OneLiberalRuca Posted April 1, 2011 Posted April 1, 2011 So my husband decided that we need a little time apart. I am 110% committed to working out our problems but he says he just needs some time to think. I love you are exchanged and bla bla bla. I told him I'd give him his space and for him to reach out to me when he's ready. Let's just say I've been doing a sub-par job of giving him his space. Do I blame myself? Yeah, the 6 page texts 10 times a day probably aren't doing me any favors, but you know who I blame even more? Mark Zuckerberg and whoever invented texting. About ten minutes ago, I decided that seeing him update his Facebook gives me the IRRESISTIBLE urge to immediately send him a Debbie Desperate text. I am going to have to do something very difficult - I am going to have to temporarily disable my Facebook. I updated my status just now letting my people know that in about an hour (enough time for at least some of them to see it), they are going to have to temporarily do without my Lady Gaga quotes, videos of cats, and pissed off political rants. In about 40 minutes, I am going to take the Facebook plunge. Anyone else feel me on this? Technology has royally warped our ability to maintain self-control.
0hpenelope Posted April 1, 2011 Posted April 1, 2011 (edited) Yup! I definitely know where the Facebook dislike's coming from. As for self-control, getting to the level of fighting against looking at the ex's profile and succeeding in that endeavor is possible with Facebook still enabled. You'll be back on it in no time. I hope this route works out well for you! Edited April 1, 2011 by 0hpenelope
Strength of Heart Posted April 1, 2011 Posted April 1, 2011 Remove them from friends and hide any of their friends posts. Disabling it works too, whatever will help you from looking the most. I saw some rough things and it totally turned me off from looking at her profile, not to mention she has been camera whoring since the break up (Has a new profile picture every other day).
radiodarcy Posted April 1, 2011 Posted April 1, 2011 Anyone else feel me on this? Technology has royally warped our ability to maintain self-control. totally! i actually didnt even text until i met him. he was the one who pursued me; sending me tons of texts. and then when he lost interest i was the one who was sending him all the texts. it just got to be too easy to pick up the phone and send a text. but -- i'm proud to say i haven't done so in over a month! and i havent looked at his facebook in four months! i see it as an exercise in self-preservation. whenever i get the urge to text him i remind myself of how i felt when he didn't respond or how when he did respond but it wasn't the response i was hoping for. when i want to take a peek at his facebook i remind myself of how terrible i felt seeing his flirty posts to other girls. and him just being generally upbeat and happy while i'm sitting there miserable missing him. i don't ever want to allow him or anyone else to have that kind of power over me. so i don't give it to him just take it one day at a time. you can triumph over technology - - just ignore it - - at least when it comes to your ex!
D78 Posted April 3, 2011 Posted April 3, 2011 About ten minutes ago, I decided that seeing him update his Facebook gives me the IRRESISTIBLE urge to immediately send him a Debbie Desperate text. I am going to have to do something very difficult - I am going to have to temporarily disable my Facebook. I updated my status just now letting my people know that in about an hour (enough time for at least some of them to see it), they are going to have to temporarily do without my Lady Gaga quotes, videos of cats, and pissed off political rants. In about 40 minutes, I am going to take the Facebook plunge... If this is all you use your FB for, no one will miss you. Let's just say I've been doing a sub-par job of giving him his space. Do I blame myself? Yeah, the 6 page texts 10 times a day probably aren't doing me any favors, but you know who I blame even more? Mark Zuckerberg and whoever invented texting... Anyone else feel me on this? Technology has royally warped our ability to maintain self-control. You keep on blaming technology if that makes you feel better. I think you must be a troll but just in case... My ex is a musician who (1) has his own website, (2) obviously has FB, (3) and likes to post videos of himself on YouTube. We were together more than 11 years. My mom is still friends with him and his father on FB. Guess what I did? I blocked him on FB; I didn't look at his website when I wanted to; I deleted him from my YouTube account and didn't look at his YouTube page when I wanted to. It's that simple. Do you think in the late 1700s, people were blaming Ben Franklin and his darned Postmaster General position? Claude Chappe for his "far writer?" To blame a cell phone or a computer is kind of like saying "I'm fat because there is a grocery store in my city," "I'm an alcoholic because there's a liquor store in my neighborhood," or "I smoke crack because there's a dealer on my corner." As long as you keep pointing your finger at technology, you can continue to ignore the fingers pointing back at you. Yeah, sorry for using an age-old saying, but it's true. I'm sure I sound like a real judgmental jerk, and for that I'm sorry. Maybe from your view, you can't see how illogical it is to blame technology rather than blaming yourself. It is childish to ignore your own mistakes.
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