Author OCCDAVE Posted April 2, 2011 Author Posted April 2, 2011 Guess ill have to start nc over.called her asking want to hang out her reply no thanks im busy.i said fair enough she said look were only friends nothing more.:-(
somedude81 Posted April 2, 2011 Posted April 2, 2011 Dude Delete her phone number, facebook, email, every way you have to contact her. It's done.
carhill Posted April 2, 2011 Posted April 2, 2011 Can I ask why you called and asked her to hang out after: "her. Wanna go next week or no me.no thanks anyway thanks for being honest bye"
Eddie Edirol Posted April 2, 2011 Posted April 2, 2011 Guess ill have to start nc over.called her asking want to hang out her reply no thanks im busy.i said fair enough she said look were only friends nothing more.:-( Yeah why did you call her? Why did you want to hang out with her? The whole idea of killing your friday date is because she used you as an emotional tampon for months, all the while she knew she would never have a relationship with you. (all the future stuff she told you was crap to keep you on the hook) When a woman freind zones you while youre still looking to get involved with her, you have to cut her off completely. The reason she called you immature is because the guy that she started dating was too busy for her, and you left her hanging. She thought she had you wrapped around her finger, and you deflated her ego. Thats a good thing. Dont call her ever again. If she calls you or texts you, ignore her. Theres probably a girlaround you that is into you and you dont notice her because of THIS girl.
whichwayisup Posted April 2, 2011 Posted April 2, 2011 Got any advice on a good reply I don't wanna look needy or like you said bitter Just be honest! "I feel abit uncomfortable seeing you on Friday. I need time and space after hearing that you weren't interested in me anymore." No need to go into details, short and to the point. She detached quickly and obviously has no problem seeing you 'as a friend' .. You're nowhere near that stage, so give it time. That is, if you still want to be buddy's with her. No need to be passive, or bitter. It is what it is, unfortunately as much as it bugs/hurts you, she changed her mind.
whichwayisup Posted April 2, 2011 Posted April 2, 2011 Can I ask why you called and asked her to hang out after: "her. Wanna go next week or no me.no thanks anyway thanks for being honest bye" Ignore my earlier reply as I didn't see the update. I'm with Carhill on this one. She asked you if you wanted to go out, you said no. Hung up.. It should have stopped there. WHY did you call her and ask her to hangout again after that? Man, all you did is look desparate in her eyes...
Author OCCDAVE Posted April 2, 2011 Author Posted April 2, 2011 Ya I know I went from sorta having the upper hand to infact looking needy.guess I just wanted some answers tonight but like everyone said she made it clear she's not interested .heck up untill a week ago she asked me your not talking to Any other girls are you I was but cut contact to be fair to her ugh
carhill Posted April 2, 2011 Posted April 2, 2011 OP, a couple life lessons... Women change their minds, constantly, and it's no reflection upon you. Sometimes it's inconsequential; sometimes it's very hurtful to you. Accepting it as who they are is your job. Then, make healthy decisions as to whether circumstances warrant continued interest and investment from yourself. Secondly, joyously enjoy the contact with and attention from as many women as you please until one presents herself to be both compatible and desirous of an exclusive, monogamous intimate relationship matching desires of your own. She's the one you cut contact with all others for. Ugh....yeah, felt that many a time. Perfectly normal. No worries
somedude81 Posted April 2, 2011 Posted April 2, 2011 Ya I know I went from sorta having the upper hand to infact looking needy.guess I just wanted some answers tonight but like everyone said she made it clear she's not interested .heck up untill a week ago she asked me your not talking to Any other girls are you I was but cut contact to be fair to her ugh Hmm, I think you should have done what I suggested you do a page back. At least that way you would have gotten your answer. And she wouldn't have been left thinking you were a needy jerk.
Author OCCDAVE Posted April 2, 2011 Author Posted April 2, 2011 Thanks carhill but I honestly thought she was the one. The way she touch me, kissed me or gave me that look. Guess that's what bothers me the most how sudden it was.but like everyone said guess I was just filling a void till that other plan of hers become clear. Sigh
mr.dream merchant Posted April 2, 2011 Posted April 2, 2011 Thanks carhill but I honestly thought she was the one. The way she touch me, kissed me or gave me that look. Guess that's what bothers me the most how sudden it was.but like everyone said guess I was just filling a void till that other plan of hers become clear. Sigh Please stop being a sucker. This bitch does not care about you.
carhill Posted April 2, 2011 Posted April 2, 2011 Unless you're dating women who believe and believe yourself that sex should be relegated to marriage, the 'one' will show you love, care, empathy, affection *and* enthusiastic sex and will proactively seek to be with you and only you. Once such perspectives become clear, it's far easier to ascertain genuine interest from ego feeds, mind-f*cks, plan B's and orbiter programs. Of course, you always have a choice to engage in the latter if you so desire. Sometimes, it can be fun and educational
Eddie Edirol Posted April 2, 2011 Posted April 2, 2011 Thanks carhill but I honestly thought she was the one. The way she touch me, kissed me or gave me that look. Guess that's what bothers me the most how sudden it was.but like everyone said guess I was just filling a void till that other plan of hers become clear. Sigh You thought she was the one, but she never thought the same way...thats why she friend zoned you. Thats also why she was guy shopping while she was hanging with you. You have to learn the signs of when a woman starts to lose interest in you.
Author OCCDAVE Posted April 2, 2011 Author Posted April 2, 2011 That's the thing I didn't see any signs cause like I said up untill yesterday all was well till she dropped that bomb.that's why I guess came off a sucker cause I didn't expect it
Author OCCDAVE Posted April 2, 2011 Author Posted April 2, 2011 Today's first day of nc and it's not easy since that night I've hardly slept.I've been in 2 serious relationships before this first was year and half second almost 3.I tried to be less clingy in this one but guess this was out of my hands
Sabali Posted April 2, 2011 Posted April 2, 2011 Today's first day of nc and it's not easy since that night I've hardly slept.I've been in 2 serious relationships before this first was year and half second almost 3.I tried to be less clingy in this one but guess this was out of my hands Dave, buddy, seriously...grow a pair. She wasn't even your girlfriend and you are talking about struggling with no contact. I still can't believe that you called her back after turning down next Friday. I strongly encourage you to date around until you come across a keeper. This is ok as long as you don't mislead anyone.
Author OCCDAVE Posted April 2, 2011 Author Posted April 2, 2011 Ya I know I shouldn't have called it was a mistake and made me look like a wuss.she made it well clear we were couples plus I guess all the foreplay that went on made me think this was legit
Author OCCDAVE Posted April 2, 2011 Author Posted April 2, 2011 Get a load of this my ph just got a text guess who her it said this hey my school is offering half price baseball tickets? Friday was suppose to be a gm lol my reply will be no reply
Author OCCDAVE Posted April 2, 2011 Author Posted April 2, 2011 Now she called me my guess to see y I ignored her what's her problem is her other plan not working out
mr.dream merchant Posted April 2, 2011 Posted April 2, 2011 Now she called me my guess to see y I ignored her what's her problem is her other plan not working out Possibly. It is very important that you continue to ignore her, she isn't doing anything for you nor bringing anything positive into your life. Do not cave in. You will regret it.
CloudLiver Posted April 2, 2011 Posted April 2, 2011 She wants to know why you ignored her? Because she just put you in the friend zone! What is she, stupid? Listen to Mr. Merchant. Ignore her and find a new girl.
Legend Posted April 2, 2011 Posted April 2, 2011 Refuse to meet up with her. Make excuses, until she misses you, she'll want you back and reevaluate where you stand.
CloudLiver Posted April 2, 2011 Posted April 2, 2011 Legend, why should he go after a girl who only wants him when he ignores her? Does she even like him at all? Why waste should he waste his time like that?
Author OCCDAVE Posted April 2, 2011 Author Posted April 2, 2011 She wants to know why you ignored her? Because she just put you in the friend zone! What is she, stupid? Listen to Mr. Merchant. Ignore her and find a new girl.Im gonna ignore her I'm not a doormat. I was tempted to answer and curse her out but not gonna I'm above that
CloudLiver Posted April 2, 2011 Posted April 2, 2011 Nice! Don't curse her out, though. If you do that, she's gotten to you. She'll have won.
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