Author Lilmisus Posted April 3, 2011 Author Posted April 3, 2011 If you're a good looking gal, every guy you know if going to be interested in you. We have a hard time controlling our sexual urges even if it somebody we have been friends with for years. I have a really hot female friend and everything between me and her has been strictly platonic. Hasn't been an issue. If a girl ever said "I value your friendship too much to date you." though if I was interested, I'd prefer her to just jab me in the throat with a tire iron honestly. Be firm, tell them you arn't interested in them sexually. I really hope that's not true with my guy friends, honestly. There's quite a few of them who I've known for many years, and even would say that they feel like brothers to me. They all know that I'm not interested in them, and I've even talked to some of them about guys before, and they've talked to me about girls before..it's just known that we're only friends. When I think about it though, one male friend of mine who I've known since 2nd grade and still talk to and see every now and then and is like a brother to me, got "excited" when I sat on his lap a couple of years ago, and it was incredibly awkward . I guess he's one of those who just doesn't see me in the same light..so I guess you are right..shi*.
Hules Posted April 3, 2011 Posted April 3, 2011 I really hope that's not true with my guy friends, honestly. There's quite a few of them who I've known for many years, and even would say that they feel like brothers to me. They all know that I'm not interested in them, and I've even talked to some of them about guys before, and they've talked to me about girls before..it's just known that we're only friends. When I think about it though, one male friend of mine who I've known since 2nd grade and still talk to and see every now and then and is like a brother to me, got "excited" when I sat on his lap a couple of years ago, and it was incredibly awkward . I guess he's one of those who just doesn't see me in the same light..so I guess you are right..shi*. Lil I think you will find most of your guy "friends" are not really your friends. They are most likely one of the following: A) Too pussy to ask you out directly, and think if they spend lots of time with you been nice etc, that you will magically one day wake up and go "OMG! xxx is such a awesome guy, I just never realised!" (Which is retarded and not your fault at all but lots of guys do this.) B) Variation of A, They met you and thought "wow shes hot, I'll make my moves on her.... oh **** she has a boyfriend, thats cool I'll just hang around as a "friend" until they break up, then she will be all mine *rubs hands together*" (Once again retarded but lots of guys do it.) C) This is the one where your behavior could be misinterpreted, Guy thinks "wow lil flirts with me a lot she must really dig me but is playing hard to get or <insert a dozen other stupid reasons here>". He will go tell his friends about how much you secretly want him. Friends like me will tell him hes "been a idiot and wasting his time *rolls eyes* :rolleyes:" by this point he has you on a giant pedestal and will blow up in my face "NA MAN LILS ****ING CRAZY ABOUT ME YOU DONT KNOW ****!?" (I have had this happen..... guess what she wasn't crazy about him). Situation A and B I have little sympathy for C will feel like hes been lead on and will be really upset. I will give you an extreme example of situation A (which is kinda like your friend from grade 2). One of my closest friends has been in love with a girl since he was 15 she rejected him back then. So he took the "friend route" to try and win her heart over, she has rejected him probably a dozen times since then. I only met her for the first time last year when a few of my friends and I went overseas together and she came a long (Later turned out that it was a big ruse for my friend to try and win this girl over "again"). I'll give this girl one thing she is pretty that is for sure. She has so many other things about her that I find repulsive I have no idea what my friend see's in her (she smokes, is a heavy drinker, has a history with drugs and is somewhat of a skank). Anyway my friend spent most of the trip trying to woo her over by doing grand gestures of kindness etc. Me and my other guy friend just basically looked at each other and we both were thinking the same thing "why the **** is he making an ass out of himself....". I was friendly with her but ignored her for the most part. Anyway one night towards the end of the trip she came up to our room where me and my two other guy friends were staying asking if we wanted to go out drinking. My buddies were passed out from drinking earlier in the day. So she was like "Oh well do you want to come then? I don't want to go drinking by myself." I was bored so I agreed (In hindsight this was a bad idea). So we had a few drinks just hanging out talking, I wasn't flirting or anything. Next thing I know shes shoving her tongue down my throat and feeling me up. I pushed her off me and was like "Uh, what the hell!?" she was like "What? your single, I'm single why not?" I said "Because xxxx has been ****ing in love with you since he was 15 and I'm not going to give my best friend up just so I can have some action with you" she laughed at this and said "Hes not in love with me were just "friends" besides he doesn't need to know." I got up and said "Yeah, whatever" and started walking back to my room. She took a shot at me questioning my sexuality as I left, real mature I know . She problably ended up screwing some random guy from the bar anyway . So she must of been massively butt hurt by me rejecting her because the next day my friend who is in love with her comes back to our room crying like a baby because she had shot him down again.... I can never tell him what happened because he has her on such a high pedestal shes in ****ing outer space and would find some way to make what she did my fault. There has been more drama since this happened but I think thats enough for today. This is why I refuse to be "friends" with girls I have had/have feelings for and why I have so few real friendships with females.
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