z00m25 Posted March 31, 2011 Posted March 31, 2011 Hello all. So last saturday my ex finally texted me. We broke up jan 11th and i was absolutely devastated at first. She had cheated on me one night and lied about some things but whatever it didnt work out. She convinced me to come out with her yesterday..and we both actually had a good time. At the end of the night tho i was like look we need to talk. you ****ed me over hardcore, why havent i heard from you since you came to get your things ( as we were living together in another state) and she said she felt i didnt care so she didnt bother. i tried for the first 3 days begging her to come back, then found this site and EVERYONE says to go NC so i did. she texted me in feb once. "happy bday" but other than that saturday was the first i heard from her. she found out i moved back home i guess and thats what started it. so we went out last night and as i said did not bring up the relationship and the past once. i had the biggest smile on my face the entire time, and actually felt like myself once again. we then got dinner and everything was good until some chick she hates texted me and she saw it but we got over that in about 5 min. then as i said as i took back her back to her car that we needed to talk. and as i said the above^^ my response was honestly after the third day getting no where i felt what was the point? and i broke it down how i found out about her cheating on me and everything else and i had her basically in tears (it felt great guess she is human after all) and then right as she was at her saddest point im like ok well im going to meet some friends for a drink i had fun tonite and said bye. she definatly wanted me to kiss her but i just smiled and drove off into the sunset (i must be looking alot better than i thought). she texted me at the bar which i ignored until i got home, she hadent talked to me like that since the first few months we dated. and she texted me again today and she wants me to come over..AND spend the night. i am being extremely cautious in what i say to her and told her maybe someday i would consider forgiving her. i had never received an apology before and i got it last night. but im not sure how to handle things. ALL of my friends and her friends have told us to stay away from each other but i dont know. she was the only girl i ever loved and i know why it didnt work out now and our breakup was honestly the best thing for both of us. i had seriously let myself go while we lived together and weighed 212 now im back down to 185 and going to the gym consistantly. i have made it loud and clear to her that my body, my friends, and my job are my top priorities and basically i will maybe talk to her when i have free time. but i told her id come out with her tonite i am looking for some advice as to what to do..i have tried dating other people and am getting no where. i thought i was happy while she took advantage of me but having this new cocky sort of ******* atitude around her makes me feel like i am holding all the cards for once. i will definatly not ask for her back and would make her do all the work and at the same time put up a bit of a fight but its clear shes not over me. thoughts please...
2011 Posted March 31, 2011 Posted March 31, 2011 Can I ask what kind of things she said to you when you were trying to get back with her, what did she say to finish with you, was it clear cut? Also I would be careful about going to hers and sleeping with her, wait a while until you both know where you stand and she aint looking for FWB unless that is what you want! 2011
Author z00m25 Posted March 31, 2011 Author Posted March 31, 2011 she said we needed a break and that everything happened for a reason and if we were ment to get back together it would happen or some junk. and i wouldnt do that if thats what she was looking for. maybe once for closure but im looking for someone to spend the rest of my life with honestly. anddd she had my ring on when we hung out which i told her was sick haha but apparently shes been wearing it around lately who knows if thats true..
Author z00m25 Posted April 4, 2011 Author Posted April 4, 2011 well since noones said much ive been going on myself. she wants to get back together. im not going to lie it feels weird being with her knowing that she cheating on me and all...but honestly being around her im happier than ive been since we broke up...but its always in the back of my mind everytime i see her. i told her we could get back together but nothing like that could ever happen again and told her how important my friends are now to me and my job, my school, and going to the gym. idk what to do because shes been a party animal recently but she has apologized and appears to be truly sorry about the whole thing, and says if we get back together it would be for good...think im going to see what happens and where it ends up. i asked her to take an std test and she agreed just to be safe..
VJohnson32 Posted April 4, 2011 Posted April 4, 2011 Sounds good, hope everything works out for you...once a cheater, always a cheater dude... Will see you on here in a few months
timchambo Posted April 4, 2011 Posted April 4, 2011 how long were you together? Do you really feel 3 months is enough time for you to know there are no other potentially better women out there? I don't think you have given yourself enough time to get over the RL, and are jumping in too soon. I am going through the same deal man, but I don't know how I could ever forgive a girl that did that.
Author z00m25 Posted April 5, 2011 Author Posted April 5, 2011 we were together for 2 years. and yeah im really pissed about her cheating. i dont look at her the same way as i did. im prepared to walk away but am def in a better mood when im around her. im putting about 1/4th the effort in that i did before and made it clear that my friends come first and that im not spending a dime on her.
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