LeaningIntoTheMuse Posted April 3, 2011 Posted April 3, 2011 brainy, I know how hard it is for people who are disabled to not leave the house, or seek help. I take care of my grandma, who is elderly and refuses to leave the house or even take a shower without a fight. I know how hard it is. However, we've gotten help in for my grandma, if she's seriously ill. That's the difference between this story and mine. If this "girlfriend" had gotten help for this man, before he almost died from the health risks, it wouldn't be such a big deal. She would be caring and kind. My guess is that the two people who lived with him were mentally unstable as well, or taking advantage of his "disability", as has been said, to pocket some money. Depression is a mind killer, and the fact that they didn't seek help for his problem, proves that they never really cared about him in the first place.
Author Mrlonelyone Posted April 4, 2011 Author Posted April 4, 2011 Brainy I take care of my father who is blind and mentally regressing a bit... I would have him forcibly institutionialized by the court before I would let him get anything like this bad. Even if it meant he would never speak to me again because I love him. That's what real love does. Which is why most of us think this girlfriend was either not mentally stable.... or using him in some way. A girlfriend who really loves a man will know how to show tough love. Real love hurts as much as it feels good sometimes. Real love makes sacrifices including the sacrifice of the relationship it self. Real love is selfless and unconditional too...which partly explains her actions...but the above two should win out.
dreamingoftigers Posted April 4, 2011 Posted April 4, 2011 most of you responding with ridicule and groteque speculation really are lucky enough to have not spent serious time around serious crazy. In situations of co-dependency the parties take their identies from their relationship with the other. She was probably very aware that he needed serious help, but his insistence that she not tell anyone, that he wouldn't be her boyfriend if she told prevented her from seeking help on his behalf. Also, its very hard to impose help on someone who doesn't want it. If he refused to leave the house, and he wasn't in distress, there probably wasn't a whole lot they could legally force him to do. They probably justified what they did for him be telling themselves he'd be ever worse off without the help. Its very easy to make fun of people isn't it? How about if that was your diabetic mother insisting you go get her a shake? What if it was your sister who's self respect was so low that she stayed with the slob? Way to have some respect. I get it believe me, I cannot believe how far my sanity stretched in my own situation. Ironically enough I am detaching.
donnamaybe Posted April 4, 2011 Posted April 4, 2011 Here's a possible explanation of the seemingly inexplicable actions of girlfriend and roommate: they were taking advantage of the victim's Oxycontin prescription and/or disability check. That's what I alluded to earlier in this thread.
yessy21 Posted April 4, 2011 Posted April 4, 2011 The most interesting part was the poop! Who would want to live on a house full of poop! Forget the gf! We all know what she was really doing there. At least the other lady sat in the toilet!
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