SJC2008 Posted March 31, 2011 Posted March 31, 2011 I'll try to keep it short. Ran into a girl on a social network site I hung out with a few years back. We went to the same HS but didn't know each other until we hung out a couple years later with mutual friends. We kept running into each other through are friends, about 3 times in a weeks span. I thought she was awesome, then never saw her again unitl now. We started chating back and forth and I said we should go out sometime to get to know eachother again. She said that was a great idea and gave me her #. We talked about 20 min and planned to go out in a week. I told her ill call her the day before with the details. I called,she didnt answer or call me back, the next morning i texted her that i didnt know if she got my vm but how do you feel about tonight. She replied back and said she got the msg late and didnt want to call too late and she has to work late (i know things change but she said that would be a good day) but can I meet her for lunch. I told her I had to work so just call or text me when she can make the time, no rush. I wasnt approaching it as a date but as a pre-date if you will to see if there would be mutual interest, I did like her alot. Should I wait for her since I kinda put the ball in her court and if so how long or should i call her?
MistaDynamic Posted March 31, 2011 Posted March 31, 2011 I told her I had to work so just call or text me when she can make the time, no rush. You should have not done that. You should have told her you would call her at a certain time to make plans. Such as "Ill call you tonight @9pm so we can make plan for our date". Leaving it in her court makes you seem like friend not a potential romantic partner. I know you're trying to come off as too eager but instead you coming off as too "friend"-like. I wasnt approaching it as a date but as a pre-date if you will to see if there would be mutual interest, I did like her alot. Should I wait for her since I kinda put the ball in her court and if so how long or should i call her? huh? pre-date? There's no pre date either you want bang this broad or you don't. Either you like her personality or you don't. There's no predate! You either want to hook something with this woman or don't. I don't know when you texted her ,you didn't mention when this happened, but wait 48 hours and contact her....Call her. If you reach her voice mail: leave a message for her to call you back the next day at a certain time. No wishy washy "call me tomorrow" say "Call me tomorrow @ 11am". If she doesn't respond move on.
Author SJC2008 Posted April 1, 2011 Author Posted April 1, 2011 (edited) Now that you put it that way i guess it was wrong to put it on her and say no rush but I was trying to play it cool and did not want to come on too strong. It's been a couple of days and she hast replied yet. Ill call her but how do i put out the fire about the no rush? What do i say? Edited April 1, 2011 by SJC2008
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