Hopeful30 Posted April 1, 2011 Posted April 1, 2011 I couldn't chose between my ex and this new guy. So I left them both. I realized that an ex is an ex for a reason, and if I had so many problems with this new guy anyway, what's the point? My main reason for leaving this new guy was because my confidence shot right into the ground. He told me he doesn't like some things I wear (which is understandable) but he said I need to dress up more. I told him im NOT going to wear high heels to the mall when I go shopping. He said why not? I told him I don't like the attention, then he started to laugh at me and say "What girl doesn't want attention?" Later on when we were fighting, he started putting me down. "You can't even clean your own car, or if you go to another guy he will only use you for sex." HAH! I can't believe this. It's true what they say, you can see a person's true character when they fight. Right now I am more confident than ever, and I am happy being alone. I will admit though, I haven't had sex in 2 weeks and i'm DYING. When you can't choose between two men, it means you don't really love or truly want either of them. A woman forces herself to chose because she doesn't want to lose both and then end up alone. Well guess what ladies? Alone is much better. I haven't argued in 2 weeks, no drama in 2 weeks. No one checks up on me, and you know what? I can cuddle with my pillows, they are softer anyways Just wanted to share that, because as ridiculous as it looks to me now, I struggled quite a bit.
Intricategirl Posted April 1, 2011 Posted April 1, 2011 I don't know the backstory, but from what I've read here- good for you. I wouldn't get back together with a single one of my exes- despite the fact that one would be a good match marriage-wise, another is one of my best friends, and another turned me on in every single way (emotionally, mentally, physically, etc). We ended things for a reason, and those reasons still exist. They weren't small things, but larger differences in values that can't be overcome. And new guy... sounds like you made a wise decision. Get a battery operated toy and enjoy yourself. Be glad you've got enough wisdom and courage to step away from a bad situation. And know that you're not alone in looking back and realizing that the solution to a relationship problem can be both pretty obvious AND difficult to make.
Author Hopeful30 Posted April 1, 2011 Author Posted April 1, 2011 Thank you so much. I feel so confident now and knowing that others have been in my shoes makes me feel less alone. Thank you so much <3
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