VJohnson32 Posted March 31, 2011 Posted March 31, 2011 So, yeah ... rebound relationships are awful and cruel to both parties. I was with that girl for a little over 2 years. Everything was great and we both loved each other, treated ourselves with respect and all the good stuff that couples go through and do. Anyway, 3 months ago she broke up with me because she said the spark was gone so i already knew she was going through GISG syndrome ...plus i kinda suspected she found someone else but always denied it. The month after the break up i was a wreck and asked her several times if she would reconsider and if shes willing to work it out but always got the same answer which it was no. So i gave up and that was the last time i saw her at the end of Jan. Since then we kept LC since we had shared finances and bills but never saw each other in person. It has been going on for two months now and i totally gave up on her and thought she would be better off without me as well as I. Until recently she called me crying and wanted to see me because she missed me. So i figured it wouldnt hurt, i thought i was over her. So we met up and went out to dinner. I was totally fine until she dropped a bomb on me and told me about a guy shes been seeing 3 weeks after we broke up ... of course alot better patch of grass than me. He had his own business and had 2 houses but was alot older than me and wasnt as good looking, her words. So, we went back to place because she missed my dog and wanted to see it. We talked for a bit more and i was feeling like **** again, however a little after our talk she was all over me kissing me and touching me and all that and she was in a relationship with that guy for over 2 months. I backed out and told her i cant do it and it would be bad for her relationship and she kept saying that wasnt serious with the other guy. Then i completely blew her off and told her to leave and she begged me if we could stay friends and see each other. But after what she did to me and lied to me all this time i dont think i could even have her as my friend... plus she was technically cheating on her new relationship and she never gave herself time to heal properly. I know shes back with him now and their relationship wouldnt last very long and the poor guy will get very hurt once she has gone through all the emotions. Its always a good idea to give yourself time to heal and find your inner selfishness before proceeding onto another relationship. People end up getting hurt. Learn to love yourself before you love somebody else.
JasonRules Posted March 31, 2011 Posted March 31, 2011 So basically, she was fine with you then she meets the older guy who's financially better off thinking he's a better catch and dumps you for the new guy. She probably laid the groundwork before she broke up with you, jumped ship and goes to him. You get pounded due to the break-up, but try to move on. Fast forward some months later and she's already getting bored of the other guy and possibly wants back with you. I swear to God, I can't count how many times I have heard this story. I hate to generalize, but it seems women are more so affected by GIGS than men. With me, I don't need to have a replacement in line to break up with a woman I'm seeing. I just end it because of her and no one else. However, it seems in many cases with women its quite the opposite. They have already found a replacement and dump the current boyfriend in order to try with the new guy. My ex ex girlfriend already had a boyfriend less than 2 weeks after we ended it. In fact, the last phone conversation I had with her was "If I'm that bad for you, go find someone who is perfect" and her reply was "I already have" and hung up the phone on me. I couldn't believe it, but whatever... In any case, I don't think you should take her back for the following reasons: 1. She doesn't love you. If she did, she would have never left you to begin with 2. She is fickle. She meets a new guy and get's all excited and proceeds to dump you. Who's to say you take her back, you marry her, and she divorces you for the same reason? 3. She's technically cheating on her current boyfriend, which means in all likelihood she was cheating on you with him when they first met. All in all sounds like she's unstable. She needs a therapist, not a boyfriend. My advice? Dump her...
poorguy Posted March 31, 2011 Posted March 31, 2011 [quote=JasonRules; My ex ex girlfriend already had a boyfriend less than 2 weeks after we ended it. In fact, the last phone conversation I had with her was "If I'm that bad for you, go find someone who is perfect" and her reply was "I already have" and hung up the phone on me. I couldn't believe it, but whatever... That was harsh my god...I think I've heard something similar to that myself lol.... Can't agree more though about the G.I.G.S. comment though
Iceybreaker Posted April 13, 2011 Posted April 13, 2011 awesome post by jason..your posts always seem logical and insightful to me
Hopeless Girl Posted April 13, 2011 Posted April 13, 2011 So, yeah ... rebound relationships are awful and cruel to both parties. I was with that girl for a little over 2 years. Everything was great and we both loved each other, treated ourselves with respect and all the good stuff that couples go through and do. Anyway, 3 months ago she broke up with me because she said the spark was gone so i already knew she was going through GISG syndrome ...plus i kinda suspected she found someone else but always denied it. The month after the break up i was a wreck and asked her several times if she would reconsider and if shes willing to work it out but always got the same answer which it was no. So i gave up and that was the last time i saw her at the end of Jan. Since then we kept LC since we had shared finances and bills but never saw each other in person. It has been going on for two months now and i totally gave up on her and thought she would be better off without me as well as I. Until recently she called me crying and wanted to see me because she missed me. So i figured it wouldnt hurt, i thought i was over her. So we met up and went out to dinner. I was totally fine until she dropped a bomb on me and told me about a guy shes been seeing 3 weeks after we broke up ... of course alot better patch of grass than me. He had his own business and had 2 houses but was alot older than me and wasnt as good looking, her words. So, we went back to place because she missed my dog and wanted to see it. We talked for a bit more and i was feeling like **** again, however a little after our talk she was all over me kissing me and touching me and all that and she was in a relationship with that guy for over 2 months. I backed out and told her i cant do it and it would be bad for her relationship and she kept saying that wasnt serious with the other guy. Then i completely blew her off and told her to leave and she begged me if we could stay friends and see each other. But after what she did to me and lied to me all this time i dont think i could even have her as my friend... plus she was technically cheating on her new relationship and she never gave herself time to heal properly. I know shes back with him now and their relationship wouldnt last very long and the poor guy will get very hurt once she has gone through all the emotions. Its always a good idea to give yourself time to heal and find your inner selfishness before proceeding onto another relationship. People end up getting hurt. Learn to love yourself before you love somebody else. I dont wanna say I smell bull**** but I smell bull****.... ur just happy shes in a rebound relationship that is not gonna work and that she wants u back.... but good 4 u... glad u could move ooonn and totally not care...
timchambo Posted April 13, 2011 Posted April 13, 2011 I dont wanna say I smell bull**** but I smell bull****.... ur just happy shes in a rebound relationship that is not gonna work and that she wants u back.... but good 4 u... glad u could move ooonn and totally not care... I think most anybody would be happy about that. I don't see what the bull**** is. He is right. I have been on several dates since my breakup. Logic tells me they are FAR better catches than my ex, but I know I am not ready for anything serious. I am far to eager to please a woman just for some affection in return.
Hopeless Girl Posted April 13, 2011 Posted April 13, 2011 I think most anybody would be happy about that. I don't see what the bull**** is. He is right. I have been on several dates since my breakup. Logic tells me they are FAR better catches than my ex, but I know I am not ready for anything serious. I am far to eager to please a woman just for some affection in return. WHAT! He totally feels bad for the guy bla bla... I feel bad for them bla bla please... he's probably pleased she wants him back and is now miserable without him.. cause if it werent like that this would be his story Title:I hate my ex girlfriend Message: My ex girlfriend does not contact me and is totally over me. The other day I saw her and she happily introduced me to her new boyfriend. I texted her and she tells me its over for good.. I hate her I wish she would die THE END ..hence not truly love anyways... look its bullcrap.. im reading it with my own eyes.. the title should be called bullcrap..
Author VJohnson32 Posted April 13, 2011 Author Posted April 13, 2011 WHAT! He totally feels bad for the guy bla bla... I feel bad for them bla bla please... he's probably pleased she wants him back and is now miserable without him.. cause if it werent like that this would be his story Title:I hate my ex girlfriend Message: My ex girlfriend does not contact me and is totally over me. The other day I saw her and she happily introduced me to her new boyfriend. I texted her and she tells me its over for good.. I hate her I wish she would die THE END ..hence not truly love anyways... look its bullcrap.. im reading it with my own eyes.. the title should be called bullcrap.. How old are you? Learn to control your temper and aggression. As I have showed you by not responding to your insulting reply in the other post. Shows maturity. Even if it was a misunderstanding, you should have handled it differently if you were over the age of 25...
nana841121 Posted April 13, 2011 Posted April 13, 2011 I guess, in some level, men are not so different from women My ex did the exactly same thing as in a rebound relationship
Hopeless Girl Posted April 13, 2011 Posted April 13, 2011 How old are you? Learn to control your temper and aggression. As I have showed you by not responding to your insulting reply in the other post. Shows maturity. Even if it was a misunderstanding, you should have handled it differently if you were over the age of 25... Temper and agression? I just call it like it is... Im 23 thank u... thnk u for callin me hopeless mature man ... and no this is not a "i wanna get back at u cause u called me hopeless" comment ... i just think ur letter is bullcrap
Hopeless Girl Posted April 13, 2011 Posted April 13, 2011 dont criticize and stay hopeless... so mature .... good luck
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