FaithInTheDark Posted March 31, 2011 Posted March 31, 2011 I have a great boyfriend, he works away from home weeks at a time. It was been 4 weeks since we have last been together. Usually in the past our communitcation has been great and I felt close to him even thou he was not around. We talked everyday thru text or phone calls. But these past few weeks it doesnt feel the same at all. He works long hours and I understand he is usually tired. I am trying to be a good girlfriend and deal with his absense. sometimes he wont get back to me due to excuses like falling asleep, leavin his phone somewhere, feeling sick, being out with friends etc. now im sure these are legit reasons but it seems to be a on going thing. We havent had a phone conversation in weeks. I told him i dont want to drift away, and he tells he how much he cares about us. I dont have any friends in the area nor much to do to keep myself busy. I also didnt hear from him in 3 days at all..he finally got back to me sayin he left his phone at work and has been sick. I suppose it is a good reason, but i feel lately this just isnt enough. If you expect your girlfriend to remain faithful and wait for your return you should make a huge effort to make her feel loved. Anyways, Im just wondering if theres anything I can do to keep the trill alive like how things used to be, how can i get him to wonder about me instead of me always being the one to want to talk. thank you
creighton0123 Posted March 31, 2011 Posted March 31, 2011 Leaving your phone somewhere, feeling sick, and falling asleep when consistently used are not good reasons. They're excuses. They're signs, despite obvious evidence, that he is lazy when it comes to his personal life. Sure, he works long hours. Most of us do. Both of you sound like you won't be extremely happy until he steps up and stops using the "I'm tired" excuse when it comes to all matters of his personal life. There's always time enough to sleep. If he can't find time within a few weeks to pick up the phone and call you, he's being fairly rude. No one is that busy. Be up front, calm, and honest. Tell him that you expect him to show more attention. You're not asking for hour long calls every day. You're asking for a call or email here or there to let you know that he's alright.
folieadeux Posted April 1, 2011 Posted April 1, 2011 I agree; these aren't good reasons at all...they're excuses. And the same ones at that over and over again. It takes two seconds to give someone a call, send a quick message or email. If he's unwilling to do even these basic things to keep your relationship going, then I think you really need to re-evaluate things.
Sebstian Posted April 1, 2011 Posted April 1, 2011 Sounds to me that he could be seeing somebody else... sorry to be pessimistic, but is it the same town he works in every time he leaves? Under all circumstances is it a bad sign with all the excuses, I'd try to get him to lay the cards on the table.
hoping2heal Posted April 5, 2011 Posted April 5, 2011 I have a great boyfriend, he works away from home weeks at a time. It was been 4 weeks since we have last been together. Usually in the past our communitcation has been great and I felt close to him even thou he was not around. We talked everyday thru text or phone calls. But these past few weeks it doesnt feel the same at all. He works long hours and I understand he is usually tired. I am trying to be a good girlfriend and deal with his absense. sometimes he wont get back to me due to excuses like falling asleep, leavin his phone somewhere, feeling sick, being out with friends etc. now im sure these are legit reasons but it seems to be a on going thing. We havent had a phone conversation in weeks. I told him i dont want to drift away, and he tells he how much he cares about us. I dont have any friends in the area nor much to do to keep myself busy. I also didnt hear from him in 3 days at all..he finally got back to me sayin he left his phone at work and has been sick. I suppose it is a good reason, but i feel lately this just isnt enough. If you expect your girlfriend to remain faithful and wait for your return you should make a huge effort to make her feel loved. Anyways, Im just wondering if theres anything I can do to keep the trill alive like how things used to be, how can i get him to wonder about me instead of me always being the one to want to talk. thank you You can't force someone to have feelings about you. He does not make you a priority and if he wanted to talk to you, he would. I work, and go to school full time. DF works 12-16 hour days almost constantly and we still talk daily and find a way to spend time with eachother. Actions speak louder than words for a reason. You are absolutely right, if you expect to have a girlfriend waiting for you, then you should give her a reason to want to be with you.
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