Wogs11 Posted March 31, 2011 Posted March 31, 2011 I'm really struggling tonight. NC for 5 weeks and really happy about that. But I heard a song tonight that reminded me of him, then I went into my emails and read all the 'nice' emails from him which made it worse. Also, his fiance's birthday is on Saturday, and the thought of him spending it with her and buying her gifts, flowers etc absolutely kills. I miss that person that he was with me. I know he's a total Jerk and not worth it, I'm Just really struggling tonight and I hate feeling this way
smudge21 Posted March 31, 2011 Posted March 31, 2011 You need to delete all those emails (and Facebook if you have him as a friend still). Trust me, you're only hurting yourself more by having them to hand. I kept all my ex's texts and used to read them. For a short time it would make me feel good, but then you remember that they're part of the past. A past that has gone, and then the hurt would come back only twice as bad. You truly do need to remove any and all contact you have with your ex before you can ever hope to start moving on. I thought I had started moving on but realised I was still holding out hope by having her still on Facebook. Now that's all gone and I no longer know anything about her life. That's how it should be too. As for songs reminding you, then stuff like that will always happen. I got a new job and it's right next to a bar where we first met - seeing that every day (especially with summer approaching) really hurts, but with each day it's getting that little bit easier. Things do get better, but first you've got to move on and put the past where it belongs, in the past.
Fufu Posted March 31, 2011 Posted March 31, 2011 Woo hoo, 5 weeks of NC, that's worth a great celebration, have a great feast I agree with Smudge21, delete all these past e-mails from him, they don't represent of how he treat you in this present situation. You can do it
SingVoice Posted March 31, 2011 Posted March 31, 2011 Good for you though for not breaking NC!!! That shows how strong you are! It's always hard. There will ALWAYS be things that remind us of certain people. Anytime I see a wind turbine I think about one of my exes. Weird. Eventually though you can detach from the hurt and remember it as a learning experience. My advice to you is DON'T think about his fiance or whatever. Just don't go there.
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