UniDude Posted April 1, 2011 Posted April 1, 2011 Hi there, I'm a first time poster. I hope this is the right section. I messed up royally a few nights ago. I've been with my girlfriend for almost a year now. She is my first ever relationship. Lately we've been having some problems and I felt a bit low and depressed and I decided to meet up with this other girl in the city after classes finished. We decided to go bar hopping. It was really fun talking to her and hanging out while getting progressively more drunk. I begun to feel better about everything, and we were both getting relaxed and sharing each others relationship problems with each other. We were having a good time, played pool etc. This was the sort of thing I had never done with my girlfriend as she hates drinking and bars and doesn't like me doing that sort of thing. Well one thing led to another and me and this other girl got into some pretty heavy petting throughout the course of the night. Innocent kisses at first, but then followed by making out and some fondling. Anyone who saw us would have thought we were a couple. I knew the whole time while doing it in the back of my head that this was very wrong, but another part of me wanted me to keep going. It just seemed like all this was was a breath of fresh air after being neglected by my girlfriend (which is an absolutely terrible excuse I know). Then out of the blue the other girl called up her boyfriend while we were chilling on a rooftop bar and broke up with him (she'd already cheated on him 5-6 times). It was so spontaneous. I don't know if she was expecting me to do the same or not, but it hit me like a sack of bricks. The enormity of what I had done. I felt atrocious. When I got home and the booze wore off I felt pretty lousy. Thankfully we hadn't had sex (not that I was planning on doing it). The other girl felt bad for breaking up with her boyfriend. Overall the night was a big regret. We had a quick phone call and both decided that what we did was foolish and must only be platonic from now on. Now I'm not sure what to do. After that night I FIRMLY decided I want to stay with my girlfriend and work through our issues. It's like this was a kick in the ass I needed. I realised how important she was to me and I feel so shamed that it took something like this for me to realise it. Should I tell her what happened? It would probably crush her, she's already depressed as it is with other issues. This guilt is eating me up on the inside. Is there a way to get over something like this?
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