angie16 Posted March 31, 2011 Posted March 31, 2011 So I'm a 31 year old woman, I have been dating a great guy for 6 weeks. We knew each other for a good amount of time through his sister who is a very good friend of mine. In any case we've already made plans for memorial day weekend (going away together) and he's throwing his birthday party in at my own gala next friday (so I'll meet all the rest of his friends). He buys me flowers, pays for dinner ( i have never been pampered like this). But there is one snag. He doesn't call - like rarely EVER. he'll text to make the next date or to tell me the next day that he had a great time but he doesn't call to make small talk. We are not exclusive (even though i really really want to have the talk soon). This is driving me crazy. I feel like -- who is he talking to then? when he's not with me is he out or on the phone with someone else -- catching up on her day? I really can't deal with hearing one more time ("you're great....but..."). I wish i hadn't let this guy into my heart. I like him a lot and now i feel like he's not into me. Guys when you are newly dating someone -- if you're not calling in between dates -- what does that mean? I have tried calling him several times, he always picks up and tells me it's good to hear from me and we chat for a bit. But he hasnt' made it a habit on his end AT ALL.
MistaDynamic Posted March 31, 2011 Posted March 31, 2011 So basically because this guy has a life and doesn't like small talk there's a problem? I don't EVER call any of my women to small talk. Small talk is for people with small minds. Did I care how my woman's is day went.....nope? Did i care about her...yep. Did I enjoy spending time with her...yep. Talking means way more to women than men. Alot men like myself hate small talk it has nothing to do with a guy's feeling towards his woman. Unless this guy is chatterbox with any and everybody I would assume he doesn't like small talk and/or talking on the phone. I know I don't.
xpaperxcutx Posted March 31, 2011 Posted March 31, 2011 I don't like small talk myself and often only ever text and call my SO to make plans. I wouldn't complain about his behaviour if his interest level in you has been consistent with a person ready for an LTR. However, if he starts to deviate from the norm such as fading out or avoiding you altogether, that is when you can jump ship and walk. Does he have a busy job?
Hules Posted March 31, 2011 Posted March 31, 2011 Small talk over the phone/text I honestly hate I only use it to make plans. I don't mind a bit of small talk but mostly I prefer saving that stuff for when I see them in person. I will tell you now most guys hate talking on the phone/text unless they are the clingy needy type.
Dust Posted March 31, 2011 Posted March 31, 2011 If there was a date set for some future time within a week or so, I see no reason for small talk. It runs the chance of making the guy seem annoying if he calls with nothing more than “what’s up?” Although it can be seen as romantic to give a woman a random call just to let her know she’s on your mind. As for "the relationship talk" feel free to let him know you want more. Guys often want more too, but feel its best to move slow. He’s obviously doing something right because he seems to have you right where he wants you.
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