pinkie Posted April 1, 2011 Posted April 1, 2011 After almost 2 years of a dead end relationship, I called it quits for good. In the past I had asked him to leave, but would take him back after a week. This time, I meant it. The relationship wasn't working and I was fed up. Well, it's been a month... and he still won't stop texting me. It's been every day. In the beginning I would ask him to please stop. To please leave me alone and to give me some space. He ignored me. Then he progressed to texting my friends... I had to let him know he was crossing the line.... Now, it's every day, begging, pining, apologizing... I just want him to go away! I have been ignoring him, but it isn't helping. I wanted strict NC from the beginning, but I realize I messed that up. My question is... Can I begin NC again. Will he eventually stop? I've had the same phone # for 14 years, I don't feel I should have to change it. His behavior is part of the reason I dumped him anyway (extremely clingy and co-dependent). Any advice?
JasonRules Posted April 1, 2011 Posted April 1, 2011 After almost 2 years of a dead end relationship, I called it quits for good. In the past I had asked him to leave, but would take him back after a week. This time, I meant it. The relationship wasn't working and I was fed up. Well, it's been a month... and he still won't stop texting me. It's been every day. In the beginning I would ask him to please stop. To please leave me alone and to give me some space. He ignored me. Then he progressed to texting my friends... I had to let him know he was crossing the line.... Now, it's every day, begging, pining, apologizing... I just want him to go away! I have been ignoring him, but it isn't helping. I wanted strict NC from the beginning, but I realize I messed that up. My question is... Can I begin NC again. Will he eventually stop? I've had the same phone # for 14 years, I don't feel I should have to change it. His behavior is part of the reason I dumped him anyway (extremely clingy and co-dependent). Any advice? Call your mobile company and have them block his number. Problem solved.
Duckduckgoose Posted April 1, 2011 Posted April 1, 2011 Umm I don't know what cell phone company ya'll have but I tried to get my exH's mom's number blocked and the cell phone company told me they couldn't do it, that they didn't have a way of blocking numbers. I offered a lot of money each month too, crazy bitch was calling me all the time for a while there... trying to "be friends".
Author pinkie Posted April 1, 2011 Author Posted April 1, 2011 That's a great idea. Will it let him know he's been blocked?
JasonRules Posted April 1, 2011 Posted April 1, 2011 That's a great idea. Will it let him know he's been blocked? I have no idea. Ask your mobile phone provider. I've never had to block anyone.
ALonerAgain Posted April 1, 2011 Posted April 1, 2011 That's a great idea. Will it let him know he's been blocked? I've never had to block anyone either, but he'll probably get some automated message saying "calls to this number have been barred". Or he might just get a dead ringtone. It doesn't really matter though, as long as he can't get through!
Movingthrough Posted April 1, 2011 Posted April 1, 2011 That's a great idea. Will it let him know he's been blocked? No he shouldnt know, but like the other poster said, most companies wont block numbers, i have tried to do that. The reality is he will stop at one point, you just have to stop answering. I had a girl do this to me for months, almost to the point of stalking and i actually used the word stalker to her and never heard from her again. I would just stop answering and or caring (easier said then done i know). As a guy i know it hurts when something ends, but i still cannot believe my fellow man would do stuff like this! I did the whole emailing and texting thing after my breakup, but never over the top, you have to have some pride, i dont know how he could allow himself to do that. Underneath it all i think its a confidence thing, a validation for him, if he isnt with someone he has to face his demons, and that sucks, so he hangs on. I know the pain that comes with a breakup, but come on man have some self respect or something.
SingVoice Posted April 1, 2011 Posted April 1, 2011 How long have you been ignoring him? My guess is not too long...because if you had been texting him back or whatever...he thinks there is still a chance. If you can't block him...seriously...don't respond. EVER. No matter what. Eventually he will stop.
Beeotch Posted April 1, 2011 Posted April 1, 2011 After almost 2 years of a dead end relationship, I called it quits for good. In the past I had asked him to leave, but would take him back after a week. This time, I meant it. The relationship wasn't working and I was fed up. Well, it's been a month... and he still won't stop texting me. It's been every day. In the beginning I would ask him to please stop. To please leave me alone and to give me some space. He ignored me. Then he progressed to texting my friends... I had to let him know he was crossing the line.... Now, it's every day, begging, pining, apologizing... I just want him to go away! I have been ignoring him, but it isn't helping. I wanted strict NC from the beginning, but I realize I messed that up. My question is... Can I begin NC again. Will he eventually stop? I've had the same phone # for 14 years, I don't feel I should have to change it. His behavior is part of the reason I dumped him anyway (extremely clingy and co-dependent). Any advice? He will eventually get tired....if not, in your case, I would change my number. Texting your friends??? He has really gone too far It is never too late to begin NC again. If you've asked him to leave you alone and haven't been answering, then you can just wait it out for him to get tired and continue ignoring, or if his calls can be blocked somehow, do that and if he really is still doing it, then change your number.
depplover_1980 Posted April 1, 2011 Posted April 1, 2011 I think if you look around the board there are many dumpees who are still pining and contacting their ex's for a second chance up to even the 3 month mark, so if you carry on ignoring him, then in the end he should leave you alone. Perhaps delete his texts and emails without reading them so you don't get upset? If his behaviour becomes any more serious, then contact the authorities for advice, but hopefully it won't come to anything like that for you. x
Author pinkie Posted April 2, 2011 Author Posted April 2, 2011 Thank you all for your responses. I was able to block his number through my phone carrier... (Verizon). Hopefully, I won't have to start looking over my shoulder... I'm hoping he gets the message now and just begins to heal. I've been on the other side before, I know how bad it hurts, which is why I DO believe in NC. Thanks again to everyone!
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