor into my level of attraction to some degree. I am supposed to see him again..and i am guessing I need to figure this out..but if i don't want to kiss him the next time it will make things awkward. Has anyone else experienced this? Maybe i need to spend more time with him to see if the attractiong grows?
johan Posted April 2, 2011 Posted April 2, 2011 I've experienced it. Sometimes you can't help the little things that turn you off. It's easy to feel guilty about it, because if it wasn't for that one little detail you can't stop thinking about, it would be a great match. Occasionally you meet someone who you feel ready to throw all your shallow little hangups out the window for. It does go both ways. In most cases you'll just have to go with your gut. Guilt doesn't lead to love.
Author rose45 Posted April 2, 2011 Author Posted April 2, 2011 would you break up over something like that? but if the kiss always feels different and not in a good way then i doubt i can deal with that b/c it's not a turn on maybe i am just not used to kissing someone recently but every other guy i kissed i never thought this..what was partially going through my head when kissing was i was asking myself is his face smaller than mine, almost like i am kissing a girl than a guy? And i felt like his tongue was smaller too. Sorry if that sounds weird. I think some part of me could be looking more closely b/c it's online dating and it's so easy to do. I am so nervous about seeing him tomorrow b/c if i am not feeling it then i will have to end it... i am guessing though if i wasn't attracted i wouldnt have even allowed a kiss to happen? i never kissed a guy in the past unless i was somewhat attracted..unless at this point i am just so desperate for a relationship lol
fishtaco Posted April 2, 2011 Posted April 2, 2011 It is what it is. This one time, at band camp, I decided not to date this chick because of her Bostonian accent.
MarlyStar Posted April 2, 2011 Posted April 2, 2011 I don't like thin lips either. It's partially why I don't think Charlie Sheen iss even remotely attractive. I recently found myself looking at a guy's lips I was attractive too and wondering if I would want to kiss someone with thin lips. I figured it wasn't necessarily the lips that mattered but what you did with them that counted.
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