stevie445 Posted March 31, 2011 Posted March 31, 2011 Hello everyone this is my first post, I'm new here. This may be a little long, but I really would appreciate some feedback from your experience or your opinion on this matter. Okay here's our history. We've been together for 3 yrs, she left me the first year to be with her ex behind my back, but he didn't want her. I took her back and in less than 3 months she left me again and this time she told me she wanted to be with him. She came back crying to me after 2 months later because he cheated on her. She wanted me back. I still loved her and I felt like she learned her lesson. She told me they weren't talking anymore. So 7 months later I went over her place and I ran into her and guess who was with her? her ex... I stopped talking to her again. Although, there was nothing going on between them. He told me he never knew about me and they were friends. The funny thing is she use to tell me that he knew of me :/ He also told me that she planned a getaway vacation for his birthday. I found out from him that they were engaged. He took the ring back. And strangely, she decided she didn't want anything to do with him anymore. She blocked his number and she always told me to call him to see if they were talking. Anyway, I stopped talking to her and she kept trying to get back with me. I never let go and we ended up together again. Okay, so we have been dealing with some issues. We recently broke up. Lately, before that she started to become distant from me. If I call her she wont answer and she mostly responded with a text; she was very brief. She's been going through things at home with her mom who is mentally ill. She's always working and I'm a full time student and I work as a fashion photographer. However, we try to make time together, but as of lately things have been rocky. I notice her mood has changed dramatically, she stopped telling me she loves me. She didn't show much interest in us anymore. So I asked her what was wrong and she said it's the problems at home. I felt really insecure, because she use this as an excuse in the past and I found out she wanted her ex. I never felt too secure after all the lying she did in the past. I asked her if she wanted us to be friends, because I felt that she wanted her space. I was trying to be there for her, but I felt like she just was pushing me away. She agreed for us to be friends, she said it's a bad time. She ask if I could see her over this weekend and I told her I didn't think it was a good idea, since we were having so many differences and I needed time to get over her. She got upset and said that I should be with the models I'm always photographing. She went into a jealous outrage, she said that I'm the one who wants to move on, so I could be with someone else. She said I wasn't being supportive. Then she hung up on me and I text her and I told her that I was going to block her from calling because, she as of lately, she's been doing that a lot. But before i could block her, she blocked me. So I emailed her and told her how immature she was acting, she hasn't responded yet. I told her that she should be a shame of herself for being so jealous.I told her photography is my job, she doesn't like some of the models I worked with because we get along. Every time we weren't talking I had deleted her photos from my portfolio. But since we started talking this time, I never added them back. She says I favor the models over her and she thinks that I want to be with one of them when I don't. I'm so drained.. I think she did me a favor. My question is why did she tell me it was her mom that was stressing her out, then she flips out about my job? Should I leave her alone for good this time? Is there possibly someone else? She said she didn't want to be with anyone right now. She was hoping we could have worked it out. Did I put too much pressure on her? I was just trying to be there for her. I kinda hurts me because I put so much time into a girl that left me so many times and now has left me again, but this time to be alone. I wonder if she will call me again. I just wanted things to workout with us.
freestyle Posted April 1, 2011 Posted April 1, 2011 She lied to you how many times? And you still want her back? It really irks me that she would act suspicious of you, and label you as "unsupportive'. Sounds like projection to me. I think the big question you need to ask yourself , is, "Can you really ever fully trust her again?" Do you want to have a relationship where you have to be looking over your shoulder all the time?
mizliz Posted April 1, 2011 Posted April 1, 2011 Oh honey, if you are drained...you are drained. If a relationship hurts you - distance yourself. If she loves you and wants it to work, she will come around. Don't let this affect your job. We need good fashion photographers Take care.
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