PhillyDude Posted April 1, 2011 Posted April 1, 2011 This means what? Mutiple sex partners? I swear I forgot but I think the answer to this will pretty much turn me off
MistaDynamic Posted April 1, 2011 Posted April 1, 2011 That means she has main guy (and probably a few other guys around she having sex with) but she's open to finding somebody new. Women like these are f**kbuddy material nothing more.
tetrapod Posted April 1, 2011 Posted April 1, 2011 alternatively she is in a relationship that she would rather be out of and hasn't quite got the courage up to end it yet. No, misogynists, that doesn't mean she is looking to cheat in order to end it, it simply means that breaking up is hard to do.
Mrlonelyone Posted April 1, 2011 Posted April 1, 2011 It means she's been dating someone on a non-exclusive basis for a while. She may be multi dating and is not looking for commitments . She may be doing the things said above or not. It does mean that she's interested and available enough to you and wants to be honest about how much time she has to give.
CloudLiver Posted April 2, 2011 Posted April 2, 2011 We does it matter? There are other prettier, more feminine girls out there. Why settle for one who's promiscuous (a slut)?
Author PhillyDude Posted April 2, 2011 Author Posted April 2, 2011 We does it matter? There are other prettier, more feminine girls out there. Why settle for one who's promiscuous (a slut)? I know that's why I deleted her number
kalikula Posted April 2, 2011 Posted April 2, 2011 In my mind that doesn't mean that she has multiple sex partners, but probably that she likes someone she is casually seeing but he isn't interested in a serious relationship. But she probably wouldn't have told you that if she really liked you, in that case she probably would have dropped him, sorry to say!
CloudLiver Posted April 2, 2011 Posted April 2, 2011 I know that's why I deleted her number Awesome! Now time to get another girl. Here's a post I think you should read by Pook and Anti-Dump Anti-Dump and Interest Level If you asked Anti-Dump, “What ought I to do to please the women?” he would reply: “What! Please the women? Stop looking from the perspective of the woman and start looking at what pleases YOU.” This is where most guys get Anti-Dump wrong. These guys (Speed Seductionists, etc.) keep trying to CREATE romantic interest. “I will give the women a chance to get to know me.” Anti-Dump isn’t interested in CREATING interest because it has to already be there. This confuses many. Let us say a cool guy uses Anti-Dump’s Machine. He finds a girl that loves him. Now let us say a bum on the street uses Anti-Dump’s Machine. He finds no girl that loves him. “See! See! His Machine doesn’t work!” Fools! You are placing the success on obtaining women, not on obtaining INTERESTED women. It is not a black and white world of “Success = Having Women” and “Failure = Staying Single.” No, it is “Success= Not being attached to UNINTERESTED women.” and “Failure = Being attached to an UNINTERESTED women.” Being in an unhappy marriage is worse than being single. In both the cool guy and the bum’s examples, Anti-Dump’s Machine worked. The Machine is not to get you a woman, its purpose is to WEED OUT uninterested women. If you are the street bum, no women will be interested in you. The machine is not the failure, the man is. Now if the street bum recreated himself and became Cool Guy, the machine will throw up an interested women eventually. It is that simple. quote: woman should be interested in YOU. Not what you are doing. When a woman changes the date it is a RED FLAG. Think about it. She is 'negotiating' a simple date. What other demands is she going to insist on in the future? I was once engaged to a girl that turned down TEN second date ideas. I swear to God! She was one of the most INFLEXABLE girls I ever had a relationship with. We were going to be married and she REFUSED to spend sundays anywhere but at her mother's house. No exceptions. And she hated Boston. I LOVE Boston. My second date idea should have been Boston! Then I would have gotten rid of her then and not later. You tell her "I was looking forward to paying pool with you. I'll give you another buzz sometime". You pick the dates YOU want at first. She needs to like your style. quote: Call a week later with a DIFFERENT date. Not the one she said. Remember you are testing for HIGH INTEREST. If she doesn't accept the second one, throw her number away. I would say for the second turndown: "Wow. We seem to be different as night and day. Listen, maybe I'll see you around town. Goodbye." The first date should be accepted . And the second and third as well. After that, you can compromise. Another way is the counter-offer. Ron: Let's go sky diving. I'll pick you up at 1:00PM on saturday. Miss Inflexable: Oh god, I could never jump out of a plane. How about a simple dinner. Ron: Sorry, but I just lost ten pounds. How about jet-skiing? (THE COUNTER-OFFER) My uncle will let me use his jet-ski . I'll be over at 3:00PM. Miss Inflexable: I'm afraid of falling off the darn thing. Ron: Maybe down the road we can get together. I gotta go. (click) . The whole point is that if she accepts your first three dates she is going to be a flexable partner down the road. Women that feel EVERY date has to be mutual are bad news in my book. I called one girl years ago for a movie date. She said "I have to be in the MOOD for a movie". Today Anti-Dump would say "Listen. I'll call you back when you are in the mood"! Like NEVER! Stand your ground. It shows you are not desperate and that you are a MAN. You have BACKBONE. It weeds out the ones that just want to use you for a good time. Or are going with you because they are bored. You must be the FOCUS. Exactly! YOU are the focus, not the girl. She needs to like who you are, not you to mold yourself to her pleasures. You guys are not ‘creating’ interest, you are just deceiving yourself. Why do people deceive themselves? Because it flatters the ego. quote: For a strategy to work, one of the sexes CAN'T be using a strategy. Read this again. One side has to be defenseless for the 'strategy side' to WIN. Read this also again. A man who is a nice guy will call a woman repeatedly because in the "Rules" she won't return a man's calls. In other words the guy has to _ 'beg' for a date. Real men don't beg. Begging is impossible with my strategy because of the two call limit. You are not defenseless. If the male and the female are both using a strategy, like in chess, you have a STALE MATE. Both of you LOSE the game. The answer is simple: Date only women who have no 'plan'. Here's the great part. Women dislike strategies. As soon as they meet a guy they have HIGH interest in, they are the first to break the rules! This is why you should never make an exception. The woman will be the first to compromise (a little). Women who won’t let the men lead (at first) are scared of being women. You need to avoid them. quote: Almost every guy on the planet shows EXCESSIVE attention to a woman. This goes on day after day, year after year. Women are bored with it. They've heard the compliments a million times. You believe a myth. You believe a woman doesn't get enough attention. You believe she's starved for attention. This is not so. Every day some guy is asking her to "get together some time". Every day some guy is asking for the number. Every day some guy is telling her how beautiful she is. When you show a woman INITIAL interest like you said above, SHE BEGINS TO LOSE interest. Your theory would work if nobody was approaching these women day after day. THEN, her interest would suddenly INCREASE. But, instead, it DECREASES when you tell her how fine she looks and talks. She's BORED by attention. So, in effect, there can be no 'Cycle'. Attention kills the deal. It might work on an unattractive lady. I'll give you that. But on attractive to beautiful, I say it BACKFIRES. It is as if the dog-women want to be treated like beauties (with flowers and chocolates) while the beautiful women want to be treated like dogs (mistreated, hurt, kicked). Stop being sappy not because it won’t get you hot chicks but because it’s so disrespectful to yourself. You start awarding flowers to women who have not earned them. quote: The DJ way is not trickery just like you said. You see this so clearly. It's UNCOMMON, common sense. Sure, you could use it to create high interest and screw the girl then drop her the next day. But this is unlikely. Guys that use these methods are interested in LOVE not just sex. We don't have a short attention span. Except with an UN-interested woman! He,he,he!!!! It's funny Devlar should say that the DJ way is 'immoral'. If a girl is not interested in us, we don't get sex first like he does then later drop the girl. We drop the girl long before any sex. It's 'immoral' for guys to be played as SUCKERS. That's immoral. It's immoral for guys to be USED so the ladies can get gifts and free concerts. From guys that they just don't care about. I would also add sex and boy toys. Yes, women DO use guys as sex toys. You want to stay away from such chicks because it is impossible to have a healthy relationship with them (a woman ought to be giving, not taking). To sum up: quote: Dating is like buying an expensive piece of real estate. You have to know what you are doing. You have to be careful or you might get stuck with swampland. Full post here.
mr.dream merchant Posted April 2, 2011 Posted April 2, 2011 Awesome! Now time to get another girl. Here's a post I think you should read by Pook and Anti-Dump Anti-Dump and Interest Level If you asked Anti-Dump, “What ought I to do to please the women?” he would reply: “What! Please the women? Stop looking from the perspective of the woman and start looking at what pleases YOU.” This is where most guys get Anti-Dump wrong. These guys (Speed Seductionists, etc.) keep trying to CREATE romantic interest. “I will give the women a chance to get to know me.” Anti-Dump isn’t interested in CREATING interest because it has to already be there. This confuses many. Let us say a cool guy uses Anti-Dump’s Machine. He finds a girl that loves him. Now let us say a bum on the street uses Anti-Dump’s Machine. He finds no girl that loves him. “See! See! His Machine doesn’t work!” Fools! You are placing the success on obtaining women, not on obtaining INTERESTED women. It is not a black and white world of “Success = Having Women” and “Failure = Staying Single.” No, it is “Success= Not being attached to UNINTERESTED women.” and “Failure = Being attached to an UNINTERESTED women.” Being in an unhappy marriage is worse than being single. In both the cool guy and the bum’s examples, Anti-Dump’s Machine worked. The Machine is not to get you a woman, its purpose is to WEED OUT uninterested women. If you are the street bum, no women will be interested in you. The machine is not the failure, the man is. Now if the street bum recreated himself and became Cool Guy, the machine will throw up an interested women eventually. It is that simple. quote: woman should be interested in YOU. Not what you are doing. When a woman changes the date it is a RED FLAG. Think about it. She is 'negotiating' a simple date. What other demands is she going to insist on in the future? I was once engaged to a girl that turned down TEN second date ideas. I swear to God! She was one of the most INFLEXABLE girls I ever had a relationship with. We were going to be married and she REFUSED to spend sundays anywhere but at her mother's house. No exceptions. And she hated Boston. I LOVE Boston. My second date idea should have been Boston! Then I would have gotten rid of her then and not later. You tell her "I was looking forward to paying pool with you. I'll give you another buzz sometime". You pick the dates YOU want at first. She needs to like your style. quote: Call a week later with a DIFFERENT date. Not the one she said. Remember you are testing for HIGH INTEREST. If she doesn't accept the second one, throw her number away. I would say for the second turndown: "Wow. We seem to be different as night and day. Listen, maybe I'll see you around town. Goodbye." The first date should be accepted . And the second and third as well. After that, you can compromise. Another way is the counter-offer. Ron: Let's go sky diving. I'll pick you up at 1:00PM on saturday. Miss Inflexable: Oh god, I could never jump out of a plane. How about a simple dinner. Ron: Sorry, but I just lost ten pounds. How about jet-skiing? (THE COUNTER-OFFER) My uncle will let me use his jet-ski . I'll be over at 3:00PM. Miss Inflexable: I'm afraid of falling off the darn thing. Ron: Maybe down the road we can get together. I gotta go. (click) . The whole point is that if she accepts your first three dates she is going to be a flexable partner down the road. Women that feel EVERY date has to be mutual are bad news in my book. I called one girl years ago for a movie date. She said "I have to be in the MOOD for a movie". Today Anti-Dump would say "Listen. I'll call you back when you are in the mood"! Like NEVER! Stand your ground. It shows you are not desperate and that you are a MAN. You have BACKBONE. It weeds out the ones that just want to use you for a good time. Or are going with you because they are bored. You must be the FOCUS. Exactly! YOU are the focus, not the girl. She needs to like who you are, not you to mold yourself to her pleasures. You guys are not ‘creating’ interest, you are just deceiving yourself. Why do people deceive themselves? Because it flatters the ego. quote: For a strategy to work, one of the sexes CAN'T be using a strategy. Read this again. One side has to be defenseless for the 'strategy side' to WIN. Read this also again. A man who is a nice guy will call a woman repeatedly because in the "Rules" she won't return a man's calls. In other words the guy has to _ 'beg' for a date. Real men don't beg. Begging is impossible with my strategy because of the two call limit. You are not defenseless. If the male and the female are both using a strategy, like in chess, you have a STALE MATE. Both of you LOSE the game. The answer is simple: Date only women who have no 'plan'. Here's the great part. Women dislike strategies. As soon as they meet a guy they have HIGH interest in, they are the first to break the rules! This is why you should never make an exception. The woman will be the first to compromise (a little). Women who won’t let the men lead (at first) are scared of being women. You need to avoid them. quote: Almost every guy on the planet shows EXCESSIVE attention to a woman. This goes on day after day, year after year. Women are bored with it. They've heard the compliments a million times. You believe a myth. You believe a woman doesn't get enough attention. You believe she's starved for attention. This is not so. Every day some guy is asking her to "get together some time". Every day some guy is asking for the number. Every day some guy is telling her how beautiful she is. When you show a woman INITIAL interest like you said above, SHE BEGINS TO LOSE interest. Your theory would work if nobody was approaching these women day after day. THEN, her interest would suddenly INCREASE. But, instead, it DECREASES when you tell her how fine she looks and talks. She's BORED by attention. So, in effect, there can be no 'Cycle'. Attention kills the deal. It might work on an unattractive lady. I'll give you that. But on attractive to beautiful, I say it BACKFIRES. It is as if the dog-women want to be treated like beauties (with flowers and chocolates) while the beautiful women want to be treated like dogs (mistreated, hurt, kicked). Stop being sappy not because it won’t get you hot chicks but because it’s so disrespectful to yourself. You start awarding flowers to women who have not earned them. quote: The DJ way is not trickery just like you said. You see this so clearly. It's UNCOMMON, common sense. Sure, you could use it to create high interest and screw the girl then drop her the next day. But this is unlikely. Guys that use these methods are interested in LOVE not just sex. We don't have a short attention span. Except with an UN-interested woman! He,he,he!!!! It's funny Devlar should say that the DJ way is 'immoral'. If a girl is not interested in us, we don't get sex first like he does then later drop the girl. We drop the girl long before any sex. It's 'immoral' for guys to be played as SUCKERS. That's immoral. It's immoral for guys to be USED so the ladies can get gifts and free concerts. From guys that they just don't care about. I would also add sex and boy toys. Yes, women DO use guys as sex toys. You want to stay away from such chicks because it is impossible to have a healthy relationship with them (a woman ought to be giving, not taking). To sum up: quote: Dating is like buying an expensive piece of real estate. You have to know what you are doing. You have to be careful or you might get stuck with swampland. Full post here. This is good stuff, thank you for posting it.
CloudLiver Posted April 2, 2011 Posted April 2, 2011 Thanks, Mr. Merchant. Just doing my part to help out.
mr.dream merchant Posted April 2, 2011 Posted April 2, 2011 Thanks, Mr. Merchant. Just doing my part to help out. I've always been about ME when it comes to dating. Women here think it's a self absorbed, egotistical way. I think I'm just doing what's best for ME and weeding out the women who won't work for me. :/
CloudLiver Posted April 2, 2011 Posted April 2, 2011 Believe or not, a lot of women and men are self-absorbed. You're doing the right thing, man. More people should follow your lead
mr.dream merchant Posted April 2, 2011 Posted April 2, 2011 Believe or not, a lot of women and men are self-absorbed. You're doing the right thing, man. More people should follow your lead Well, over the years I've kind of taken that approach because I realized as a young man in the dating world, you have no other choice but to be that way. I taught myself to approach the woman like I MYSELF am the prize, not her. So instead of trying to please her, I'm more interested in seeing if she's game to the arrangements that I SET and ALLOW, for her. If she is, great. We can go from there, and if everything works out, I'll have a woman on my hands that I can grow with and care for. I don't want to be with a woman who's interested in what I can do for her, I want a woman who's interested in me. So alot of what you posted really struck home, because I see dating the same way. It sucks though, the general public firmly believes in catering to and kissing ass for a beautiful woman in order to be successful. That's not my style at all. To me that's counter-productive, because all you're doing is immersing yourself in the ocean of other men who are doing just that, kissing her ass. I'd rather be the one who stands out, and catches her eye, and commands her attention.
SxB Posted April 2, 2011 Posted April 2, 2011 This means what? Mutiple sex partners? I swear I forgot but I think the answer to this will pretty much turn me off People who are more sincere, less decieving, will tell you if they are casually dating, or dating one person at a time. She's telling you she is dating around casually, but she isn't being too upfront about it on purpose because she wants to purposefully confuse the crap out of you because then if you fall for it you're an easy target for being toyed with. The real question is what do you want? to date around or date one person at a time? If you want to date around and you play games too then get with her. If you want to just date around but you're upfront with people and you don't play games then she would be a good **** and dump only unless you can handle all her little games. If you want to date one person at a time, then I wouldn't recommend getting involved with her at all.
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