Dat Guy Posted April 1, 2011 Posted April 1, 2011 I'm new here so cut me some slack. I've only really known her for about a month. She's in my class and we would occasionally talk to each other, but one day while I was studying she came and sat with me and studied with me. She talked a lot to me lol. A couple of days later she saw me studying and came and sat next to me and the same thing happened. After that, she would always see me and say my name enthusiastically and start a conversation. She doesn't mind getting close to me and such. Another incident was her asking for my help on this assignment when her friends were in the same room and the worksheet was easy. One day we both found out we had nothing to do 7th period, so she invited me to hang out with her that period. I said yes and we just talked and stuff. Since then every day she comes up to me and asks me if I'm going to be there and I said yes. I told her I couldn't one day and she got really sad. I finally asked for her number eventually and she gave it to me with no problems. Usually our texting convos last over 3 hours and she usually continues the convo or starts a new one. She's always talking about this particular interest or that interest to me. I'm too scared to ask her out because I'm not sure if she has a bf or if this guy is her friend. She's brought him up at times, but it's never been anything sexual and she even said they were just friends. It says she's single on facebook and I looked through both of their albums and didn't see a single picture with him or her in one of their pictures.
MistaDynamic Posted April 1, 2011 Posted April 1, 2011 Texting for three hours? Man up and ask this girl out before you end up in the friend zone. Ask her out immediately!! Don't wait your time is limited. The three hour texting is bordering on friend zone.
Author Dat Guy Posted April 1, 2011 Author Posted April 1, 2011 (edited) Texting for three hours? Man up and ask this girl out before you end up in the friend zone. Ask her out immediately!! Don't wait your time is limited. The three hour texting is bordering on friend zone. yes I thought this too, so I stopped texting her. Yesterday I tried flirting by complimenting her our hair and outfit and maintaining eye contact. We sat close to each other and she talked to me about her interests again. when yall mean ask out, do yall mean to be my gf or like on some romantic date? Edited April 1, 2011 by Dat Guy
Sabali Posted April 1, 2011 Posted April 1, 2011 Dude, when you see her tomorrow, ask her out to a date. Have the day, time, and place already set. Get online or whatever and pick something out now. Don't ask her to be your girlfriend. You may already be her girlfriend with all of the texting. You just keep asking her out until it just happens. Stop the texting. You may already be her girlfriend. I won't cut you any slack if you get into these text conversations again. You have some history with her so you can come out swinging. In other words, throw her a kiss at the end of date number one. Don't come here tomorrow with some wimpy stuff saying "I couldn't ask her out because there were a bunch of people around" or "she was talking on her phone a lot" or "she was doing homework the whole time." When you come here next time, lets hear that you made a move. If she doesn't attend school tomorrow, call her up and ask. No excuses! Excuses for being scared to approach someone is getting tired and the fellas need a F###in energy drink. Good luck. I am cheering for you in the stands! I got my pom poms and cigar. Just picture me with pom poms and a cigar when you approach her.
Author Dat Guy Posted April 1, 2011 Author Posted April 1, 2011 Dude, when you see her tomorrow, ask her out to a date. Have the day, time, and place already set. Get online or whatever and pick something out now. Don't ask her to be your girlfriend. You may already be her girlfriend with all of the texting. You just keep asking her out until it just happens. Stop the texting. You may already be her girlfriend. I won't cut you any slack if you get into these text conversations again. You have some history with her so you can come out swinging. In other words, throw her a kiss at the end of date number one. Don't come here tomorrow with some wimpy stuff saying "I couldn't ask her out because there were a bunch of people around" or "she was talking on her phone a lot" or "she was doing homework the whole time." When you come here next time, lets hear that you made a move. If she doesn't attend school tomorrow, call her up and ask. No excuses! Excuses for being scared to approach someone is getting tired and the fellas need a F###in energy drink. Good luck. I am cheering for you in the stands! I got my pom poms and cigar. Just picture me with pom poms and a cigar when you approach her. Lol, I will. I mean this chick ain't a slut, she's one of those girly girls. I mean she hasn't touched me yet.
Sabali Posted April 1, 2011 Posted April 1, 2011 Lol, I will. I mean this chick ain't a slut, she's one of those girly girls. I mean she hasn't touched me yet. That's cool. It is up to you to touch her, eventually. So where are you taking her? That was a trick question! It was meant to trap you. You are not going to take her to the movies. You are going to take her somewhere you will be able to talk to her. I'm shaking those poms poms like maracas in support of you...
welikeincrowds Posted April 1, 2011 Posted April 1, 2011 That was a trick question! ****, I can't find the trick. I think I just got tricked really hard.
Author Dat Guy Posted April 1, 2011 Author Posted April 1, 2011 That's cool. It is up to you to touch her, eventually. So where are you taking her? That was a trick question! It was meant to trap you. You are not going to take her to the movies. You are going to take her somewhere you will be able to talk to her. I'm shaking those poms poms like maracas in support of you... I wasn't planning on the movies lol
Sabali Posted April 1, 2011 Posted April 1, 2011 ****, I can't find the trick. I think I just got tricked really hard. That means I could have tricked you with the trick. The kid found the trick. I asked him where was he going to take her and if I would have ended my post there, he would have replied "I am going to take her to the movies." Then I would have gotten on his @$$ for being so unimaginative, cliched, and predictable which his date would have for surely thought as well. OP, you don't have to do any thing extravagant. It should be at least something she will likely say "yes" to and some place you can spend time talking and connecting with her. Remember, your only option is to come here next time and say that you asked her out. There is no other option and there is no plan B. There is no wiggle room to do anything else. I see the inner glow in you!
Author Dat Guy Posted April 1, 2011 Author Posted April 1, 2011 ****, I can't find the trick. I think I just got tricked really hard. But I never got an answer if she liked me or not
Sabali Posted April 1, 2011 Posted April 1, 2011 But I never got an answer if she liked me or not It doesn't really matter. You want her. So just ask her out today.
Author Dat Guy Posted April 1, 2011 Author Posted April 1, 2011 It doesn't really matter. You want her. So just ask her out today. Well I failed today because she wasn't there. She had plans tonight and I had plans for the rest of this weekend so I think asking her Monday would've been better. I'm not going to text her or talk to her this weekend.
Sabali Posted April 2, 2011 Posted April 2, 2011 Well I failed today because she wasn't there. No, you failed because you are using that excuse. I even posted above that if she doesn't show up today call her and ask her out so that I would have that base covered in case you tried to use that one on us. Of course she wasn't going to show up after every thing was built up. Right? Monday then... Good luck to you.
Author Dat Guy Posted April 2, 2011 Author Posted April 2, 2011 No, you failed because you are using that excuse. I even posted above that if she doesn't show up today call her and ask her out so that I would have that base covered in case you tried to use that one on us. Of course she wasn't going to show up after every thing was built up. Right? Monday then... Good luck to you. Things are looking bad though. She and that guy went out tonight and I'm praying it was just a casual date and nothing happened. I hope he's just friendzoned.
Dust Posted April 2, 2011 Posted April 2, 2011 Things are looking bad though. She and that guy went out tonight and I'm praying it was just a casual date and nothing happened. I hope he's just friendzoned. You care too much. With all the time you wasted of course some other guy got a date with her. Make a move already. Just a question, why would you even ask us if it was a good idea to ask her to be your gf? I mean you haven’t so much as held her hand and you were considering asking her to be your gf. I mean what do you think happens you ask a girl to be your gf and then she kiss's you? Man up and make a move. Really the best move is to try with out caring. I don't mean “not caring” as in not respecting, or looking forward to it... I mean “not caring” as in not being so afraid and fragile about being rejected. Not caring what happens, and just being yourself.
Author Dat Guy Posted April 2, 2011 Author Posted April 2, 2011 You care too much. With all the time you wasted of course some other guy got a date with her. Make a move already. Just a question, why would you even ask us if it was a good idea to ask her to be your gf? I mean you haven’t so much as held her hand and you were considering asking her to be your gf. I mean what do you think happens you ask a girl to be your gf and then she kiss's you? Man up and make a move. Really the best move is to try with out caring. I don't mean “not caring” as in not respecting, or looking forward to it... I mean “not caring” as in not being so afraid and fragile about being rejected. Not caring what happens, and just being yourself. I wasn't going to ask her to be my gf, just ask her out.
Dust Posted April 2, 2011 Posted April 2, 2011 I wasn't going to ask her to be my gf, just ask her out. Well what the heck were you waiting for, Jesus to come post in this thread and tell you to believe in him and everything will be ok. You can’t avoid the risk of rejection. Most of the girls I’ve asked out in my life could have secretly wanted me dead for all I know. It’s not like there were any indicators other then they were willing to talk to me and said yes when I asked them out. Even then girls will go out with you and later decide they don’t like you. Most of the women James Bond loves end up dead or trying to kill him. Point is by waiting the answer to your question changes. It seems like she did like you. The fact she is going out with another guy seems like maybe it’s over. You should still go ahead an ask her out as it might be a one date thing only, this doesn’t make her that guys gf just because they got pizza together or what ever. Ask a girl out sooner then later, even if she says no it will most likely be in a way that confuses things. For instance a girl will act busy and maybe she really is busy or maybe she isn’t. My point is girls usually %99.999 of the time let you down so easy you don’t even realize you’ve been rejected until you’ve gotten bored of hearing how busy they are washing their hair or what ever. You look cool and feel cool for even asking her out. (no need to wallow in despair if she says no or is “busy”) The only sure fire way to approach romance is with confidence to act, instead of fear and self doubt. It’s no big deal if this doesn’t work out. Sounds like you already had a pleasant experience knowing this girl and you shouldn’t let results as in will she, or wont she become your gf ruin that. You’ve already had a cute little romance with this girl, her asking you to meet her for 7th period. Maybe it can go to the next level, you should try, but if it doesn’t work out you’ll always have that. But yes go and give it a shot. Nothing to lose.
Author Dat Guy Posted April 2, 2011 Author Posted April 2, 2011 Well what the heck were you waiting for, Jesus to come post in this thread and tell you to believe in him and everything will be ok. You can’t avoid the risk of rejection. Most of the girls I’ve asked out in my life could have secretly wanted me dead for all I know. It’s not like there were any indicators other then they were willing to talk to me and said yes when I asked them out. Even then girls will go out with you and later decide they don’t like you. Most of the women James Bond loves end up dead or trying to kill him. Point is by waiting the answer to your question changes. It seems like she did like you. The fact she is going out with another guy seems like maybe it’s over. You should still go ahead an ask her out as it might be a one date thing only, this doesn’t make her that guys gf just because they got pizza together or what ever. Ask a girl out sooner then later, even if she says no it will most likely be in a way that confuses things. For instance a girl will act busy and maybe she really is busy or maybe she isn’t. My point is girls usually %99.999 of the time let you down so easy you don’t even realize you’ve been rejected until you’ve gotten bored of hearing how busy they are washing their hair or what ever. You look cool and feel cool for even asking her out. (no need to wallow in despair if she says no or is “busy”) The only sure fire way to approach romance is with confidence to act, instead of fear and self doubt. It’s no big deal if this doesn’t work out. Sounds like you already had a pleasant experience knowing this girl and you shouldn’t let results as in will she, or wont she become your gf ruin that. You’ve already had a cute little romance with this girl, her asking you to meet her for 7th period. Maybe it can go to the next level, you should try, but if it doesn’t work out you’ll always have that. But yes go and give it a shot. Nothing to lose. Well she's been hanging out with this guy even since I met her like since August. She already takes him to school and stuff so I'm hoping for a friendzone. I've stalked both of there facebooks and it says they're single. Didn't see a single picture of them together, and I've never seen them romantically involved. I confronted her about it and she said they were just friends. The worse part is waiting till Monday and I need to do this fast.
Dust Posted April 2, 2011 Posted April 2, 2011 Well she's been hanging out with this guy even since I met her like since August. She already takes him to school and stuff so I'm hoping for a friendzone. I've stalked both of there facebooks and it says they're single. Didn't see a single picture of them together, and I've never seen them romantically involved. I confronted her about it and she said they were just friends. The worse part is waiting till Monday and I need to do this fast. You don’t need to do anything fast. Just be yourself. What it sounds like to me, and correct me if I’m wrong, is you want to ask this girl out, but you were just afraid of getting a “No.” Don’t be afraid. She shouldn’t be asking guys to come spend 7th period with her if she is in a committed relationship. Obviously a relationship may be starting. She’ll just reject you if that’s the case. Things won’t even get weird unless you make them weird. So, just ask her out. Be calm, be cool, and just do it. If its really stressing you out feel free to just forget about all of this.
Author Dat Guy Posted April 2, 2011 Author Posted April 2, 2011 You don’t need to do anything fast. Just be yourself. What it sounds like to me, and correct me if I’m wrong, is you want to ask this girl out, but you were just afraid of getting a “No.” Don’t be afraid. She shouldn’t be asking guys to come spend 7th period with her if she is in a committed relationship. Obviously a relationship may be starting. She’ll just reject you if that’s the case. Things won’t even get weird unless you make them weird. So, just ask her out. Be calm, be cool, and just do it. If its really stressing you out feel free to just forget about all of this. K I can do this, the main thing thats been upholding me is that guy.
Dust Posted April 2, 2011 Posted April 2, 2011 K I can do this, the main thing thats been upholding me is that guy. That other guy may have been holding you up, but now it seems the thought of losing her to him is motivating you.
Author Dat Guy Posted April 2, 2011 Author Posted April 2, 2011 That other guy may have been holding you up, but now it seems the thought of losing her to him is motivating you. Yeah, I really don't want that
Author Dat Guy Posted April 2, 2011 Author Posted April 2, 2011 She's also confused me: Monday- I texted her convo lasted for a decent amount of time and she would continue it Thurday- texted her and the convo lasted longer and she still continued it, like I would text something like lol and she would start up a new topic. She's like texted me first twice and they were at random ass times. I don't think she's not interested because the way she continues the conversations. Do guys always have to make the first move or something?
Dust Posted April 2, 2011 Posted April 2, 2011 She's also confused me: Monday- I texted her convo lasted for a decent amount of time and she would continue it Thurday- texted her and the convo lasted longer and she still continued it, like I would text something like lol and she would start up a new topic. She's like texted me first twice and they were at random ass times. I don't think she's not interested because the way she continues the conversations. Do guys always have to make the first move or something? What are you confused about exactly? What does it matter who makes the first move I thought you wanted to ask her out? I’m guessing you’re a teenager from how lost you sound and the details of your story. Why not ask a man you trust in your life for advice? If you don’t have a father that you can talk to than maybe a coach of yours, or your older brother will do. Talk to some one you trust. The internet isn’t the greatest of places to go for advice when you are this confused about girls. It’s perfectly normal to be confused about all this stuff by the way.
elaina Posted April 2, 2011 Posted April 2, 2011 Texting for three hours? Man up and ask this girl out before you end up in the friend zone. Ask her out immediately!! Don't wait your time is limited. The three hour texting is bordering on friend zone. Yep. What she said.
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