Forman Posted April 1, 2011 Posted April 1, 2011 If there was a guy who never failed to make you laugh, would that make him more attractive to you? Even if you weren't necessarily attracted to his looks? I certainly believe this, but I want to see what women themselves say.
Bridgey Posted April 1, 2011 Posted April 1, 2011 It would certainly make his personality more attractive, but there still has to be some physical attraction to make a relationship work IMO. But I would much rather date an average looking, funny guy than a super attractive boring guy with no sense of humor.
Cee Posted April 1, 2011 Posted April 1, 2011 I'm only attracted to men who make me laugh. It's more important than good looks. It sounds odd, but my sense of humor is central to who I am. If we the same sense of humor, we are compatible. I confess that my best friend makes me laugh more than my boyfriend. And I admit, I have always held a torch for him. But we are strictly platonic and have been for 20 years. Yeah, laughter is a big deal for me.
SingVoice Posted April 1, 2011 Posted April 1, 2011 Oh laughter is an EASY way to my heart! The first time I met my long term ex...(I was dating someone else)...he CRACKED ME UP! I found myself wishing I was single...and he wasn't really my type at all. I didn't find him physically attractive...but he cracked me up! Eventually we started dating...and he ALWAYS made me laugh. Of course he also had anger problems and threw a computer at me. But whatevs....haha.
tigressA Posted April 1, 2011 Posted April 1, 2011 There has to be at least a little bit of physical attraction there, but yeah, I love to laugh. There was a guy I met who I couldn't help but think was hilarious--he sounded like an a** so much of the time and I wanted to be pissed at him, but he was just too funny to be mad at. We dated for almost 2 years.
threebyfate Posted April 1, 2011 Posted April 1, 2011 Attraction doesn't happen in a vacuum, where one trait dominates all other elements. But a great sense of humour is definitely a bonus, as long as it fits with the woman's sense of humour. For example, if someone prefers wit, they're not going to be drawn to someone who's crude.
tigressA Posted April 1, 2011 Posted April 1, 2011 For example, if someone prefers wit, they're not going to be drawn to someone who's crude. Yep. I love wittiness and sarcasm because that's how I am. And "That's what she said"--I don't know if that would be categorized as crude humor.
EyesWideOpen Posted April 1, 2011 Posted April 1, 2011 Pretty sure I simply could not be attracted to someone who doesn't make me laugh. You could be drop dead gorgeous, but if you've got no (similar) sense of humor...not happening. Likewise, all the sense of humor in the world isn't going to compensate for when I don't find a guy physically attractive.
Author Forman Posted April 1, 2011 Author Posted April 1, 2011 Pretty much what I expected. I'm sure looks play a small part in it, but an ugly funny guy is much better off than an ugly bland guy, and a lot of times a good looking bland guy. Now, say there was a guy who made you laugh a lot and was pretty good looking among other things, and this guy showed interest in you and asked you out. Would there be any reason not to at least go out with him on a first date?
Kelemort Posted April 1, 2011 Posted April 1, 2011 A sense of humor is critical. I love a cheesy sense of humor...deadpan...all of it. I'd say it's probably in the top 5 criteria that take a man from just being an acquaintance or a friend to being my boyfriend.
Author Forman Posted April 1, 2011 Author Posted April 1, 2011 What plans do you have on this first date? What do you mean by plans? Like what we do on the date?
Chicklette Posted April 1, 2011 Posted April 1, 2011 Omgosh. Humour, is a HUGE thing for me! Laughing and being able to make me laugh is very important. It shows that he can make light of the situation, perk you up when you're down, doesn't take things too seriously and knows how to have a good time. Definitely shoots the attractive factor up!
Cee Posted April 1, 2011 Posted April 1, 2011 Some other thoughts... When a guy has offensive or corny humor, I lose interest fast. Sometimes people are too funny. I don't like it when it's like a stand up routine. Funny banter back and forth is most attractive to me.
Author Forman Posted April 1, 2011 Author Posted April 1, 2011 Some other thoughts... When a guy has offensive or corny humor, I lose interest fast. Sometimes people are too funny. I don't like it when it's like a stand up routine. Funny banter back and forth is most attractive to me. I agree. Everyone has different tastes with humor, and there are definitely types that are less likely to be universally liked by others. Clean wit is what I find to be liked by almost everyone - being able to make a quick comment or comparison on what someone else said. Describing things in ways others wouldn't have thought to describe them that puts a funny spin on the subject. And yeah, when someone is clearly putting on a stand up routine, saying stuff he probably rehearsed in the mirror the night before, that's so lame.
Author Forman Posted April 1, 2011 Author Posted April 1, 2011 Exactly. To help by do's and don'ts. If you're talking about my case in particular, I wouldn't have any expectations for the date as far as getting somewhere physically. All I would want is for both of us to have fun and for her to leave wanting to see me again. We'd probably go to the movies and then dinner or coffee...it really doesn't matter what we do as long as we have time to talk at some point.
sunshinegirl Posted April 1, 2011 Posted April 1, 2011 Oh yes, humor is key. I fell in love with my husband based on how much he makes me laugh. I can't say enough about it. I am an avowed morning-hater, normally quite grumpy when I wake up. My husband, however, has managed to transform me into someone who laughs and smiles in the morning with all of our kooky inside jokes. Here's an excerpt from the message he sent me the first time he asked me out: Anyway, I really enjoyed hanging out this past Friday, and I was wondering if you'd like to get together sometime this coming weekend. I've got some family Father's Day stuff happening in the afternoon/evening on Sunday, but besides that I'm free. Lemme know if you're around and would like to get together for: Brunch, coffee, lunch, dinner, drinks, a movie, an IMAX movie, an Amish IMAX movie (you haven't lived 'til you've tried this!), roller derby, live music, not-live music, wine tasting, a book on tape, a drive to the beach, Chutes 'n Ladders, a bull fight, a Craps game, sheep shearing, mud wrestling, bird watching, sky diving, or taking a walk/hike. ([Our mutual friend] told me that you're WAY into each of those activities, so I wanted to leave options open.) It's still one of the most unexpected, funny, and charming emails I've ever gotten.
Author Forman Posted April 1, 2011 Author Posted April 1, 2011 It's still one of the most unexpected, funny, and charming emails I've ever gotten. That's sweet. Nothing like easing the tension of asking a girl you like out by lightening the mood.
cutiecall Posted April 1, 2011 Posted April 1, 2011 Yes, If a guy can make me laugh absolutely I will be more attracted to him!!!! I like to be silly and make funny jokes if the guy reciprocates it makes things alot more fun and intimate! Lets say there was guy I thought was ok looking but when I got to know him he made me laugh and I liked his personality. My attraction would definately grow and want to have sex with him and date him. Of course there has to be something there. If I have absolutely zero attraction to the guy but he makes me laugh I will only want to be his friend. Yes making a girl laugh is a very good thing.
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