lisa simpson Posted April 2, 2011 Posted April 2, 2011 Hi All: New to LS and back in the dating game. I thought I would post this to get some persective on how to handle a situation I'm in. I met a guy through an online dating site a few weeks ago. We hit it off pretty well, and have had 3 dates. I like him, he seemed very nice. We had discussions about what we were looking for (both looking for a LT relationship). Anyway, I have come to find out that this guy has been trolling the same dating site, with a different profile, looking specifically for NSA sex. Not something he spoke to me about, at all. Obviously, I guess. So, as we have a date scheduled for tomorrow, my question is: Do I confront him with what I know, and see what he says? Or, do I simply call off the date and ignore from here on out? Thanks for any imput.
Author lisa simpson Posted April 2, 2011 Author Posted April 2, 2011 Is your proof definitive? Yes. 100% Pictures to prove it.
SmileFace Posted April 2, 2011 Posted April 2, 2011 Yes. 100% Pictures to prove it. Is it an active profile?
Woggle Posted April 2, 2011 Posted April 2, 2011 Get Bart to play a nasty prank on him. Seriously though I would cancel it and never look back.
Author lisa simpson Posted April 2, 2011 Author Posted April 2, 2011 Is it an active profile? Yes, it's active.
Author lisa simpson Posted April 2, 2011 Author Posted April 2, 2011 Get Bart to play a nasty prank on him. Seriously though I would cancel it and never look back. Lol. I am thinking the same thing. It would likely just embarass us both if I confront him, right?
SmileFace Posted April 2, 2011 Posted April 2, 2011 Yes, it's active. This is obviously not ok with you... right? What more proof do you want? Sure, ask him about it but remember you guys aren't actually in a relationship or anything.
Author lisa simpson Posted April 2, 2011 Author Posted April 2, 2011 This is obviously not ok with you... right? What more proof do you want? Sure, ask him about it but remember you guys aren't actually in a relationship or anything. Right, I'm not looking for proof. I'm just wondering the best way to handle it, is all. Thanks
Author lisa simpson Posted April 2, 2011 Author Posted April 2, 2011 If you want the drama call him out on it. If you have a sense of humor you could in turn troll him, it could be a great story to tell. Hmmm, how could I troll him? I certainly don't want drama, but do have a sense of humour.
SmileFace Posted April 2, 2011 Posted April 2, 2011 Hmmm, how could I troll him? I certainly don't want drama, but do have a sense of humour. Well this will only bring drama if you are caught but how about writing him as a next women on the NSA account - see if her replies.
SmileFace Posted April 2, 2011 Posted April 2, 2011 Edit: wtf...a cow with spots just ejaculated across my screen. OMG I HATE THAT STUPID LA CREME AD!! Do you know how hard it is to troll LS at work. When out of no where the speakers go off with this loud splashing sound!
Author lisa simpson Posted April 2, 2011 Author Posted April 2, 2011 Well this will only bring drama if you are caught but how about writing him as a next women on the NSA account - see if her replies. That would require me to set up a different profile, so I'm too lazy for that lol. I guess I will just cancel the date and consider myself lucky for getting a heads up on this one.
Author lisa simpson Posted April 2, 2011 Author Posted April 2, 2011 At least it was easy to clean up. Lol. I just needed to run it by an objective crowd - sorry. I realize it seems obvious to the outsider. thanks
Author lisa simpson Posted April 2, 2011 Author Posted April 2, 2011 Well, I missed the parts about cow ejaculate. lol Thanks, guys.
Author lisa simpson Posted April 2, 2011 Author Posted April 2, 2011 Hey. Sorry, didn't mean to take your thread off topic. I mean, its not often you see an ejaculating cow run across your screen. Who knew? Yeah, I think you got it. I would chop this guy off at the knees, or have a bit of fun with it. No, I can see why that would be a distraction. lol I'm gonna cancel and ignore. Have some fun other ways. Thanks again.
D-Lish Posted April 2, 2011 Posted April 2, 2011 I think you have all the proof you need that this guy isn't one of the good ones. Yes, I'd cancel the date and never look back. Consider yourself having dodged a bullet. Put your profile back up and continue your search, someone good will come along.
Pyro Posted April 2, 2011 Posted April 2, 2011 that stupid cow won't leave me alone. and of course he got me right after I posted this
ascendotum Posted April 2, 2011 Posted April 2, 2011 Looks like I'm a bit of a creep then. I have done the same as your guy, and I know a couple of other guys likewise. I was looking for a LTR but also happy to get nsa action in the meantime. A lot of guys dont find it easy going when it comes to finding a great girl on-line (not that flings online is any easier). It can easy take over a year, and a number of people on LS (both sexes) have spent quite a number of years at it with no success. I dont see the sin in wanting sex in the meantime. This scenario has cropped up in posts a few times with the women being horrified with the guy. He could do what some other guys do, while waiting to meet their dream girl, presenting a profile of wanting a loving devoted woman for a LTR, only to roll out the conversation of how he's confused with what he wants, still has feelings for ex, still working on issues & doesn't feel he's quite ready for a relationship, doesn't feel there is connection, etc, the next time he meets the woman after having sex....repeat..repeat..repeat.. If he didn't have an OL nsa profile, but instead said he had sex with half a dozen women in the past year while single that he met at clubs, would you be going 'OMG you're gross'.
Author lisa simpson Posted April 2, 2011 Author Posted April 2, 2011 Looks like I'm a bit of a creep then. I have done the same as your guy, and I know a couple of other guys likewise. I was looking for a LTR but also happy to get nsa action in the meantime. A lot of guys dont find it easy going when it comes to finding a great girl on-line (not that flings online is any easier). It can easy take over a year, and a number of people on LS (both sexes) have spent quite a number of years at it with no success. I dont see the sin in wanting sex in the meantime. This scenario has cropped up in posts a few times with the women being horrified with the guy. He could do what some other guys do, while waiting to meet their dream girl, presenting a profile of wanting a loving devoted woman for a LTR, only to roll out the conversation of how he's confused with what he wants, still has feelings for ex, still working on issues & doesn't feel he's quite ready for a relationship, doesn't feel there is connection, etc, the next time he meets the woman after having sex....repeat..repeat..repeat.. If he didn't have an OL nsa profile, but instead said he had sex with half a dozen women in the past year while single that he met at clubs, would you be going 'OMG you're gross'. I get what you're saying. However, he was very clear about what he wanted. Going so far as to say that he thought it important to work out his "isssues" before jumping back into the dating scene. So, it just leaves me confused, and thinking he really doesn't know what he wants. Anyway, I have cancelled the date, and I'm just going to move on. Thanks for your imput.
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