Ross PK Posted April 1, 2011 Posted April 1, 2011 Yeah, I know. You say you can't get a date. I've seen pics of you. It's not like you're a troll or something, so are you sure the reason you cant get a date isn't because you are the kind of guy who would be alright lowering himself to dating a gal like that? I've got no idea. If I could get women, then of course I wouldn't have a relationship with her, but if I thought she was hot I would still have a ONS with her. As far as just sex is concerned, personality really does not matter to me. I don't think it matters to most guys.
donnamaybe Posted April 1, 2011 Posted April 1, 2011 As far as just sex is concerned, personality really does not matter to me. I don't think it matters to most guys. Right on!
Ross PK Posted April 1, 2011 Posted April 1, 2011 It's not right to make fun of someone who is alive either. I just don't get the whole concept of someone suddenly being elevated to a status more worthy of respect than someone who is alive and can actually react to and feel bad about about wrongs done to them. It's just one of those things DM, you either get it or you don't.
donnamaybe Posted April 1, 2011 Posted April 1, 2011 It's just one of those things DM, you either get it or you don't. Oh, I get it. Obviously. I'm not one of the people making fun of the guy in this thread. But I hope you get where I'm coming from too. There's a lot of meanness toward people who are actually alive and can feel the emotional pain from it.
Ross PK Posted April 1, 2011 Posted April 1, 2011 Oh, I get it. Obviously. I'm not one of the people making fun of the guy in this thread. But I hope you get where I'm coming from too. There's a lot of meanness toward people who are actually alive and can feel the emotional pain from it. Yeah, I can understand what you're saying, you have a good point.
Author Mrlonelyone Posted April 1, 2011 Author Posted April 1, 2011 I don't know what y'all are talking about. This guy sounds like QUITE a catch. I mean...he'll never leave you. (Since he was fused to the chair) He'll never cheat on you. (Can't go anywhere to meet people). He's always there when you need him. (Again...can't leave). Hmm where can I meet someone like this??? :p:p:p:p:p:p I'm sure there was some of the above going on.
Ross PK Posted April 1, 2011 Posted April 1, 2011 To be honest, I've not read the full story, so I don't know what she was really like, plus I'm drunk too. I'd still **** her if I found her physically attractive though.
Woggle Posted April 1, 2011 Posted April 1, 2011 Maybe he was taller than her. If so that is all that matters. All kidding aside chances are he had some kind of mental issues to be in that state. Why did the people around him even let it get to this point without intervention? This situation is just all around sick.
BB07 Posted April 1, 2011 Posted April 1, 2011 The article said the man was morbidly obese, has it not occurred to anyone in the thread that it may have been physically impossible for him to get up out of that chair? Also the article cleared stated the house was nasty not just the man. I'm leaning toward the thought that who ever his caregivers are will be charged with some crimes as it's clear that his neglect was beyond cruel and inhumane. Most people would not treat an animal that way. Whatever might have been wrong with him......mentally sick or physically unable to get out of the chair if he had people living in the same place with him and they let it go on for 2 years they should face some serious charges. Disgusting way to let another human being live and to not do anything about it is criminal and beyond cruel.
MarlyStar Posted April 2, 2011 Posted April 2, 2011 Even if he couldn't get out of the chair now, at one point he could. And then it got harder and harder to, and one day he decided not to get out of the chair. And he also decided not to get help to get out of the chair. He knew he couldn't get out, and he decided to stay there. He decided to poop himself than get help. That's a mentally and emotionally disturbed man. And she is not necessarily responsible, she stayed and saw nothing wrong with that situation. She is also clearly mentally and emotionally disturbed as well. Some people don't want help We have a guy at work who's legs are almost useless and he uses those two sticks strapped to his forearms to get around. He falls a lot. If he falls, we have all been told not to help him, but just step over him. If you help him, he will hit you HARD with one of those sticks. You aren't allowed to notice, you aren't allowed to call for help, you aren't allowed to say, 'are you okay'. He will be furious and file a complaint. He is to be left alone. It's his right to be handled the way he prefers and the way he has one record according to the AWDA. There is concern if there is a fire in our fire trap of a building. Not only is he likely not to get out, he's likely to hinder other people from getting out. There have some tense high level meetings about him in a fire situation with lawyers and everything. The only time anyone can 'help' him is in an emergency evacuation. There are two agents assigned to muscle him hitting and biting out of the building. Granted if social services had been called, they probably would have baker acted him and hospitalized him against his will because he was a danger to himself. But he didn't grow to that chair overnight. There was a long period of time when he could get out of the chair and chose not to, then there was a long period of time when he couldn't get out of the chair and chose not to get help, and likely during all that time he was telling people to leave him alone, he's fine, 'if you love me you would...'. The Supreme court a long time ago has said people have the right to lead their lives not doing anything about their mental illnesses. It's incomprehensible to us, but... (shrug) One thing I wonder about. If he was fused to his chair, you'd think the part that was fused was his bottom, and you'd think his rectum would be sealed up by whatever part of him was growing into the chair. I wonder if it was that that caused the crisis that led to his death. And when he got really sick, then the GF called for help. When he got sick enough not to be able to protest any more? It's unbearable sad and horrifying. What people do to themselves. And frankly it makes me look at myself. On a smaller scale what sad and horrifying things am I doing to myself. Don't we all clutch our neuroses tightly and are in denial of something about ourselves?
florence of suburbia Posted April 2, 2011 Posted April 2, 2011 There was a long period of time when he could get out of the chair and chose not to, then there was a long period of time when he couldn't get out of the chair In one sense it spotlights a person who lived on the absolute edge of humanity. Most of us would never choose to live like that, but apparently someone did. And then in another sense he is just like the rest of us. He was tired of the effort it took every day to shift his body out of the chair, to change, so he stayed put, stayed "safe". But he wasn't safe. Change happened to him anyway, of course.
dreamingoftigers Posted April 2, 2011 Posted April 2, 2011 You think it could happen to you or your husband? It's gotta be one of those one in a million things. Don't worry. I admit that as I grow older I have noticed that those who don't move around find that they cannot sooner. I'm more worried that my husband my stop feeding me if I get too cranky. I really really wonder what the dynamic was there and why no one cleaned up the poop. It wouldn't be a fun job but you would think that someone would do it.
Dust Posted April 2, 2011 Posted April 2, 2011 The most interesting part about this thread is some of the guys talking about the fact that this guy had a gf. I guarantee it wasn’t an Olivia Wilde type or any other type of hot chick watching senior poo pants kill himself more poo and chair than man. Like some one else said she is single now, so go find her if she sounds that great. You’ll probably end up shting in a chair.
dreamingoftigers Posted April 2, 2011 Posted April 2, 2011 43 is not that old! That is so strange, they said he used to be active! There must have been something beyond just regular food issues going on!
TheLoneSock Posted April 2, 2011 Posted April 2, 2011 43 is not that old! That is so strange, they said he used to be active! There must have been something beyond just regular food issues going on! Active... as in, lifting the spoon to his own mouth - instead of someone feeding him? Very active.
SmileFace Posted April 2, 2011 Posted April 2, 2011 Darn and he was going to be the next LoveShack moderator too. Haha, I would love to know your active profile's name.
dreamingoftigers Posted April 2, 2011 Posted April 2, 2011 Active... as in, lifting the spoon to his own mouth - instead of someone feeding him? Very active. From what I gather they were talking about more then short walks to the buffet and back, yes. I just wonder how one gets to where they don't get up for 2 years by the age of 43.
threebyfate Posted April 2, 2011 Posted April 2, 2011 Maybe he was taller than her. If so that is all that matters.Only if he's 6'. Can't believe the landlord used the excuse that the obese man covered himself with a blanket so he couldn't tell when he visited. Umm..smell anyone?
dreamingoftigers Posted April 2, 2011 Posted April 2, 2011 Only if he's 6'. Can't believe the landlord used the excuse that the obese man covered himself with a blanket so he couldn't tell when he visited. Umm..smell anyone? OMG totally. "Um, the dog just needs to get hosed down is all." "But you don't have a dog."
Eternal Sunshine Posted April 2, 2011 Posted April 2, 2011 Actually that excuse is the only thing that REALLY stood out from the article. 1) The smell 2) Wouldn't it strike you as weird that someone is sitting in the same spot, covered in blankets every time you visited? Someone should make a movie about this. Something along the lines of Requirem for a Dream.
dreamingoftigers Posted April 2, 2011 Posted April 2, 2011 The movie would take place all in one room! Sounds boring.
LeaningIntoTheMuse Posted April 2, 2011 Posted April 2, 2011 I feel sorry for the guy. What struck me as curious was that, at one point, he wasn't obese. What happened? Why did he suddenly give up at life? I'd like to know that, most of all. Because the obese people I've seen are all walking around, doing stuff. Physical activity is essential to the health, body, mind, and spirit of a person.
dreamingoftigers Posted April 2, 2011 Posted April 2, 2011 I feel sorry for the guy. What struck me as curious was that, at one point, he wasn't obese. What happened? Why did he suddenly give up at life? I'd like to know that, most of all. Because the obese people I've seen are all walking around, doing stuff. Physical activity is essential to the health, body, mind, and spirit of a person. I had an acquaintence who was a pretty weird dude, but he was also stick-thin and very tall. He really got on my nerves actually. From my Pentecostal days. Real fanatic type. Anyways he got involved in this relationship with a girl for a couple of months (he wasn't exactly Mr. Charm either). He believed that the holy spirit was telling him to marry her. She was overweight and he wasn't attracted to that and he wouldn't marry her. He figured that he blasphemed the holy spirit and that he saw Hell and that made him believe that the was the end of the line for him. I don't know why he ended up with my number but he would call and leave these long-winded preachy messages on my phone that didn't even have anything to do with me. I was pretty easy-going back then and figured he was a harmless nut. Him and his mother visited me in the hospital even. He had ballooned to at least 300 lbs. And he really needed a belt, badly. And he needed to not bend over without said belt. And he needed Nair, but I digress. For a couple years I would run into him every now and then (maybe 3 or so times a year). Then I didn't hear from him for awhile. He really lost it, he just sat inside playing games etc and eating and eating and eating. My bf at the time did him a favor of some sort with a computer (putting RAM in I think, God I am getting old). And he just was so obnoxious lecturing us about God and telling us how we are going to Hell because we are Mormons etc etc etc. My bf was just like "um, yeah, so where's the computer." Followed by eye rolls and a pissy tone. This guy used to pick a date about a week or so in the future regularly and say that the Holy Spirit revealed that he is going to die on that day. Usually it coincided with a Hockey game. Not kidding. If Edmonton was playing, then it was a sign from God that he was going to die. He also predicted the end of the Iraq War. And he argued after that it ended on that day. According to him, the Iraq War lasted 28 days just like in the Bible. I haven't seen him in years. My husband and I saw him in Edmonton once. He asked if we could buy him food because he was on AISH, we said sure. He gave us this crazy list. It WAS ALL junk food, lots of it. Packages of chocolates bars, ice cream, pop, cupcakes, chocolate..... just a total crazy binge, like a week-long binge. We brought it to his place and he started chowing down. He had bought this HUGE tv set and his place was disgusting! His toilet was covered in I don't even want to think about it. But his mind was pretty gone I think, but he was not so gone that he couldn't try to manipulate or make people feel guilty. I always felt so bad for his mother. She got left for the OW and had that guy and his sister. His sister and the mother didn't get along. The mother wasn't the brightest but I think that her life of stress had fully caught up with him. Last I heard he was on cholesterol meds, he hadn't dropped an ounce but had lowered some cholesterol points. He still believed he was going to die and go to Hell. Just miserable. He used to say that he didn't have any emotions when we would say "well if you are going to Hell anyways you might as well have some fun, right?" He'd get agitated and say things like "you don't understand I don't have feelings anymore." He'd yell it at you. I think he had some anger in there anyways. I bet the obese guy had something really messed going on in his head. (duh) I mean that it must not have just been the run-of-the-mill self-hate. Lots of mentally ill people seem to be stuck right up against one argument that they can't get around. I know in my darkest moments that that happens to me as well, it is like you cannot see the forest because your face is smucked up against one tree.
SoleMate Posted April 3, 2011 Posted April 3, 2011 Here's a possible explanation of the seemingly inexplicable actions of girlfriend and roommate: they were taking advantage of the victim's Oxycontin prescription and/or disability check.
dreamingoftigers Posted April 3, 2011 Posted April 3, 2011 Here's a possible explanation of the seemingly inexplicable actions of girlfriend and roommate: they were taking advantage of the victim's Oxycontin prescription and/or disability check. That would be so sickening.
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