quietGuy13 Posted April 1, 2011 Posted April 1, 2011 I don't have many friends in my city( who i can meet in real life), in fact just recently i found 1 girl. And she's a foreigner, and busy student. So basically i just have 1 friend right now Well i want to meet more and more girls and date. Isn't this how you eventually find a GF? But i feel like if i meet more girls, i will feel feelings with all of them and then i don't know what to do. how do i pick. what if i like them all. Well recently i tried making more friends and i found some other girls.. although it didn't work because they lied to me...but still what if it had worked? I would be meeting them all and things would get complicated. That other first girl that is my friend seems busy and especially now, she left to her country for spring break and is having some family issues so i don't know if she's even coming back and even if she comes back she's a busy student. So is it wrong for me to meet multiple women at once? and note, if i meet more girls i would like to be friends and meet moree...then things would get complicated. How would i date multiple girls at once. NOTE: I"M NOT SAYNG I WANT TO Date multiple girls at once but if i start talking to many girls( who may potentially be attractive) then i'll want to meet them more OR they'll want to meet me more so it starts heading that way.
stace79 Posted April 1, 2011 Posted April 1, 2011 If you are looking to meet friends, then just make that clear up front. This is definitely how you meet people you can be compatible with...getting to know them as friends first is usually a good idea in my opinion. Just make sure that your actions line up with your words. If you think a girl is attractive but really just want to be her friend, don't get physical with her. No matter what you say, if you get physical with girls they typically think you are into them as more than a friend. Honesty is key - just be honest about where you are and what you want, and you should be fine.
Ometeotl Posted April 1, 2011 Posted April 1, 2011 Its a tricky matter really. Heres the thing, there is no necessary right or wrong. For me it seems as if you are defining yourself by decisions relating to woman. Perhaps I can persuade you to not do that, and here is my suggestion to replace what you are doing. Simply learn and be self aware with what you are doing, for example, since you have recieved one woman friend, you still feel the need to pursue more, yet you are also ambivalent to the possibility of having more woman. Get a hold of your present self, have more awareness, simply understand what is going on for you right now and have awareness just beyond the present, rather than over thinking the future. The future has seemingly endless possibilities, and especially when it comes to social predictions... there is no hard science for these things. Ok. So, right now you are asking other people on what their opinion is on receiving more friends, and if that makes you a player. You wonder if you have feelings for them all what will you do. Good question, what will you do? why will you do it? and how will it affect these people. Make some decisions, stick with them to the best of you ability, and be honest with yourself about how it is affecting you. If you are happy... this is generally good. For example, you get hungry, you eat food, you feel good... YAY. You think about making female friends (seems that you want to, I could be wrong).. so you do, you feel good, Yay. Or the other way around, you feel not so good, you feel confused... Ok, well atleast you learned something, it doesnt change the not so good feeling, but as long as you learned something then this is good to. Dont take anything personal along the way. As far personal feelings of what is right and wrong, sometimes (not all the time) a person has to figure that stuff out from life experience. With that said, I have plent of female friends, some are more aqcuintances, some are close, some where tight friends for a short time then fell apart once one of us started to grow feelings. Woman understand that they may enter your life for a short time and then never see you again (I hope ><), or become awesome "lifelong" friends, or that you will start to like them, or they will start to like you, or that it will blow up in eachothers faces... now if you have multiple female friends, they may get the feeling you are leading them on or just teasing them... which they may not like but understand.. some jealousy maybe, but that goes for you if your female friend start to hanging out or with another dude. So understand these possibilities, and dont take it too personal of teh outcome, if its good Yay, if its bad, move on and never look back! haha Relationships are like this in general, but its like the matrix, you have to experience all the ins and outs, ups and downs for yourself. Thats all I have, hope it helps and remember to learn from life instead of overthinking it (which leads to neuroticism and insecurity... i find)! If you arent learning from your relationships then you are missing out. Meanwhile, make sure that the rest of your life is being taken care of and is well handled. Peace
yessy21 Posted April 1, 2011 Posted April 1, 2011 I think thats perfectly fine. Meet as many girls as u can ... u will like one eventually more than the others and thats the one u will want to be ur gf.
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