sweetblubrry Posted April 1, 2011 Posted April 1, 2011 I miss him so much. The more time goes on... the harder it gets. I thought I would have run into him at work by now, but I think he is avoiding my area because he's afraid of my coworkers. They pretty much give him the evil eye (by their own doing, not mine) when he is around. I still have him as a friend on FB. The last time I saw him he was being all talkative to me and flirty... I don't get it. The day before that we had a 2 hour talk about the relationship and everything. He has all these issues with insecurity, self-esteem, not knowing what he wants in life, he's a loner type person, can't open himself to people, and other issues. I miss him in my life. WHY IS THIS SO HARD! There is nothing bad that actually happened in our relationship. But I can't help but keep getting upset over why he's not talking to me. And wondering when and if he will talk to me again.
Fufu Posted April 1, 2011 Posted April 1, 2011 5 weeks of NC is FABULOUS. Even if you hate to agree to this, you have inspired many people who are in the midst of NC. However, there's one minor flaw about your NC. While you may stop contacting him, not initiating any contact to him. Why are you finding out what he is doing and even talk to him for 2 hours. Why? Does it makes you feel better or worse? I believe you know the answer in your heart right? If you want to heal yourself completely and walk out of this devastating state and be happy again... this is the true NC as below: 1. Do not initiate any contact to your ex 2. Do not respond and reply to their messages, contact and any forms of breadcrumbs 3. Do not think of what they are doing, thinking and feeling because they no longer a matter to you. - Delete him from your facebook, I believe you still go to his profile right? Why do this kind of action to hurt yourself? Do whatever it takes for yourself to be happy and not put yourself in the past wondering why he is doing this to you. You don't have to do all these to yourself. He done it, so be it. You can make your own choice and decision to get back up again. You can do it
Author sweetblubrry Posted April 1, 2011 Author Posted April 1, 2011 We talked after work one day because I happened to run into him and I wanted answers. I did end up getting them that night and felt better. However, I do want to get back with him. So deleting him off facebook he would think i hate him or something. Yes i still go to his profile but luckily he isn't on it that much so I don't have much to look at. Its the most impossible thing, UGH.. We have so many mutual friends so its not easy. I have a feeling he is avoiding my area because he's afraid of my coworkers. I don't know what I'm going to do if I see him again and i know it will happen someday at work.
Fufu Posted April 1, 2011 Posted April 1, 2011 if you want yourself to be completely healed and be happy again, you have to cut all hopes of wanting to be with him again. This hopes will not heal you at all and it will only bring you false hopes and drives you more sad and in pain. Of course, no body knows for sure what will happen in the future, however now at this present situation, he's not coming back, so don't bother holding to the hope and to wait for him. You don't have to think of what you need to do for him, think for yourself, think of what you need to do for yourself. Don't give yourself excuses of not letting him go, give yourself reasons that you can do better without him. You can do it, don't lose yourself when he made his decision to lose you.
daydreamer1986 Posted April 1, 2011 Posted April 1, 2011 see there is nothing wrong in going and having a talk,you can move out of NC but if you are egoistic and he is the same then its realy going to be a problem..sometimes you may never know a long nc can ultimately result in losing your partner forever.on the other hand he will feel nice,guys like to win over,but make sure that you dont come into terms with him. just have a simple talk.
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